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This is a VERY sensitive subject, I know, but I am curious to know just how big a problem this is

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 13/09/2006 20:40

How many people on here have been assaulted/raped and have either reported or not reported it?

I found out that the conviction rate rapes was just 6% . 6% of reported rapes. There are many many many more that go unreported. I want to know roughly what kind of figure we are looking at. Please change your name if need be, but do post.....

I'll start..

Me - unreported.

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Piffle · 15/09/2006 14:17

Squirrel your experience is similar to mine.
Had I not had a witness who had the balls to break into my house when he heard my screaming, I am not sure I would have gone through the court
Having the abortion brought up, and the thought of my ds finding out, the thought of it being public...
But the man who did it to me got 7 years - he did have prior stalking injunctions against other ex girlfriends which he had repeatedly broken so this counted against him big time as well.

But I totally understand where you're coming from. But for me, I knew this man would go out and do it again, he thought he was invincible.

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 15/09/2006 14:28

Peachy, I googled and found this

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 15/09/2006 14:30

NSPCC also help adult "survivors" of child abuse.

www.nspcc.org.uk

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PeachyClairHasBadHair · 15/09/2006 14:47

Thanks VVVQV, I shall e-mail them across- hopefully if she finds they're there when she gets back, she'll know someone cares

Squirrel3 · 15/09/2006 14:49

Piffle, you are braver than I, I have got to admit that if there is a piece in the local paper or on TV about a rape I always listen out for the description or make sure I look at the photo-fit if there is one - just in-case.

I do feel really guilty that he may do it to somebody else but at the time I just couldn't report it, I wasn't brave enough.

Murphee · 15/09/2006 15:26

This is actually horrific isn't it? I didn't realise until I logged on a few minutes ago to catch up and suddenly found myself crying. At first it seemed better to feel one of a crowd, that somehow it made me normal. Then when I read again the posts of those people who have been brave enough to give details (I haven't)I felt anger then immense pain. This should be on the front page of all the newspapers not the nonsense about that childcare guru we're not supposed to go near any more!!!!

babybuttercup · 15/09/2006 15:40

Murphee my thoughts exactly! Reading all these posts makes me feel so and

expatinscotland · 15/09/2006 15:42

In answer the OP: looks like it's quite a commonality, unfortunately .

Scoobydooooo · 15/09/2006 15:50

Me - never

I know of 4 people who have though 2 of them reported because they were only 4&5 other 2 never reported & it was family members

this thread is very

Bucketsofdinosaurs · 15/09/2006 15:58

JustANAme do you think you are you angry with your mother?

howmanymore · 15/09/2006 16:02

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HappyDaddy · 15/09/2006 16:07

I apologise, if my posting here is inappropriate. I have made a point of reading every single post on here and think that this is one of the most important things I've ever read. I admire every one of you for your strength and courage, though you all call it "getting on with it". I can think of nothing useful, constructive or non-patronising to say but I wanted you all to know that I am deeply saddened that so many of you have had so many terrible, horrible experiences.

I, too, am in awe of you all.

TambaTheDragonSlayer · 15/09/2006 16:12

on line support group Ive been a member of this site for a year now.

TambaTheDragonSlayer · 15/09/2006 16:13

PTSD after rape support group

JustaName · 15/09/2006 16:14

I wouldn't say angry...maybe a bit betrayed because she has eluded to the fact that she probably knows that there was more than the one 'official' incident.

There is a thread over in 'relationships' - "Sensitive subject......MN wisdom needed" where I have talked a bit more about this if you are interested (and don't feel obliged). I started it up not long after this one was started. I didn't know this one was going until someone directed me over here.

JustaName · 15/09/2006 16:18

HD - I personally don't feel your post inappropriate at all. I don't feel this is a women only subject. I know men who were abused as boys. I only wish some of the perpetrators could read these messages and be moved by them in the same way as you describe. Unfortunately I think if any of them did read they wouldn't bat an eyelid - otherwise they wouldn't have done it in the first place .

expatinscotland · 15/09/2006 16:22

And men are also assaulted.

For a long while, I didn't like to think of what happened to me, but then I started having panic attacks at odd times.

JustaName · 15/09/2006 16:27

I didn't mean to exclude adult male victims - my examples just happened to be boys at the time. Sorry if I have offended anyone.

NomDePlume · 15/09/2006 16:27

An ex of mine was also raped. He never told anyone but me. He refused to tell anyone. He used to have nightmares about it and ended up with a rather unpleasant coke habit to keep the memories at bay

NomDePlume · 15/09/2006 16:28

Ex was around 18 when he was attacked

expatinscotland · 15/09/2006 16:29

Oddly, I was never claustrophic until after what happened to me.

Now I'm terrible for it.

Jackstini · 15/09/2006 16:34

SpaceCadet - not read all this thread yet but mine was also my best friends (ex) boyfriend. And played football with dh (dp at the time) Reporting it would have meant so much more hassle for me and like you - I invited him into my home - it happened on the living room floor.
Horrified at how many others this has happened to

expatinscotland · 15/09/2006 16:34

Gawd, NdP, how awful for your ex, too

NappiesGalore · 15/09/2006 16:44

deep apologies but i cant bear to read the posts since i last looked, but wanted to say that i emailed these people
to ask if they had any tips on how to bring up our children in such a way as to make their generation one where this is less of a problem.

NappiesGalore · 15/09/2006 16:45

since lots of people were wondering, that is. will post if they reply.

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