A new Neurodiversity support thread for those with suspected or diagnosed ASD, ADHD and other NDs

[PigPigTrotters]

Yet another thread for neurodivergent mumsnetters.

Lots of links in old threads.

Anyone is welcome, it's not just about autism.

My dads dog died and I'm feeling weird about it. Let me explain. I don't have a particularly good relationship with my dad, but I've known the dog since I was a child, I remember when they first got her 16 years ago, taking her for walks with dad, step mum and step sister, playing with her etc. I haven't seen the dog for years (talking like 10 or so years when I stopped going to my dads regularly as a teen).

I found out via Facebook and it's reminded me of how I never see my dads side of the family any more, don't have much of a relationship with any of them and I don't even feel like I'm part of that family anymore which has made me feel kind of sad about how broken up my family is.

Sorry, just offloading a bit there.

Ugh. Assignment done. 8bhours of typing, and 15 pages, but it's done. I'll be really annoyed if it gets sent back!

Well done!

Thanks Polter and well done HRF, 8 hours typing is an incredibly long time!

Earlier dd1 asked me if I was having another baby because my belly is big. It comes to something when even your own child notices how fat you are. Sounds silly but it made me cry. Sometimes the brutal honesty of young children is a curse

delete My dd tells me it's a big squishy belly. They don't realise it will upset you.

It doesn't help that I carry a lot of my weight on my midriff. It's one of the areas I feel most insecure about. I know she didn't mean anything by it but kids tend to say things adults would never dream of so its made me feel like dp must think the same. I have zero self esteem at the minute which doesn't help matters.

Ds3 asks why I don't have a flat tummy, mostly because he thinks everyone should aspire to be superheroes who have flat tummies.
He had an almighty pity party tonight, very upset about lots of different things, noise at school mainly. Talking to his teacher tomorrow afternoon about the possibility of him being put on the list for assessment. As he's only just started it may be better to wait a little while for him to settle down. God knows. I wish someone else could make all these decisions, I really don't think I'm the best person to do it.

I feel very depressed about my bumble bee/apple shaped body but chocolate is my only real refuge these days. My entire life has been dominated by weight, calories, bingeing, dieting and feeling guilty and out of control around food. It pisses me off and I resent my tortoise metabolism!

She doesn't come across as a great MIL or grandmother to be fair Polter, don't do yourself down

You may not be her idea of the best DIL but you are the best mum for recognising your son wouldn't cope and not backing down and hoping he can turn the autism off for a day.

Also thanks for the info on AfA - it took me so long to get myself for an assessment there but now it is familiar! I am planning to go for that and then see if I can access some autism specific counselling or CBT of some flavour. Going to register with a dentist to have my teeth seen too, 2017 can be self care year!

Someone I knew from school has recently been diagnosed with EDS, she also twangs my ASD radar - are they commonly found together?

We have a new shed in our garden, I made a bid for a quite room for me (fairy lights, massive bean bag and blankets), but nope, it's going to be a workshop .
Tempted to move ds1's bed into it too and claim his room.

Certainly hypermobility and ASD often seem to go hand in hand, Pig, so it wouldn't surprise me. I know three people with EDS and I wouldn't be massively surprised to learn any of them were on the spectrum.

Didn't really realise Mumsnet Blogfest is this Saturday. I'm trying to remind myself I want to go and bought a ticket because I thought I'd enjoy it. This is supposed to be a very rare adult day out all for me.

But I'm very anxious. And suddenly feel like all my clothes have holes in them (a lot of them do, to be fair) and like I'll go and feel like a child who's wandered into an adult event. What's the bet I just end up feeling awkward and self-conscious the whole day while everyone else effortlessly chats and has fun?

BDH I'm sure once you're there you'll enjoy it.

Just keep reminding yourself that it's Blogfest BDH not the Ideal Home Show, it'll be heaving with spergy types!

It doesn't sound like your mil has been the best mil she can be so don't worry about being the best dil Polter. It works both ways and your son comes first, even in this case and your decision not to go is probably best for everyone

BDH I'm sure you'll be fine, I get nervous about those type of events too. I worry about not knowing where to go and ending up just standing in a corner on my own the entire time. But it's never ever like that.

Dp just rung to tell me he's getting promoted at work! Finally something positive after the past few weeks of drudgery.

Laura, That actually made me feel a bit better!

Awesome news, Delete!

Polter, my ILs are over in New Zealand right now visiting SIL. It looks amazing.