Chatty thread for ND mumsnetters

[whiskeyarmadillo]

I thought I'd try and start a friendly chatty thread here on the ND board. All are welcome. Bring a cuppa.

I'm whiskeyaramadillo. I'm late 40s and AuDHD. I have a ND parent and two ND children - my third DC is NT ish. I work full time and live on the western edge of London but my heart is firmly in the countryside which is where I grew up. I have one black and white cat who is my sunshine although he is in my bad books today after bringing in a mouse.

Today (Sunday) I'm sorting out my very very messy house - again. Making sure homework is done and uniforms are clean. Putting endless pants and socks in drawers. If I'm lucky I'll get to lie on the sofa and continue reading 'Wintering' by Katherine May or watch a bit of a crappy fantasy movie with a giant mug of tea.

What is everyone up to today?

I tend to use it for information..as I always have a lot of questions

Sorry things are difficult at the moment @Newyearsparkle and I hope things turn around for you

How are you doing @InertBird?

Hi @JewelleryCat - I'm good thanks, apart from massively neglecting to do the things I should/need to get on with. I get very stuck in a groove mentally sometimes and find it excruciatingly difficult to force myself out of it to get on with x, y and z 😖Does anyone else suffer from this?

Do you mean fixating on stuff like hyper fixation? It can be hard to go from hyper fixating to do chores for example but those things will be there another day. You have to put yourself first

Yes, I get fixated on activity x and activities y and z gather dust even if they're quite important. I have to really force myself to put the attention elsewhere.

How are you @JewelleryCat? I hope all is well with you

Yeah, I’ve hyper fixated in the past and things don’t get done or my hand hurts too much from holding the pen. I probably still do hyper fixate but maybe not as much because nothing keeps my interest at the moment

I’m ok, it’s just life isn’t it? It can be hard

Hi guys ,just wondering how you all are

I'm doing pretty well. I'm pregnant with my 3rd child. I have given the college I wrote about before more lifts, she chats with my toddler and I'm feeling more relaxed around her. She's also acknowledged me at work which she didn't used to do. I do find I hide behind my children often, as in, they are both quite extrovert and they talk to adults a lot during interactions or I'll talk about them and it's a safe space.

I had mental health issues in previous pregnancies, I'm ok at the moment, 11 weeks and getting some energy back. I feel more competent at work than at home at the moment. I struggle to do self care and housework, or get started on them really. I probably obsess on things in my phone at the moment, games, reading articles about random subjects etc.

I have an obstetrics appointment in June, I think to do with my mental health. I pushed it back a week as it was booked for my daughter's birthday when she has an assembly and it would be much worse for my mental health to miss that. Next appointment was a week later. The organisation around maternity appointments really stressed me out and caught me out, eg I missed a 28 week blood test as I thought the system would arrange it for me but that slipped through. So I know I need to be engaged.

@Alwayslearning25 congratulations!

Don’t worry about housework, that can take a back seat until you’re feeling ok. Depending on the children’s ages, maybe they could help? Tidy toys away for example? Organisation wise, would a calendar help to write everything down?

How are you doing anyway?

Congratulations..that's wonderful news .do you know if its a boy or a girl yet ,what do you already have ?

Trial and error trying to get used to my ADHD medication
I do a lot of exercise each day ,and I can't take it until after exercise,and some days it means I'm not taking it untill lunchtime,then it takes 2 hours to kick in and it seems pointless in it starting to work at 2 pm .
So I'm going to have to change my whole routine..and I see people at the swimming and they won't be there at a different time ,and it's throwing me a bit .
I can't seem to find a way to fit everything in around the medication.
But I'm calmer on it and sleeping better and when it's working the anxiety has gone ,so I want to try to make it work.. somehow

Do the instructions say take after exercise? I don’t have ADHD so don’t know about the meds but it’s good that they seem to be working 🙂

Regarding the routine, could you try going and just parking up at the time you might want to go? You don’t have to go in, just park up and see how you feel. Maybe baby steps like that then you can see who might be around at that time

I've had a bad day on them ..kept feeling faint each time I stood up ( bloody church again ) .they had us up and down like yo yos today .and the room was packed and lots of smoke so I couldn't breathe properly.

Starting to think they are more hassle than they are worth after today .
Plus they only work between 12 noon and 6 pm ,and then it's crash time either side of that ..
Just not sure it's worth it ..thinking things through

Maybe you need a medication review to see if the dosage is working for you or you need a different medication that works for longer? That’s not good about church, maybe you can skip it next week because it’s making you feel like that?

I have emailed my concerns to the provider as I'm a bit scared of taking another tablet tomorrow,but I don't think I'm supposed to just stop taking them

It's definitely dad's turn to take him to church next week

Thanks newyearaparkle. I have one of each allthough. I don't know what this is, but signs point to me having a girl. It feels more like a girl pregnancy. I have quite a bit of facial hair, I got more dark hairs with my boy pregnancy (that never went away) this time I'm getting much more blonde hairs. My girl pregnancy was more emotional too.

Sounds annoying with the dizziness. Hope that fades. It's good the medication is helping overall. What happens if you take the medication before excersise? Is it meant to be a morning one. I took qutiapine in the past, that was a bedtime one as it's a sensitive. It helped me but it's not healthy overall as it increases cholesterol, but I know it will improve my mental health as a last resort if I have bad anxiety and sleep issues. My GP have decided I should continue having annual checkups on my cholesterol.

I may have ADHD, but equally maybe not as I a live fine in society, job family etc.

Can I have a little sorry-for-myself whinge here please? I have autism and keep getting tripped up by the expectation/assumption that most people work on the same set of morals/level of thought as me, which I realise is a me problem but still knocks me for six everytime people don't treat me with the same respect and consideration I treat them. I'm a reasonably intelligent middle aged woman and it just makes me feel like a naive, too-trusting idiot. I never learn either, it's the same stomach sinking disappointment everytime and yet I still can't seem to make the shift to not expecting reciprocal respect from people. Does anyone else struggle with this and has found ways to deal with it better than me?

Oh I wasn’t saying to stop taking them, I never would. I was just saying that maybe the dosage needed to be reviewed