How can I deal with being misdiagnosed by my psychologist?

[Gymnastxo96]

Back in August of 2025 I did phycological testing at a phycologist that I go to and they said my full IQ was 76 which I don’t understand because I type just fine and have good grammar and could type full sentences. Many people say you sure your IQ is 76 because I type just fine and have good grammer and can communicate well. And my adaptive behavior score was 57 which is pretty low. Why would they misinterpret that too? Why would they misinterpret the results and think I don’t understand medical decisions and they recommend medical guardianship. Why would they misinterpret my results? Now people think I am mentally challenged because of this. Are they wrong for misinterpreting the results to make me worse then I seem? Keep in mind I do have high functioning autism so do you think my autism played a role in how I did in the IQ test or you think I was completely misdiagnosed and it could be something else?

It was in your medical report.

Yeah the bipolar was? It didn’t say I was diagnosed with it. It said I had Tourette’s because I just blinked my eyes a lot when I’m nervous.

They could be but if they can’t is it fair to a baby?

You haven’t answered why you want a baby so badly?

I am a support worker and part of my job is to support people who have children and seem similar to you based on how you appear on this thread.

Lots of the babies end up being mainly cared for by family members who don’t get a choice do you think that’s fair?
Some children are removed from their parents completely because their child can’t be cared for properly which is very upsetting for the parents and the baby.

It’s not just about giving a baby food and clothes there is a lot to think about, they only teach the basics in parenting classes and what about when the child grows up?

Your mum wants you to keep your IUD in so she obviously doesn’t want to help you look after a baby and she us still helping look after you, do you not think she would like some time for herself now? She’s looked after you for 30 years which must be hard and I’m sure she would like to enjoy her life when you become more independent, 30 years is a long time to put yourself second.

Why can’t you enjoy life without a baby? They really are a lot of hard work and you could do lots of exciting things yourself and have money for yourself.
You could go on some nice holidays and use the money to pay for trips away or fun days out and hobbies, that’s much better than spending it all looking after a baby.
Working and having your own money could help you be a lot more independent and have more freedom without other people always being around so they can help look after the baby.

if you want to show you are mature and not thinking like a teenager and are “high functioning” then part of that is listening to advice and making the right decisions.
Yoo can prove to people that you know to do what is best even if it’s hard.
Lots of people have told you on here that they wanted babies but chose not to have them because they would struggle which is very brave when you want something so badly.

Would you think about getting a dog or cat to love and look after that’s easier to care for? I’m not trying to be unkind but I really don’t think you can care for a baby alone when you still need support yourself.

@Gymnastxo96 I'm going to try to ask again because you're very selective about what you engage with.

What support does your mother give you? What support do you think you would need with a baby/child and would you expect her to give that? If you became pregnant and she stepped away, what would you do?

Even people who have no additional needs can struggle with parenthood. Your situation would be much more difficult and it wouldn't be fair to have a child without considering all this and many more things.

You said that you work in a grocery store @Gymnastxo96

Do you date some of the other staff?

Do you date some of the customers?

I remember that you said earlier in the thread that you didn't like online dating sites. Have you met up with many men who use them?

I imagine it’s quite difficult to overturn a medical guardianship. Proving capacity to make your own decisions looks like an onerous process. I found these two websites which might be useful @Gymnastxo96You would have to prove to the court that you no longer need the guardianship because your ability to make your own decisions has changed.
https://sheryll-law.com/how-to-terminate-a-guardianship-in-ny-a-comprehensive-guide/

https://ww2.nycourts.gov/guardianship/ending.shtml

But you are not answering peoples questions.

You are answering what you think they are asking or responding to points you think they are making.

But you have not understood the questions or the points on the same level as other people have understood them.

Other people can see by the answers you are giving and the points you are making That you have not understood.

And you dont know that you havent understood.

I'll be honest, this is one of the saddest threads I've ever read on here.

The people on here who say you can have childen one day are trying to be nice because it's what you want to hear.

They don't know you and they don't know what you're capable of.

People saying it wouldn't be a good idea don't know you either but they are speaking from a place of experience - either their own, their family or their professional experience.

No one on here has said you can't have a baby because its nothing to do with anyone here.

But someone is saying that because you have an IUD because you're not considered capable of either preventing a pregnancy on your own or raising a child

I am understanding my answer. How can I treat my disability? I am pretty healthy overall so I don’t know what this is caused by. I want to have kids. What is causing this? It’s worrying me because my future is affected.

I suppose the big question is: why did your mum apply for guardianship in the first place and how long ago? Your diagnoses appear recent. What led to the assessments and guardianship? It must be horrible to not have control over your own life in that way but it must have been deemed to be in your best interests.

ETA as I just saw your last post:

You can’t cure autism. It’s a developmental condition present for
life. There are coping strategies depending on your particular struggles. The diagnostic criteria is based on persistent difficulties with communication and repetitive or restrictive patterns of behaviour. Perhaps if you explain what you struggle with posters could help suggest things to help.
The IQ score can’t be changed significantly. It might vary by a few points if you took more tests but I’m not sure if the point to that.
You’ve mentioned more than one psychiatrist so your diagnoses aren’t just one doctor’s opinion. Tourette’s is not diagnosed on one tic such as blinking. You must have another tic like a vocal tic too.
I didn’t see the report so I don’t know ever was on it

Do you have your own lawyer to represent you if you challenge the guardianship? Apart from your mum is there anyone to advocate for you?

It’s hard to hear that you are vulnerable. I was told years ago on here, before I was diagnosed, that I am vulnerable and I felt quite offended because I didn’t see myself that way. The posters were right though. My autism does make me vulnerable.

I am understanding my answer. How can I treat my disability? I am pretty healthy overall so I don't know what this is caused by. I want to have kids. What is causing this? It's worrying me because my future is affected. People are saying I have cognitive challenges. How do I fix this so I can have kids one day? I did blood tests to see what this is caused by and everything was fine. So what if this disability caused by. I need answers.

None of us can answer this @Gymnastxo96 but learning disabilities/ neurodiversity (ADHD/autism) are not something you can cure, they are not illnesses. You need help to understand what you have and how it affects you, but that has to come from eg a doctor/social worker/therapist/family.

Can you try to have an honest conversation with your Mom and listen to what she says?

I know but I am able to raising a child in the future not now. People with intellectual disabilities can be good parents with support.

It can be caused by a wide range of reasons but unfortunately it’s not something you can change or fix. It’s how your brain is and that can’t be changed. It doesn’t make you less of a person though, it just means you have added difficulties.

You were born with a cognitive impairment and with autism.
Autism is genetic in nature.

There are many causes of impaired cognition, usually related to events during fetal life and around the time of labour and birth.

Bipolar disorder is also genetic in nature, so you are born with a genetic predisposition to having it.

You ask how to treat your disability. Many people believe that it's best to help people with your disabilities to develop strategies to live their lives to the full. There isn't any actual treatment for autism as such (I'm autistic and I have autistic children).

This is a hard question because there often isn't an answer.

Sometimes, it just happens. I know a family where both parents have been to university. They are both very intelligent and very high functioning. They have one child who is typical in every way and another who has a moderate/profound learning disability.

Our hope for him is that he will have a job one day but he will always have difficulties. He will need supported living and help to perform daily tasks. He will never be able to live independently or be a parent. He is 28.

There was no reason, it was just how he developed.

I had my IQ tested. It's 161 which is the highest IQ on the scale used (Cattell B). My parents are both of average intelligence. There was no reason for it. It was just how I developed.

Sometimes it can be genetic, which means that it can be found in parents and children.

It doesn't mean you are not healthy. It just means your brain works differently to other people's. You can't fix it.

You can learn skills to become more independent but you will always have some difficulties because that is how your brain works.

There is nothing 'wrong' with you. You are a person just like the rest of us with things you are good at and things you find hard. But the things that you find hard make it difficult for you to live independently.

And the things that make it difficult for you to live independently are the things that will make it even more difficult for you to be a parent.

Really? So my mom’s birth complications caused this?

That isn't what I said at all.

Autism and bipolar disorder are genetic.

Cognitive impairments are frequently caused by events during pregnancy and labour. But not always.

One of my autistic sons has a cognitive impairment but his is definitely secondary to AuDHD. He is extremely intelligent but struggled at school. He sees the world in his own specific way. I hope he never becomes a father and have advised him not to risk this. Ever. And he understands.

No.

I was deliberately vague in what I said because you are obviously reading responses and taking what each person posts as a fact or assume they are speaking with knowledge.

They are not.

This poster does not know you. Or your mum. Or what the conditions of your birth were!

They cannot tell you anything about the reasons for your intellectual difficulties.

And this is why people have been saying you are vulnerable. Because you assume every person who replies knows what they are talking about and is giving you a good answer and they might not be.

And some people are trying to explain things to you but you are not able to understand their answers.

Ok I understand better now! I could still be bipolar even if one doctor said I was and one doctor said I wasn’t?

That is possible, yes.

Doctors aren't perfect either 😉

Ok and as well as my cognitive impairment? I could definitely be both?

Yes, the main thing is how whatever it is affects you, not the label. The label cam be helpful in getting targeted help, but the important thing is how it affects you. And what strategies you can put in place to mitigate those things. Curing isn't possible, making life easier can be.

Yes, the main thing is how whatever it is affects you, not the label. The label cam be helpful in getting targeted help, but the important thing is how it affects you. And what strategies you can put in place to mitigate those things. Curing isn't possible, making life easier can be.

Ok good so it is definitely possible I have the cognitive impairment and bipolar disorder correct?