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GF: Love her or hate her? the Great Debate. Please leave all weapons at the door and NO stomping off, offended. OK?

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SoupDragon · 16/10/2002 16:42

OK, to avoid the Great Debate cluttering up other threads where pro-GF mums are asking for help, I've started this one. It may have been done before...

If you read another thread and have nothing helpful but want to share your GF feelings, do it here!

I guess it could get heated here so please don't get offended and storm off in a huff as has happened elsewhere with other contentious issues - just avoid this thread

OK, for what it's worth, I have no problems with GF except for the fact that all babies are different so her rigid routine may not fit in with your baby. You should maybe see her routines as flexible - half an hour or an hour either way isn't going to make much difference is it? And I think that before 6 weeks is way too young to be messing with feeding routines, especially if you're breastfeeding. It can mess up your supply in theose important first weeks and I think this is why breastfeeding counsellors seem to hate her so much.

Right, I'm off to duck beneaththe parapet and let you get on with it!

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MABS · 16/10/2002 21:38

Personally find Gina rather useful - for keeping ds's bedroom door propped open during the day.... (quite a weighty volume me thinks)

LOL Scummy and love to you.

anais · 16/10/2002 21:40

Scatterbrain..."I find the assertion that pro-GF mums do not use their mothering instincts frankly offensive !"

The whole routine thing smothers any instincts you may have. How can you use your instincts when you are following someone else's insttuctions?

"seriously looking for an instruction manual !"

Babies don't come with instruction manuals. What qualifies Ms Ford to write one????

"Sorry dear, I know you think you need a cuddle, but this book, written by some woman who has never met you, doesn't care for you, has never loved a child of her own, and coincidently, has made a living from bullying and exploiting 'vulnerable' parents, says you must sleep...."

Trust your baby to know what he/she needs and trust your own instincts to satisfy those needs.

Mo2 · 16/10/2002 21:41

I think the main advantage of GF is that it allows you to get your evenings back sooner so that you can then indulge in that 3rd glass of wine actually....

ks · 16/10/2002 21:45

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Cadi · 16/10/2002 21:45

Scummy Mummy you asked "instinctually?"

What were you asking? It's an adverb ...

jodee · 16/10/2002 21:48

Cadi, I think Scummy's on her 7th or 8th glass of vino by now!

love ya too, Scummy!

Mo2 · 16/10/2002 21:49

Ha! Great minds think alike ... see my post on 'nosebleeds' Jodee!!

ScummyMummy · 16/10/2002 21:52

Whatever... Meant that you're acting against your instincts in comforting her, if you do, as you say, "selfishly" want her to sleep through the night.

Cadi · 16/10/2002 21:53

Awwwwwww I remember the days of 7 or 8 glasses of vino ... breast-feeding is wonderful but I do miss some things ;-) and why don't my smileys work :-(

ScummyMummy · 16/10/2002 21:53

No. Stopped at 3 so far- but p'raps more could be good? Love you too MABS and jodee.

Mo2 · 16/10/2002 21:54

You don't need the '-' in the middle Cadi...

ScummyMummy · 16/10/2002 21:55

And everyone else, of course...

ScummyMummy · 16/10/2002 22:00

...especially Gina.

MABS · 16/10/2002 22:03

Scummy - i'm on number 5......

anais · 16/10/2002 22:04

KS, who????

ScummyMummy · 16/10/2002 22:06

Lesbian feminist erotic writer, I believe, Anais.

MABS, I'm jealous!

sb34 · 16/10/2002 22:08

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MABS · 16/10/2002 22:10

know what you meann sb34 - but as ds has woken at midnight for the past 5 nts (aaaaaggghhh) its something to do until then!

anais · 16/10/2002 22:13

Thanks for enlightening me ScummyMummy. In that case KS, yes, that's who I renamed myself after...

Clarinet60 · 16/10/2002 22:14

I'm going to get the book back out of the bookcase if it will make ds2 go down in his cot after a bath and a few half-hearted cries. He's still here on my knee now, looking for his 400th breastfeed of the night. (last nights' success was a fluke). Perhaps there is something in GF, as my instincts don't seem to be working with this little man.

ScummyMummy · 16/10/2002 22:16

Poor you, MABS. Hope he's ok.

ScummyMummy · 16/10/2002 22:18

How old is ds2, Droile?

Twink · 16/10/2002 22:18

Eek, always said I would NEVER get involved in a GF thread BUT friends were doing the GF thing so I read it and thought '&*dy F&&& she's barmy' but my dd was a real screamer from very early, everyone said 'small babies can't keep themselves awake, they'll sleep if they're tired' dd really could stay awake & did and after 5 months of tears (me) I tried following GF sleep patterns (but not her feeding, even though I was BF I followed 'our' routine for that) and dd settled into it - and slept better at night too. These days (at just 3) she always sleeps badly if she gets over-tired and I would never have realised the problem without GF - SORRY SCUMMY I LOVE YOU REALLY !!

MABS · 16/10/2002 22:19

scummy - he's absolutely fine, no illness, he just wants to sing 'wheels on the bus' all night - I don't even like it during the day..... sober.

ScummyMummy · 16/10/2002 22:20

Instincts schminsticts.. what are they anyway? Some people "instictivly" love the baby Ginagram method and some "instinctively" hate it, I guess.

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