OP, you can do this. I left my abusive ex a couple of months after losing all of my eyesight, that is not a lie. I also had a 6 year old child with me. It can be done and you can do it.
He’s not going to blame you or get you sectioned. They don’t section people on a whim, I can tell you that w from personal experience and with absolute certainty.
Look, I don’t want to come across as rude or patronising, but even over the internet you come across as being in an awful state, and definitely not mental. There’s more to communication than words, people can see, can sense how you’re feeling.
If you call the police they will keep him away from you. Whether you go in a refuge or they keep him away from your home I don’t know but they will keep him away. They will see what sort of situation you’re in. Don’t forget they deal with this all the time, they know what to look for, what questions to ask and even more importantly, the kind of answer dodging responses people give who are in your position.
He’s not there atm but you don’t know when he’ll be back. You might have a week, you might have a day or you might have an hour. When he comes back you’ll be done, you won’t be able to act and you’ll be even more frightened.You have your chance now, and if you lose this opportunity you won’t know when there will be another, but one thing is certain, you’ll wish you had one before you get one.
You don’t need to ask yourself what will happen if you call the police and seek help, you need to ask yourself what will happen if you don’t. What will happen to you if you let this chance pass and you stay with him, because I guarantee he’ll be back.
And another question to ponder, you say he’s stopped hitting you. Why has he stopped hitting you? Is it because he thinks it’s unacceptable and it hurts you? Well, if that is the case, then why does he continue to do all the other things he does, even though he knows it hurts you?
Could there be another reason why he’s not hit you lately? Could it be because you’ve learned not to make him so angry, do or say certain things or question or react to him? What do you think would happen if you started doing these things he hit you for again? Do you think he’d hit you again if he felt the need?
He will hit you again, when he needs to. He’s doing all this stuff to make you behave how he wants you to. If you don’t behave how he wants you to these are the ways he punishes you and brings you back in line.
And yes, of course he’s started the threats and saying his leaving thing again because you had good news from the GP. He’s done it before, it’s part of his pattern. If that isn’t the case then why is it? Clearly something has triggered it, it’s not just come out of the blue, so why could it be? It’s because he feels his position of control is threatened, so he has to bring you back into line. He’s making the earth tilt under your feet again, taking away your positive progress.
Please please dredge some strength from somewhere. If you can’t while he’s not there then how will you when he’s there?