Neurodiversity thread - for all MNetters who are neurodiverse - ASD, ADHD, Dyspraxia and more.

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Welcome one and all to the new thread. A safe haven for MNetters who identify as neurodiverse, diagnosis or not, and those waiting for assessment. Links available in recent threads. Newbies welcome. We just ask that you introduce yourself

Polter I thought I'd killed the thread - mine was the last! I just found you all again.

Polter, That's awful!! What did your DP say? I hope you're okay.

I enjoy being evil

In laws is a running theme for many of us I see! Ditto here unfortunately although not in the same way.

I've been looking up the ADOS but I can't figure out how they expect you to perform for diagnosis and as usual I'm worried I'm just a fraud since I can follow a story and deal with most social stuff. Sorry I'm stuck on thinking about assessments at the moment, and feeling desperate not to be told I'm NT!!

Polter - your MIL . What a cow! Is dp ok? (From the funeral I mean).

I was on the threshold in the ados iirc, but it was explained that at my age (today I feel 923) masking becomes second nature. I was also in a new room with a new person and a camera facing me, I didn't feel,comfortable at all and the mask stayed on.
I'd be interested to do an ados with Elaine at AFA sometime, as I like her and feel comfortable with her, I wonder if there'd be a difference in the results.

Ds2 had a mental health day today, after a tricky week and a long sad meltdown last night. He's been hyper all day, I've had to wait in for a phone call all day about dd (who is NOT happy), but they didn't bloody ring! Ds has wrecked his door and ds1's.
I have a course this weekend, not looking forward to it as I won't know anyone and I'd geared up for one a month ago then it was cancelled.

Eurgh she's the one who sounds evil Polter!

DD has been a rotter this week! Stroppy, answering back...my threenager has tested my patience.

Thanks Polter - that's reassuring. I'm glad I have you to ask!

The window fitters finally finished after 3 days of me sitting in my 'office' with the door shut and having to have those awkward forced conversations. When the guys left I was thanking main guy and as I held out my hand to shake his he turned away so for some unknown reason I said 'Shake my hand' really forcefully... AWKWARD.

Also I kicked my stepper and ripped the skin away from my toenail. I must do it at least 3 times a day.

Hi everyone, I am so glad I found this thread. I have thought for a long time that I have adult adhd. I spoke to a local charity that supports and helps people through the diagnosis process. Anyway their speicalist practitioner thinks I sound more like I have mild aspergers. She thinks that the traits were probably subtle in childhood but that now as an adult under stress that the traits have come out alot more. I have never even considered this possibility. I seem to have loads of adhd symptoms but I know it would be harder to prove I had symptoms as a child. I did have a very supportive and structured home life and I was a huge people pleaser though so not sure if that is why I cope ok. I was bullied badly for all of secondary school for being different and I have alwasy had a sense of not belonging and of not being like those around me. I am struggling so so much with poor memory, procrastination, very low motivation etc. I have had years of depression/ self harm and anxiety. I have tics, ocd type symptoms, very long term insomnia etc. I feel such a failure as I find house work so utterly boring and so difficult. I have loads of clutter and am a hoarder. The list goes on. Anyway would anyone be able to tell me about the differences between Aspergers in women and adhd? Thanks

Thanks Poltergoose. I have just looked at Tania Marshall's list and it does suond remarkably like me. I also seem to have alot of adhd symptoms as an adult but if looking at childhood not so much . So maybe it is aspergers then. I guess until now I have only ever seen the more general type of lists that I didn't resonate with - but I guess they are more for males? I guess I need to look more into an assessment. I can't bear the thought of more years of struggling so much - and all the criticism I get for it - and the feelings of failure. I think if I was diagnosed it would at least help me to heal somewhat from that feeling or failure.

I identify with being scared to be told I'm not actually AS. Over this last year with alot of research due to my DD undergoing assessment and a lot of great info on mn, I feel more sure than ever that I am. It explains so much. I want to be diagnosed. I really feel it would help me. So now I'm really scared of not being.

My dh says it obvious I am AS but he doesn't understand why getting a formal diagnosis is important to me. He thinks I should leave it.

Morning

Sorry, I haven't had a chance to completely catch up as am in a bit of a rush this morning. Just wanted to check in before leaving for Blogfest since this place helps calm me!

I'll keep reminding myself there are bound to be loads of spergy types there.

Hi ruralmum you sound very like me, I was diagnosed 18 months ago with Asperger's.

Getting assessed is scary, I was also more scared of being told I was NT than of getting a diagnosis. But I had reached a point where I couldn't carry on as I was, my symptoms were interfering too much with daily life. I figured that even if I wasn't autistic, because I was assessed through the local mental health service, they would have to get me appropriate help. So either way my quality of life would have improved.

Fear not Polter; I forgot to join the new thread

And I typed stationary when I meant stationery on a thread the other day (phone substitution, but still )

If it helps, I was shit-scared of both possible outcomes of my assessment.

Hope blogfest is going well!

You'll be great Polt.

That was an order.