Chatty thread for ND mumsnetters

[whiskeyarmadillo]

I thought I'd try and start a friendly chatty thread here on the ND board. All are welcome. Bring a cuppa.

I'm whiskeyaramadillo. I'm late 40s and AuDHD. I have a ND parent and two ND children - my third DC is NT ish. I work full time and live on the western edge of London but my heart is firmly in the countryside which is where I grew up. I have one black and white cat who is my sunshine although he is in my bad books today after bringing in a mouse.

Today (Sunday) I'm sorting out my very very messy house - again. Making sure homework is done and uniforms are clean. Putting endless pants and socks in drawers. If I'm lucky I'll get to lie on the sofa and continue reading 'Wintering' by Katherine May or watch a bit of a crappy fantasy movie with a giant mug of tea.

What is everyone up to today?

Zoom church this morning and then see what energy I have later.
(ASD, Hypermobility Syndrome Disorder, two ASD teens)
I might have to buy a new door will need someone to carry it back with me.

Will the teens help with the door?

One can't without subluxing a shoulder. The other might not because autism and teen. If he's carrying the other end of a door he might have to be too close to me in public!

The horror

Right. I'm whacking on a podcast and getting going with the shit tip of a house before I run out of spoons. I've been listing to Impact Winter this week - a post apocalyptic vampire thing. It's very good if you like that sort of thing.

Might try some washing up.

Mine is : quote "a shit tip"

I have very few spoons. Literal and metaphorical (Maybe a lot of dirty ones )

Good luck. Even a very tiny something is still something.

Thanks.
One pot rack full down. Lots more to go.

I was going to say good morning but have just realised it’s already past 2 😆 I’m 40s, ASD, probably ADHD but have not been assessed.

Today I’ve done a bit of laundry and trying to tidy the living room up a bit as well. Blood pressure is low and feeling crap so mostly just vegging if I’m honest. So cold today! I’m thinking of making up the single duvet and having it on the sofa to cuddle up with.

I'm still plugging away at getting the washing away. About half way through now. It's properly chilly here today too. Duvet on the sofa sounds lovely.

Hi! I'm 40s, AuDHD, late diagnosed. I was hungover this morning; I don't really drink but did last night. Husband convinced me to go for a long-ish run in the countryside, ending at a lovely pub for a shandy. Hangover cured! Other than that have been teen taxi service & doing the usual Sunday chores / playing with the kitten! Looking forward to a fire this evening.

The start of a week of driving. Again. Fed up. Don't want to.leave bed.

No one in my house was happy about getting up this morning. Grey, cold, windy down here.

I’ve had three anxiety related heart rate warnings already today 😩 Mondays!

Thinking about asking GP about Propanolol, anyone with anxiety tried this?

Oh that's really tough. Are you at work?

I'm having panic attacks most mornings at the moment. It's debilitating. I'm trying to breathe through them but it's so hard. I take Citalopram 20mg daily but have a GP appt coming up as I think it's related to menopause.

I was looking at the Moonbird breathing device in desperation yesterday.

Can you try the medication and see how you go?

For anyone who needs something silly and fun today...this is an oldie but a goody.

Hi hi.
30s, AuDHD, mum of 1, have an hour before I have to head out.. need to use this hour productively and not doom scrolling!!

Doomscrolling. I think it's a bit like smoking was for me. A good way to put other things off, a hit of pleasure but always regretting it afterwards.

My ASC DD8 doesn't sleep. I have to sit with her for hours through the night and scrolling on my phone helps to pass the time without disturbing her too much. I try to read a book but by that time if the day my brain is fried.

Hello, can I join? AS (also to a lesser extent ADHD but cba with diagnosis), early 50s, single parent to teen AS son. Nice to have a chatty place as feel like have no connections to other NDs in real life.

I love Wintering by Katherine May! Have you read her other books?

Re washing - I am sitting on my bed with piles of it from the weekend. Why is it so bloody hard to put away!?

I found propranolol great when I was adamant I didn't want to take ADs all the time, but it doesn't stop the thinking, just the bodily sensations of anxiety. Recently gave up the mental resistance to ADs and started sertraline and cannot believe how much less anxious I feel all the time.

Wish I could tolerate Sertraline, it gave me insomnia unfortunately 😕 I tried to make a GP appointment (only way is through an online form with checkboxes, no idea if all GP surgeries are like this now?) and they stopped accepting online forms at 6pm and will start again at 5am?! So I missed my window. Hopefully tomorrow I will still feel brave. It’s a bit ridiculous having too much anxiety to get help for anxiety 😟

I ripped through the house today like a tornado looking for something and now the house is in a state 😩 I’ve piled the laundry up in a basket by the side of the bed wedged next to my vanity which means I have a mountain of laundry to climb over. /sigh

Hadn’t seen this 😹

How is everyone doing today? Another damp day down here and I'm gearing up for a day at the office tomorrow. I'll go into Central London on the train.

Good luck with going in tomorrow 💐 Are you feeling anxious about it?

I put in a GP request about having my anxiety treated. I was in such an anxious state doing it that I forgot to include things like feeling nauseous, feeling impending doom, etc, and afterwards have been feeling impending doom about filing it in wrong 😂 I have to laugh at myself…also feel really dumb because I didn’t realise everything I experience is actually a panic attack, I thought panic attacks were the stereotypical breathing in a bag kind of thing. So I didn’t check that box 😐

Does anyone else experience eye pain after a panic attack? In addition to a headache.

I had a language lesson today, I’m studying Japanese. I’m hoping medication will stop my mind from going completely blank from anxiety, it’s so embarrassing when put on the spot to answer something pretty simple 🤦🏻‍♀️

Hope everyone is well 💐

Hello all,
whiskeyarmadillo
thanks for starting this thread - I need a thread like this.

I am married to an ADHD tornado (everyone has suggested it so often its not even in question and a lot of people are on his case to get diagnosed).

I myself am self-diagnosed AudHD, DS is diagnosed AS and ADHD, daughter is clearly ND, v shy and emotional and intensely creative.

I don't want to angst too much on a chatty thread but my FOO has become completely f-d up recently and I'm very torn up about that and trying to work out how ND is part of the story (it's definitely part, probably not all).

I have a stressful social event tomorrow where some of this stuff will be shoved in my face.

shizukana
sertraline never suited me either - made me a person i didn't quite recognise. I take fluoxetine. After trying every HRT formulation under the sun and finally finidng one that works, I do think there will be the right med out there for you, just keep trying.

I hear you about the form. i never would have thought that was a panic attack either.

MyNameIsIDontKnow
Are you sure you don't know ND people? I have realised most people i get on with are ND but some of them are still in what I would call pre-2020s thinking about it. IE they have not realised the category has expanded so much that it now includes them. They are still working with internalised ablism and us-and-them thinking.

Hey,

I do love a chatty thread, it's lovely to meet you all.

I'm a 45 year old AuDHD-er, 3 ND kids, 2 are adults.
Can someone tell me why I decided life wasn't busy enough so took on a degree and a full time job?
Why can I not relax? Like, ever!

For those talking about ADs, I'm a Sertraline advocate, for my family anyway.
If you're struggling to find an AD that works for you, it's worth finding out whether your parents have ever been on ADs and whether they've had success with any. I was talking to someone about Psychopharmagenetics
The other day and he said if something has worked for your direct relatives there's a good chance you're genetically similar enough for it to have a good chance of working!