Support for Cadbury over the next couple of weeks please...................

[Aero]

Cadbury - hope you don't mind me doing this, but feel some good old mn support and cyberhugs might help you get through the next fortnight!

Cadder's dh is going off on business tomorrow and she'll be coping alone with dd and ds. With her birthday falling during that time you can imagine how she might be feeling!! So can we all get together and help keep the lovely Cadder's chin up and let her know we're thinking of her, her dh (while he's away) and her family! Thank you in advance mners and can we bump this up lots too over the coming fortnight!

Good luck and hugs Cadbury. My dh not been away for longer than three nights in a row. Don't envy you. He'd better be bringing you a smashing present back from his business trip!

good luck cadbury - hope it all works well

OMG Aero. I've just seen this. Thankyou. You are a lovely friend. How did you know I'd turn the pc on as soon as I was feeling low! H ehas just gone and of course I can't get back to sleep. I've tried so hard not to burst into tears every day this week but have been distinctly weak. I'm so scared he'll not come back. Stupid I know but I'm just getting anxiety attacks about it. Thankyou again. I don't know what I'd do without Aero or mumsnet. [sickly weak tear stained half smile emoticon]

Hi Cadbury
It can be hard when you are left on your own for a bit but we are all here!!! Please look after and be kind to yourself, call on friends and eat all that stuff that dh doesn't like! He will be back. For me, the day dp goes anywhere is the worst bit and then the clock is ticking by getting nearer to when he gets back. He will be back soon (it just doesn't feel like it at the moment).
Take care x

Chin up and try and think of all the positives, like having the bed to yourself, sitting up reading without worrying if you're disturbing your other half, eating when you want to, not because you have to feed someone else, watching what you want on the television without having to endure comments about how naff it is, etc. etc.

Hmm, wonder if I can persuade dh to go away for a while.....

My DH works from home and so get to see him most of the time every day - can?t bear it when he has to go away for a few days. As Freckle says - think of the positive things like watching what you want on telly, eating whatever you fancy and not having to consider someone all the time. Then, enjoy the fact that you miss him - it is lovely to know that you both are so good together that you really do miss each other when apart.
I have a few friends that DH doesn?t get on with so use the time he is away to invite them over knowing that I don?t have to worry about getting him out the house or listening to his moaning when I ask him to stay in his office or be polite!
I am sure you are going to be fine and enjoy your time with your children. Hope you have some good treats lined up for the three of you this weekend and spoil yourselves a bit.

My dh has just come back from 5 weeks away! When he first went I had a panic attack which lasted about 3 days because I was so stressed. but then calmed down and started enjoying it. I even quite liked having evenings to myself. I made sure we had some plans for the weekends, went to stay with friends etc.

You'll be fine and your dh will be back before you know it! Good luck!

Thankyou all

Aw cadbury juts been reading this. IKWYM about them not returning. Its the flight aswill that does that.

Big hugs Cadbury - at least you can have lots of time on MN And I'm sure there'll always be someone on msn to chat to as well.

Aw, sorry you are feeling down. Can you get a babysitter so you can go out with your friends on your birthday, or have some friends round?

have got some lovely friends coming over for a dinner party on my birthday

Morning Cadbury. Look at all these lovely people who are thinking of you. I know you're bound to be feeling blue at the moment so thought some virtual hugs might help a little! I'm looking forward to your birthday - esp after running through a menu the other day!! No choc spared for this one.
Dh is in good hands and will come back to you safely I'm sure. He'll be missing you too - just as much as you'll miss him. You'll feel better when he contacts you to let you know he's arried safely.
lots of hugs to you honey! {{{{{{{{{}}}}}}}}}

Going out shortly, so a quick bump to the top before I head off!

Oh you are lovely Aero. What did I do to deserve a friend like you? Will I see you tomorrow morning?

Awe! Have a hug

(((((())))))

snuggle snuggle. Thanks Bunglie

I think so Cadbury, though have Ds1's mate from across the road staying for his first sleepover and a friend coming from London (if she ever gets here that is) who may stay too, so not definate - may be hangover permitting!

ps - how're you doing? Did you get through the day ok? Hope dd and ds aren't giving you a hard time!

Cadbury, would imagine the weekend is hard. My dh used to work away during the week but was usually home at weekends. If he ever had to work a weekend I hated it. The weekdays seem more normal IYKWIM. Hope today was ok for you. XX

Hi Cadbury, hope today went okay, the weekends can be hardest when your day to day routine changes.But that's the first day almost over! I know how hard it is coping on your own. Make sure you look after yourself too. Can you plan something nice for when dh returns and can look forward to? Thinking of you as a distant friend thru' aero

Have just put dd and her friend to bed. Ds still up. Had trouble with dd who was rude and horrid all afternoon. She jut burst into tears when I asked her if she was worried about daddy. I have to admit that I'm worried until I hear his flight has arrived in New Dehli ok. Thanks for all the words of support. As melsy said, it's the evenings that are the worst, with no visible sign of let up in parenting and no cuddle to look forward to. I'm being so pathetic, I know. When he's been away before, I haven't had anywhere to describe my feelings, I've just sat and cryed and lost the plot. Thank goodness for mumsnet.

Hi Sammac - how's the packing going?!Have fun
Cadders - rent a cable movie, pour a glass of wine and try to chill a bitwhen ds settles! He will you know - failing that, sit in front of your pc all evening and open a bar on here. My sis is here, but friend still not turned up!

Hi aero's sis! Got 3a weigh
t watchers pizza in the oven but no alcohol in0 the house apart from
Bail3eys which is a3 nonon.
Sorry about the typing, ds trying to join in.
Have been awake since 5. just want to sleep after i've eaten.

Hi Cadbury, Hope you are ok. My dh works a constant 2 weeks away and 2 weeks at home so I know how you feel. He works on an oil rig so I do worry about him but he has been doing it for years now. I have 2 dss and it is hard work when he is away, especially at weekends. I am used to him being away now as he had done it for years, so I just make the most of it now. Long girlie chats on the phone with no one moaning, coming on here whenever I want. Reading in the bath for ages with all the hot water, having a mate around for a bottle of wine and so on. Hope you have a good Sunday tomorrow , remember you not alone. Hugs to you and chin up (smile)