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My neighbours are ar**holes...... had to call the police

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sparklymieow · 10/05/2005 17:57

went to my mum's to sort out their internet and got a call from my DH, very shaken and he said that the neighbours had been round and threaten him and were standing outside and not to come home I phoned the police from my mums and came straight home, I leaped out and told my neighbour that he had no right to threaten anyone and to make them feel like this, he called me a thing and that I should just get into my 'dirty' house.... my mum got out and said to him that she was sorry for shouting over the fence on sunday and that the arguement was with her and not us.... he told us to get off 'his' garden (not his its his parents house) and started to push me, at which point my dad jumped between us, and he said that he would flatten my dad!!! I said the plice were on their way, and he said that if they did come I wouldn't be living here much longer....... I went into the house and phoned the council and said that I want to make a complaint about the neighbours. The police turned up then and spoke to us, they had already been next door, and he said that they had missed out lots of information, I went and got the kids from scool whil the police were next door and broke down in the office...... I jus want a quiet life, wh is it that wherever I go, there is trouble

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sparklymieow · 12/05/2005 00:16

I did ask if I would 2 lots of medical points because of having two with cerebral palsy ad they said no...!!?? Surely they would have to take both childrens problems into account

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tiffini · 12/05/2005 00:19

unbelievable is'nt it, the points scheme never makes any sense to me.

tiffini · 12/05/2005 00:21

will have to say night night, DH wants to go to sleep, he is on the sofa tonight (where pc is)

hope you get a good nights sleep

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sparklymieow · 12/05/2005 00:23

last time we were moved from a very unsuitable house, we only had DS, we then moved here and had DD1, the extention was done on an assessment on Ds but Dd1s needs weren't taken into account then, so in theory they knew that this could happen...

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Chandra · 12/05/2005 02:19

Mieow, have just seen this thread. I'm sorry you are going through this as I know how frustrating and stressful is to have a bad neighbour. I really hope the police can deal with the matter promptly. HAve you considered asking around if people could help you by writing letteres to the HA or the police to put pressure for the resolution of the matter? I'm sure many of us here will be happy to do that for you.

hub2dee · 12/05/2005 07:45

Do post when you've seen your housing officer. And maybe do some sniffing around the rules for points allowance regarding the disabilities... it seems ludicrous they don't count 2 X for your kids.

(I'd try and get hold of the documentation they use to allocate points... Be one step ahead of them !)

BTW, some kind of supporting letter for your doctor regardng the stress your living situation might be putting you under (from being next to ape man), might assist things...

You keep going sparkly !

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sparklymieow · 12/05/2005 07:56

had a really bad nights sleep, couldn't get to sleep and then DD2 woke up and was unsettled all night, DH is still in bed, he really isn't helping in this situation, I'm expected to carry on and do everything, but he is just cowering in the house, he is supposed to be the man, and protecting us but he isn't

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Hermione1 · 12/05/2005 07:58

I'm sorry you're having such a hard time, hope you can get this sorted,

kick dh out of bed!!

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sparklymieow · 12/05/2005 07:59

I'm going to scream at him soon..

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Hermione1 · 12/05/2005 08:01

Were we used to live we had a crappy neighbour and dhleft it to me to deal with so have a good idea on how you're feeling. You feel everything is on your shoulders don't you??

Mind you, not much better here, had our bathroom window shot with an air riffle!!

hub2dee · 12/05/2005 08:08

sparkly - is he being lazy or scared ?

Perhaps he can assist (with prodding) to do his fair share of the legwork / phoning around / learning about all the points allowance stuff etc. ?

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sparklymieow · 12/05/2005 09:36

he is sprailing into depression, as I am..... scared to leave the house, housing officer is phoning me today, and the Service services OT is phoing me today too.

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assumedname · 12/05/2005 09:53

Don't want to upset you sparklymieow - but I wondered if you ought to get the GP out to see your dh? It sounds like he's hiding from the world and it reminded me of a situation I had a few years ago when my dh couldn't get any work. He stayed in bed, didn't want to do anything and it really wound me up.
I was so angry that I made him decorate the kids' bedroom with me, even though he wasn't feeling well.

It's only when I look back on it that I think he was having a massive stress attack or something similar.

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sparklymieow · 12/05/2005 09:56

am waiting for the CAB to open, so I can phone them, I think that is a good idea AN, will phone the doctor soon, he was threatened with being dragged off in car and done in..

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sparklymieow · 12/05/2005 10:05

would the council have grounds to move us even if this house is suitable to our needs??

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Chandra · 12/05/2005 10:15

I'm not quite sure how suitable it is TBH. If all your family is going through tremendous strees, it doesn't seem very suitable to me. I wonder why on Earth the authorities are so patient with the jerks while the people who really need help needs to cope on their own

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sparklymieow · 12/05/2005 10:19

Not sure what to do, if we stay and fight them with log forms, complaints ec, his mates will still make our lifes hell if we managed to get them evited, and if we move its a huge upheavel for the kids, Ds doesn' wnat to move at all, which is why I am willing to move into anything atm in the town.

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expatinscotland · 12/05/2005 10:21

i agree, chandra. some folks are given a nice home we would have loved to have, and treat it and their neighbours like crap. sorry, but IMO, if you're a 'neighbour from hell' like that, you deserve to be evicted and not re-housed. honestly, why should the rest of the decent people forced to live around these thugs have to suffer?

Chandra · 12/05/2005 10:23

Hey!, wait a little bit, the chances that this guy ends back in prison anyway in a few days time are very high. But keep your eyes open in case you see other house.

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sparklymieow · 12/05/2005 10:30

he knows about the system though and isn't get done for anything, I want to get away now..

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hub2dee · 12/05/2005 10:32

Sparkly: I wrote this half an hour ago and then a phone call came in, so couldn't post it. I've seen some good advice since, but rather than re-edit it, I'll post 'as is' - I'm pleased you're already doing some of things I'm suggesting...

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I would suggest that you work on your GP then, to get two statements about the situation affecting your and your dh's health.

If there are further incidents of any kind, report it to the police and ask for them to issue a crime number (which you need to record) so you start building up a record of the abuse experience.

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sparklymieow · 12/05/2005 10:38

excellent advice H2D as always, the CAB is jus going to answer phone atm, have to go to DD1 school tday to discuss her edacation needs, haven't had time to even think about it...

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hub2dee · 12/05/2005 10:45

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sparklymieow · 12/05/2005 10:48

DH won't go out the house, would a doctor come round???

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sparklymieow · 12/05/2005 11:10

DH is making me nervous now.....

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