wasn't sure which topic to put this in...feeling hysterically weepy. Got about 2 minutes until the babe wants feeding again.
DH took DD2 to baby clinic today (I'm still too immobile to get that far though did manage 100 yards with no crutches ). He gets back and tells me that the baby hasn't gained any weight since Thursday, this is on different scales mind you, and that HV has told him that if she hasn't gained by next week then she MUST be topped up with formula. Also that she should be drinking water as she is still a tiny, and I mean tiny, bit jaundice. I have read that bottles of water (and this is what she is talking about) are not so good for bf babies as it can mess with the sodium levels, but its fine for ff babies. And we should give her a dummy. She was rooting whilst I wasn't there, but no, not because she might have been hungry but because she needs a dummy.
Anyway DH comes home completely agrees with HV...I said that those growth charts are based on ff babies not bf...that shes not dehydrated, shes awake and becoming more alert every day and it was a different set of bloody scales. So DH gives me the 'fine I won't have anything to do with bringing up this baby' line and goes off in a huff, shouting at me that 'babies all over the world have formula and are fine'. I replied yes, but there is nothing wrong with DD2 so I don't want to give her formula, and that there is a really big history of allergies in my family. We aren't talking.
Dh has, since the day baby was born, been pressuring me to express milk so that he can feed her. Of course I don't have a problem with this, but I said I wanted to wait until bf was established and the earliest was about 6 weeks. DD2 is a lazy sucker! You really have to wake her up and take off nappies etc to get her to feed so I just feel that introducing a bottle now would only discourage her from the harder work of bf.
DH pressured me all the way through my pregnancy to have a c/s because of the SPD. How do you deal with a partner who believes in totally different things (none of which I knew before I got pregnant as it had never come up)
I don't know if his hostility to everything I do is why I feel so angry and weepy the past few days, why I want things to go back to how they were before I ever got pregnant. Don't get me wrong I love DD2, I wanted another baby, but its been nothing but heartbreak for months. I just want to run away. But given my history of depression I was wondering if I was feeling the first signs of PND rather than a natural reaction to everything.
I'm going to go to baby clinic next week, so HV can fight with me...but I'm worried as a condition of joining my GP's surgery is that I tick the box that agrees to 'Child surveillance' what does that mean??? That I have to see HV? Going to buy my own bloody scales.
Sorry for rant