Swagger Inn Thread 109. The Back to School & Back to Wenching Thread

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It's a new term so early to bed for the little darlings & back to the Muskeperving for us wenches. New pupils always welcome if you are taking Musketeers A-Level. You 4 new boys in leather can come & sit at the front where I can keep an eye on you And no guns in class. Now FOCUS you lot.

Both my two can play up over the slightest thing. DS got stung by a nettle yesterday, you'd have thought her leg had fallen off from the fuss . So I send them in and they invariably come home feeling "much better". If genuinely ill then they stay home.

All kids are different. Your child, your choice. Please don't take offence where none was intended, Helen and I were sharing what ours were like, not telling you what to do?

:)
I am pissed off.
But not with you.
He's been back a week ffs. A week! Ok, I know he was brewing this last week, but I'm dreading this winter. Fucking dreading it. If DH gets this promotion it will mean he is away more and if the kids have a bad winter (quite common for us, sadly) it's going to be grim :(
Or maybe I am over thinking it.
I hate being trapped in the house and sleepless nights, and the bags full of meds they have to take. I know it's not their fault, and I feel bad for feeling this way, but I get really down when all the other kids (like my nephews) seem to never get ill.
I'll get over it.
Feeling sorry for myself today.

It sounds shit, especially with all the other crap you have to deal with. Does DH need to take the promotion? Does he know how you feel?

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Just peeping in before spending the day in a meeting in a rum on a fine and sunny day. Hope to catch up later.

etc for Badders and what MrsB said.

Just don't get stuck in a downward spiral of gloom. It's normal and ok to be annoyed/frustrated by DCs getting ill, especially when they're prone to it and you're surrounded by healthy children elsewhere. It doesn't make you a bad person.

I hate DS being ill because it disrupts my life (and I don't like seeing him ill anyway). Then I feel guilty for not being able to selflessly ooze sympathy/love/tlc all over him without inwardly grinding my teeth and being annoyed about the disruption. He's not a disruption FFS, he's my son. Except he is a disruption. Argh.

and for Bads Hope littleBads gets better!

I'm blobbing

Brew and hugs were for badders (no idea what happened up there)

I have no idea what's going on blob wise.
I should be on next week but...could be anytime...
Wicked...would help?
Thanks for the sympathy. It's very hard. Or at least, I find it hard. DH can just swan about and The dcs health doesn't really impinge on his life at all...he still goes to work (I would have to stay at home) he gets to leave the house (I bet housebound for days on end) I have to deal with the drs, paeds etc...it's a bit lonely really.
I have to cancel everything if the dc are ill. And I do. And I am glad I can, but I do resent it sometimes.
Sigh.
The situation with Dhs work is complicated. My DH doesn't really do change (another reason he can be amazingly unsupportive at times) and it's a small company who have shafted him overlooked him for promotion twice before now (with disastrous results in one case)
If they do it again he will have to leave.
And I know that's worrying him.
I don't like the travel aspect of his job (he has only been doing this role for 3 years)
It's just...shit.
And I feel quite down about it today.

That does sound really crap Bads, domestic drudge will grind you down by the very nature of the fact that it is thankless and endless. I hate it, I'm not cut out for a life of domestic servitude and right now it seems to be the main source of what irks between me and MrElk.

Do you do anything for yourself? a regular meet up with friends?, a gym class?, night school?? a sacrosanct half hour with a book and a cake?? I find I have to do something for myself that helps me feel valued. There's enough lack of appreciation from the small and large Elks and the washing machine sure as shit doesn't care

Oh bugger - washing machine.

Do you think anyone ever was cut out for domestic drudgery? Do some people like it? I almost don't mind the domestic drudgery bit (probably because I dont do enough of it) but it's the constant demands on my time/attention from DS and DH that grind me down when I'm trying to do other stuff (including the domestic drudgery). I don't even do the cooking usually. I think I must be a right pain to live with actually. Apparenlty I want to be a hermit with a good library, hot bath, and access to MN. and a chef. and a TV.

urgh.

Kazakstahn/Crimea/where ever the hell it was set - Helen as a lover of all things Eastern European and definitely Central Asian

Badds sorry it's all going tits up. I was going to suggest similar to Elk re: you. A hobby? An exercise class type thing might be good - endorphins, run multiple times a week so can be flexible or I know you said you have done OU before and cost wise not an option but Norah was doing some free online stuff. Although I think better if you get out rather than something that keeps you in although in that respect flexibility. No advice re: sick children as I have to actually go out and buy Calpol if they really need it but you know your own DC.

Fab rewatch wenches. I will be clearing the calendar, booking the TV and sofa, getting in some alcohol for next week.

So as we all have it recorded, are we all doing Lady Chatterley sometime this week???? I am free tonight!

Oh and can someone Badds clarify, have they stuck faithfully to the book and are the words fuck and cunt used. If they left out cunt I may consider boycotting.

Anne apologies for my lack of easter European/Central Asian knowledge I remember those two (mis-spelt) places being mentioned in the book.

Re LadyC last night, I think the only 'c' work was cock. there was a review someone that said as much - since I was re-watching I didn't get any dialogue until the last half hour or so.

I wouldn't Mind it so much if dh even noticed the stuff I do.
He basically goes to work, takes ds1 to football, takes ds2 swimming and that's it. He does the grocery shop - but only because he thinks he is much better at It than me!
I have to ask repeatedly for him to help with house stuff. It really makes me angry and like you elk, it is something we argue over.
I came back from work yesterday (after being up all night with ds2) and he had left all the breakfast dishes in the sink.
I swore a lot and went to bed.
He eventually did them about 8pm (after I reminded him about 3 times)
I do all admin, holidays, banking, b day and Xmas prep...everything. I know people would say "just let him do it" but he wouldn't. It just wouldn't get done. The kids would end up with no gifts and vouchers or a cheque.
He has no idea how much time I spend just planning stuff. He thinks it just "happens".
I no longer have anything to do with his prescriptions though. He messed me around Once too often and I had to keep begging the Dr receptionists to do urgent prescriptions because he had not got more before his last inhaler ran out twat

It was a very condensed version of the book tbh. No real mention of mellors wife. But I think the dialogue between him and Constance was fairly true to the book.
He def said cock.
Can't remember if there was a cunt.
John Thomas was also mentioned! :)

Afternoon wenches

DS2's first morning seems to have gone ok - he came out smiling, hadn't hit anyone
He was disgruntled not to have been a special helper 'mummy they got to do everything that was important!' - I have assured him it will be his turn soon...

Badds DH can be bad with domestic stuff, I am nervous about returning to work on that basis - I basically run our lives except his job, and it is the planning as much as the practicalities that I worry about. However, he does appreciate what I do and he does a lot with and for the kids.
With the DSs health, it's really tough. Mine are both asthmatic, and get most colds going, but touch wood it has never developed beyond that into anything more complicated. Totally get that feeling of rage though when they are ill, and whatever I have planned gets put on hold while DH carries on as normal.
When I go back to work, I have told him that he has to do his share of sick days/pick ups etc. I have taken 8 years out to be at home with the DCs, during which time DH has tripled his take home pay. I deserve the opportunity to play catch up.

That's an interesting point Ali..in the 7 years since I stopped working DHs salary had also gone up (not tripled, sadly :)) I will never be able to earn what he does. Not even if I went back ft and retrained.
I never really thought it through...ds1 was such a poorly baby and I needed to be at home/around for Dr and hospital appointments but if I could go back in time I would try and get some pt work and make dh step up more.

Hi Alibabs I'm glad day one went well.

Off to get dressed do school run (completely forgot about it on Friday and ran out the house swearing prolifically when DH mentioned the time and even then it took a few seconds to sink in as to why the time was important.)

Work can go hang for a few hours...

If you lived with me wifey I would so appreciate all the things you do

I'm so close to just getting on a bloody plane wicked.
so close.
And in fact next year I have told dh that I am going away for a few days.
On my own.

Ds2 seems ok, but I very very snotty and a bit wheezy.
Also a bit ...how shall I put it?.... Emotional...
Oh, and I can't take him to bed with me because...wait for it...you will like this...dh has got a chap in his shed painting a fucking mural.

Painting a mural in the shed?????

And yes Bads you're coming to Sweden to visit ME

Just putting this here in case someones interested:

nationalcareersservice.direct.gov.uk/advice/planning/jobprofiles/Pages/medicalsecretary.aspx

Afternoon.

helen I can empathise with your ill child guilt feelings! Your hermit life ideal sounds good too.

I'm not sure I have any better advice to add badders, it does sound like some time for yourself would be beneficial (and very well deserved ).

Oh badders. That's so tough on you. I wish I could offer you some advice but I don't have the experience of much wiser wenches. So I'll just give you a tight cwtch without passing on any of my germs, if that's ok?

Wtaf - a shed mural?

Tm crawled into bed with us last night and I was up most of it with him sniffling. I feel wrecked and we have a visit from his new preschool staff at the end of this week - bloody brilliant.

Oh mouse...you haven't got this awful dose too have you? :( are you feeling no better at all? I felt like nothing on earth yesterday
Ds2 sounds dreadful...really congested.