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My neighbours are ar**holes...... had to call the police

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sparklymieow · 10/05/2005 17:57

went to my mum's to sort out their internet and got a call from my DH, very shaken and he said that the neighbours had been round and threaten him and were standing outside and not to come home I phoned the police from my mums and came straight home, I leaped out and told my neighbour that he had no right to threaten anyone and to make them feel like this, he called me a thing and that I should just get into my 'dirty' house.... my mum got out and said to him that she was sorry for shouting over the fence on sunday and that the arguement was with her and not us.... he told us to get off 'his' garden (not his its his parents house) and started to push me, at which point my dad jumped between us, and he said that he would flatten my dad!!! I said the plice were on their way, and he said that if they did come I wouldn't be living here much longer....... I went into the house and phoned the council and said that I want to make a complaint about the neighbours. The police turned up then and spoke to us, they had already been next door, and he said that they had missed out lots of information, I went and got the kids from scool whil the police were next door and broke down in the office...... I jus want a quiet life, wh is it that wherever I go, there is trouble

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Evesmama · 12/05/2005 23:12

we moved from our first house mainly because of shitty neighbours...hate them for it, but couldnt stand it anymore and ended up making a fortune before downsizing again(to same area sadley, but not near them!)

you'll make yorself ill staying there...why should you wake up every day expecting a fight or fearing for yours and your families safety

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sparklymieow · 12/05/2005 23:13

The housing officer said I have to phone the homeless people tomorrow, not sure how they will help TBH, as I'm not homeless...

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Freckle · 13/05/2005 05:01

A person who is the victim of anti-social behaviour may have become homeless or be threatened with homelessness because they can no longer live in their accommodation. If this is the case, they should apply as homeless to the local authority. The Homelessness Code of Guidance states that people who have been victims of violence, abuse or harassment on grounds of their gender, race, religion or ethnic or national origin are vulnerable and therefore in priority need. The Code of Guidance is statutory and it may be helpful to get hold of a copy of this. Actually see here . It takes a little while to load.

Homelessness doesn't always mean that you do not have a roof over your head. It means that you cannot continue to live where you are. This is why it is important to log every single little incident and to write down how it affects each member of your family as you can use this as evidence to show that it is impossible for your family to remain in your current home.

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sparklymieow · 13/05/2005 10:44

phoned the homeless dept. and she said that she is going to phone our housing officer to see about getting an emergancy tranfer in this town, but she did say that we would be able to go to the next towns council (about 15 mins. on the motorway) and get emergancy housing there. She said that we can't live here under the threat of violence and intimadation. I told her about my kids disabilities and DH'd depression and that he has selfharmed in the past and if we stay here there is a strong chance he will restart.

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sparklymieow · 13/05/2005 10:49

also said that I really need to stay in the area because of respite care, schools, hospitals, etcetc, but we can't stay round here or near the town because of someone there who had beat Dh up recently, on my doorstep, because of his girlfriend.... long story..

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expatinscotland · 13/05/2005 10:54

Glad you're getting somewhere, sparkly. It's nice to know there is some help in your area for folks with anti-social neighbours. In our council, we were completely fobbed off so we just had to move on our own.

Thing is, they'll move another family into your old home and not move the anti-social neighbour.

That gets my dander up! Why should decent folks continue to suffer at the hands of thugs?

Some folks honestly don't deserve the home they are given.

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sparklymieow · 13/05/2005 10:56

does worry me TBH, as this is a disabled adapted home (thanks to us!!) and the council might put someone here who can't fight back IYKWIM.

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sparklymieow · 13/05/2005 11:12

hope she can do something..... if she says they have something now I will ask my mum to look after the kids while we get everything out..... come on, phone me!!!

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misdee · 13/05/2005 11:34

i'm going out with mum in a bit mieow.

misdee · 13/05/2005 12:12

mieow has gone to the police station to get a letter for a different council to try and get rehoused there. i hope she gets something sorted ASAP as she cant carry on like she has. she has so much to deal with already without this w*nker making their lives hell.

hub2dee · 13/05/2005 12:18

I agree misdee. Sparkly, dh and the kids can't live like this.

Of course we know in an ideal world it's apeman that needs to move, but of primary concern is the family's physical safety, and I'd suggest the secondary conern is their mental well being.

A move, even if stressful, would be the best way to deal with this immediately.

I am astounded at how horrible this situation is, sparkly, and think you've done a fine job at calling round and hassling everyone, and fighting for your rights.

You're a brave woman, and I hope your move goes well, and that the new place works out for everyone.

Thinking of you. XXX

misdee · 13/05/2005 12:22

i really wish i could offer some help, but my place is soooooooo small. i barely have enough room for my 3 kids so cant even offer to have theirs overnight.

she'll be back later to update you i'm sure.

hub2dee · 13/05/2005 12:33

No doubt... and I wasn't sitting here thinking 'why doesn't misdee help'.

Is Serena still a bit grog off the second hand stuff, misdee... is she OK ? Did you get a chance to confirm with GP this is OK and that there wouldn't be a better one ? Hope YOU'RE alright too.

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sparklymieow · 13/05/2005 12:33

am back... have to wait for the local support officer to phone me so I can go there and see him. Appartently the officers that attendd the other day filed it as a civil dispute, but she did say that it can be classed as hasserment (sp??) Still shakey and feel sick in my tummy contantly..

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misdee · 13/05/2005 12:34

she seems fine and verty hungry. not been able to get hold of the HV so will wait til lweds. probably serena just scaring me lol.

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sparklymieow · 13/05/2005 12:36

Need to phone the doctors now.....

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misdee · 13/05/2005 12:36

good luck hunny.

wil lcal lyou tonight, or you can get me on the mobile before if u need us. might be able to watch some kids this evening if dh doesnt come home.

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sparklymieow · 13/05/2005 12:37

don't worry to much, haven't seen them today at all, maybe they have been arrested (hopeful look)

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misdee · 13/05/2005 12:38

your kids have been arrested???

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sparklymieow · 13/05/2005 12:39

lol

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hub2dee · 13/05/2005 12:39

Blimey, it doesn't stop, sparkly... Freckle seems to be knowledgable about all this, but I'd have though filing it as harassment was better than as a 'civil dispute'... I think it is about moving your claim from a civil matter to a legal / police matter.

I'd go for harassment because that's what it is, and it would be a stronger case, I guess... but I ain't no lawyer.

Back to the phones !

Glad Serena was only playing up and letting you know who's boss, misdee.

misdee · 13/05/2005 12:41

your really shouldnt let your dd2 walk about with a spud gun mieow

mayby he is in court today.

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sparklymieow · 13/05/2005 12:42

maybe, there is noone there, though one upatairs window is open...

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sparklymieow · 13/05/2005 12:46

am hoping that maybe because they realise that we will call the police, they will leave us alone, DH doesn't think so tho.

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LGJ · 13/05/2005 12:52

Slight hijack

Hub,

What do you do for a living ??

I am in awe of your prolific postings