Chatty thread for ND mumsnetters

[whiskeyarmadillo]

I thought I'd try and start a friendly chatty thread here on the ND board. All are welcome. Bring a cuppa.

I'm whiskeyaramadillo. I'm late 40s and AuDHD. I have a ND parent and two ND children - my third DC is NT ish. I work full time and live on the western edge of London but my heart is firmly in the countryside which is where I grew up. I have one black and white cat who is my sunshine although he is in my bad books today after bringing in a mouse.

Today (Sunday) I'm sorting out my very very messy house - again. Making sure homework is done and uniforms are clean. Putting endless pants and socks in drawers. If I'm lucky I'll get to lie on the sofa and continue reading 'Wintering' by Katherine May or watch a bit of a crappy fantasy movie with a giant mug of tea.

What is everyone up to today?

No I've been like this a long time
I didn't get diagnosed with autism until very late in life ,and by then I'd already bitten of more than i could cope with .
If done things so differently if I'd known I had autism.
I think I probably am deeply depressed tbh
I've just never managed to tolerate antidepressants and now she won't let me try again

Could you ask for a second opinion?

Hi all,

Just a suggestion newyearsparkle, I think your catastophising on the upset people caused you over a 2 day period. You've had enough, but it's a minor setback not ruined all the progress you've made since starting ADHD medication. Just give yourself some grace and some time then do the things you know are good for your mental health.

I also, didn't tolerate the one antidepressant I took when I was first pregnancy. Caused me severe insomnia then psycotic symptoms. So at that time I went on qutiapine. But I'd read everything about it. It was amazing for me, but I came off it when I felt better because its got long term side effects.

I personally feel like I'm tipping into overuse of chatgpt. It's so useful for organising my thoughts when stressed but it's very people please and can sometimes be way off the mark when it makes suggestions. I enjoy it, but it can make you overthink and spiral in my experience.

@Alwayslearning25 ..yes chat gtp just said the same as you in your first sentence about me catastrophising .
Did I mention I use it a lot ,I can't remember but I do yes

It said sometimes doctors take people of ADHD medication in tritation to concentrate on antidepressants and getting settled on antidepressants.
I definitely do not want that
I think I was having a wobble when I typed all my last messages..
Was it yesterday I typed them ,I can't remember or Monday
But I feel better today

I think ..in my case .
I have boxes in my head ,and I've always boxed things away in the boxes
But I was having issues with agoraphobia and CBT wasn't working,so I thought maybe today's mental health issues are from me not dealing with my childhood
,I just put it in the boxes and ignored it .
Anyway
It turns out my system of boxes was actually better than counselling..
because everything is now out of the boxes
,I can't get it back in the boxes ,
it's going round and round in my head with nowhere to go .
I was definitely definitely better not discussing it .
It was like opening a box of frogs ,they all jumped everywhere and I can't catch them to put them back in .
Chat gtp has been amazing at helping me accept the frogs
And my counsellor was lovely ( I have a new one next week)
But I still wish I'd left the boxes closed

Sometimes we need the boxes open to deal with what is in the box then we can shut the box away completely and it’s finished with

Thanks @JewelleryCat ..
I guess it all comes out at some point
Hope everyone else is ok x
Hot again..house is like an oven here

It’s hot for me too @Newyearsparkle

I have fans going, dehumidifier and curtains are closed to try and keep cool

How are you doing with everything and you @Alwayslearning25