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anyone else think mn aint friendly anymore?

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scottishmumto1 · 04/06/2005 20:43

i feel it aint the same it used to be.too cliquey. i tried to offer wee bit of help and advice earlier to other mnetter and basically got ignored, but when another one of the clique offered advice she was all, thanks yous and asking how she was.
no gratitude these days

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MistressMary · 04/06/2005 21:10

Well I post anyway regardless if anyone reads or not.
And I say thanks to people who have answered my threads.

expatinscotland · 04/06/2005 21:10

I don't find it unfriendly. A lot of times, it depends on what time of day you post as to the responses you get.

huggybear · 04/06/2005 21:10

i dont think mn is unfriendly at all. ive made rl friends with people from here and also done nice things with our kids like penpals and stuff. also when i needed abit of support i was amazed at the number of people who emailed and called. it just takes time to get to know people as it would in any situation. there will be people you get on with better than others and people you identify with. just give it time.

PinkFluffPudding · 04/06/2005 21:10

Scottishmum i haven't been on here long either and so far this cliqueyness (sp?) hasn't bothered me. i do sometimes find the chummy-chumminess a bit naff and notice that certain people get more responses than others purely because they're better known. But no one knows me personally here and i have plenty of friends in real life who do know me and like me for who i actually am! I use MN if i need advice or as a diversion for a bit of idle chit chat during the day, not to make bosom buddies!

P.S. LGJ your points are valid but easy to say if you know you've got friends on here that'll back you up/ not flame you!

jessicasmummy · 04/06/2005 21:11

i hear you MM!

Just get in on as many threads as you can and get your name recognised.

I've been on MN for nearly 8 months now, and only really the last few weeks got any sort of connection with anyone!!!

JoolsToo · 04/06/2005 21:12

"too cliquey"

hercules · 04/06/2005 21:13

I honestly dont think there is a clique here either.

MistressMary · 04/06/2005 21:13

Yeah get a reputation !!
Not that it worries me that much really.
I remeber you from the beginning though JM.

jessicasmummy · 04/06/2005 21:14

MM - does help that we have met each other!!!

mummygow · 04/06/2005 21:16

scottishmumto1 the girls are right, dont take it personally. I dont get loads of replies to my threads but then again I dont really start a lot and I used to take it personally(because I made an a* of myself a while back about my nickname and that was after being a member for 2 years) and I thought people had judged me, but as I said the girls are right - I dont respond to every thread because maybe I dont think I have the right advise just enjoy and appreciate the help and support you do get!!

MistressMary · 04/06/2005 21:16

Oh yeah!!! hehe.

SoupDragon · 04/06/2005 21:16

I have threads and replies tht get ignored too. Doesn't mean it's cliquey, just that something's not been noticed. In fact, I had one where I was the onlyreply and the original poster just posted to bump her thread after I'd commented. Never acknowledged me at all.

LGJ · 04/06/2005 21:18

PinkFluffPudding

I have only got friends on here, because I stuck at it .

I, along with most MN'ers have RL friends, but find it interesting to tap into the diverstiy on here.

Yesterday, I was madder than a bag of frogs with my DH, then I came on and read Delgirls Bittersweet post and it put it all into perspective.

I posted something that may help her in the long run, if we form a friendship on line out of that, is that another clique ??

WigWamBam · 04/06/2005 21:22

I do sometimes wonder who the perceived cliques are. It's just like RL, sometimes you get on well with people, sometimes you see them a lot and get to know them; sometimes you don't see people passing by and don't spot their posts, and sometimes you don't want to talk to anyone at all.

Dior · 04/06/2005 21:25

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SoupDragon · 04/06/2005 21:27

It's no different to RL IMHO.

(found the thread where I was ignored BTW. She just posted "bump" after my comment without a word of thanks or anything.)

Dior · 04/06/2005 21:28

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WigWamBam · 04/06/2005 21:29

Sometimes posts cross as well, so someone may actually miss the fact that you have posted at the same time.

HappyMumof2 · 04/06/2005 21:29

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tamum · 04/06/2005 21:30

I've seen a couple like that Soupy. It's so rude.

I don't think it's clique because the word has such negative conotations. There are natural groupings of friends on here, but it's not as if everyone knew each other from somewhere else. Everyone just had to start at some point. I rarely comment on Member profiles either, it always ends up sounding sycophantic if I do.

SoupDragon · 04/06/2005 21:34

Nooooo, not posting a link - not kind on the original poster. Wasn't crossed posts because the bump was 2 hours after I posted. No one else replied though.

I could easily be considered in the "clique" by virtue of having been here so long (and on here constantly!) but I still get ignored sometimes. That's life unfortunately. Stick around, SMO2, it's not as bad as you make out, honest.

Mog · 04/06/2005 21:35

I think a few years ago the conversations used to be more interesting - I've noticed now that more serious discussions tend to fade and the more silly topics seem to get a lot of posts. To me it means that mn has got a bit boring. And some of the topic titles - which tend to be set up by the same small group of people - always make me think these people are spending far too mch time on non-RL things.

HappyMumof2 · 04/06/2005 21:35

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2kidsandahubby · 04/06/2005 21:35

Hi Guys, i'm new on here, please forgive me for being really thick but what does IMHO mean?? thanx - sorry you can carry on now

SoupDragon · 04/06/2005 21:37

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