Neurodiversity thread - for all MNetters who are neurodiverse - ASD, ADHD, Dyspraxia and more.

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Welcome one and all to the new thread. A safe haven for MNetters who identify as neurodiverse, diagnosis or not, and those waiting for assessment. Links available in recent threads. Newbies welcome. We just ask that you introduce yourself

I'd never really thought about that before Polter, I know what you mean though.

Love that picture Polter

Hello again! Just marking my place.

I like the photos, there should maybe be a Polter's Photo Thread
I wonder if other long standing group chats are as diligent about filling the thread neatly?

I'm pleased you agree about the masking blog. I feel a bit let down by it, and think I could do a better job, except I don't have the necessary qualifications (yet) to make it credible. It feels like a waste of a potentially very good blog.

Hello again everyone! Hope you're all good :)

I've been in major denial since my diagnosis so took a break from posting here but I've finally reached acceptance I think! Yay! Had some hiccups along the way and upset my landlord and a man who came to do some work on the house in the process with a massive meltdown. No notice of repairs being done until I notice a man hanging over my window will do that to me though oops! Does anyone find it hard to balance the guilt at your behaviour afterwards with the fact that it's kind of not your fault when it's part of your ASD? I'm struggling with that a bit!

I must say though I'm so glad I found these threads because when I last posted, the advice you all gave to be kind to myself has really helped in me accepting stuff. I've even managed to stand up for myself with family a few times when they've niggled at me for something im doing and not let them shame me for being a bit weird where in the past I wouldn't have. So thank you for the advice before everyone :)

Thanks PolterGoose :)

You've got me thinking about my name now and I've changed it again so that I can have a more permanent username (and one that doesn't remind me that I don't have a cat yet haha!) and it's easier to shorten to just Anna

Oh, I hadnt thought of an autism alert card! I think I will look into that because when I can't find the words and then the other person gets frustrated, that's the point where I tend to lose it. A card would solve that!

I'm on my way home from college. I was given a surprise maths test. a bit of warning would have been nice!
But I was first to finish, so either it was really easy or I've got it all wrong

Your pictures are great Polter! I hadn't seen the one with the spoons before and was quite helpful really.
Hope the maths turns out alright HRF

Argh, hospitals! It's a 30 minute drive from me so I set off 2 hours before my appointment, parking is shocking so I used the park and ride service.

Horrendous traffic, spent 5-10 mins at a time with my handbrake on. Took me an hour to do the first 10 minutes of the journey. Finally parked at the park and ride, still just had time, except the bus was late. It was very crowded and I had people brushing up against me the whole time. Then it took a different route(!) and the hospital site was gridlocked so I got off early and power walked across the site!

Finally made it to my appointment just 3 minutes late, I'm the first patient and I've been waiting for 20 minutes... at least it gives me time to de-stress.

That does not sound like a good journey Crohn!

That doesn't sound like a fun morning! Delays that aren't your fault are so annoying!

Can anyone advise me on a party situation please? I would ask on the main sections but after seeing someone get bashed on here for their autism this morning already I'm not brave enough!

Dd is invited to close friends party. It's in another village so would cost £20 for taxis in total plus taxis are a massive stressor and I like to avoid them unless emergencies like hospital mean I really can't. Family can't take us because bad timing with their own commitments. How do I decline the party and also decline any offers of lifts from the party family? I don't do well with getting in cars with people I don't know well and the stress it will cause is too much of a risk plus the potential of not knowing when we will get back at the end because we are accepting a favour and have no say in it really. Also I'm worried they'll offer to just take dd but she's too young imo.

I just don't want to cause problems or get seen as rude with them because this is a good friend of dds and someone she plays with a lot. Does anyone know how I could word it maybe?

Crohn, well done for planning in advance so you got there in time! Hope it goes ok. Stuff like this stresses me out!

Anna, honestly, I'd keep it brief and say 'Thanks for the invite, unfortunately he's unable to attend.' That way you don't have to make excuses etc.

Anna I handle situations like this very badly but what I would do is book something else for that day and then pretend it was booked beforehand, and just say "Oh, I'm so sorry but we're already booked up that day." I would do something else though otherwise your DD's friend is going to wonder why she wasn't there when she wasn't doing anything else.

Sorry I meant She...

Ugh, the whole in-laws thing is causing stress. After them dropping the bomb shell they'd be turning up today they haven't answered any of DH's messages asking when they'll arrive and how long they're staying. So, they could turn up any time in the next few hours and might just be popping in for a cup of tea or might need to stay overnight!

They always do this. It used to make me so anxious but DH gets so angry and stressed I've almost started going the other way. I'm less and less bothered about the state of the house when they come and since they're never going to change I'm just trying to let it wash over me.

Where I work is divided into shared rooms. I usually have the top room to myself but someone else is in today. He has a cold and is sniffing loudly, and is slurping some sort of ramen noodle soup.

Would it BU to drown him in it?