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Baby-proofing your marriage - online chat with author CathyO Neill, Monday 26th Feb 9pm

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carriemumsnet · 22/02/2007 10:53

Cathy O Neill is co-author of Baby-proofing your marriage - How to Laugh More, Argue Less and Communicate Better as Your Family Grows and will be answering your relationship queries live here on Monday 26th Feb from 9-10pm.

We've got five copies of the book to give to the first five members to join the live discussion, but if you can't make the live chat, you can post your questions in advance below.

Thanks and hope to see you on Monday

MNHQ

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morningpaper · 22/02/2007 20:37

oliveoil are you SURE your husband has a cleavage down there?

gosh it's been so long and it's so hard to see without glasses

I think I have forgotten

Monkeytrousers · 22/02/2007 20:37

My DP has a very low libido. He finds sex and blow jobs a chore. Some men do. What are the partners of them supposed to do? Weekly cunnilingus would make my world run more smoothly too, but for some reason he feels no compunction to provide this. What is the world coming to?? (Obviously, it isn?t coming anywhere in our house) ((and it isn?t because I?ve let myself go!))

oliveoil · 22/02/2007 20:37

ok

I saw a preview in The Times this week and I like your hair

VeniVidiVickiQV · 22/02/2007 20:37

OO, i think your DH might need to visit a urologist....they dont look right

malaleche · 22/02/2007 20:38

oliveoil - so glad that light does eventually appear at the end of the tunnel - haven't been able to find anyone that will say that till now, maybe no-one wants to lie to me?

VeniVidiVickiQV · 22/02/2007 20:38

Maybe OO's DH wears a G-string??? [boak]

oliveoil · 22/02/2007 20:39
morningpaper · 22/02/2007 20:39

Monkeytrousers: I agree with you. These sort of theories are all jolly nice for excitable husbands who want their lovin' when they've got it on their mind, but what about THE LADIES?

Which is why a Five Minute Fix which was a call to cunnilingus would have gone down much better with me.

It's too phallocentric.

morningpaper · 22/02/2007 20:41

malaleche YES YES YES remember the mantra: This Too Shall Pass. When they get Bigger, some days are actually PLEASURABLE. There are whole LONG MOMENTS OF ENJOYMENT to be had out of older children.

morningpaper · 22/02/2007 20:41

The best way to babyproof your marriage is to not walk out on each other, and then you will one day wake up and think "Well that's over, now we can have a lovely time again."

oliveoil · 22/02/2007 20:42

malaleche - how old is/are you child/ren?

I read on here once that someone said there should be a law that says you can't split up in the first 2 years and these are HARD YEARS

We laugh now but we hated each other!

We said we would have split up if it hadn't been for the children. But if it hadn't been for pesky non-sleeping brats we would have got on, luckily we realised this

FioFio · 22/02/2007 20:42

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oliveoil · 22/02/2007 20:44

although he now wants the computer so I may need to stab him in the eye

tsk

morningpaper · 22/02/2007 20:46

having two computers is VERY IMPORTANT to preserve MY relationship

morningpaper · 22/02/2007 20:47

I read a quote somewhere today (might have been from this book) that said that having a baby is like waking up and realising that you are now running a really busy nursery with someone you used to date

made me laugh

VeniVidiVickiQV · 22/02/2007 20:48

MP - couldnt agree with you more there

Realising you are on the same side is a huge help too, I think.

morningpaper · 22/02/2007 20:49

Yes VV - sometimes I look at DH and remember that he is having a really shit time too and that makes me feel better

oliveoil · 22/02/2007 20:50

(having two death ray eyes is VERY IMPORTANT to preserve MY relationship)

what about oddballs that have a baby to bring them closer together?

hahahahahahahaahahahahahaahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaa

Monkeytrousers · 22/02/2007 20:50

He moved out on Saturday MP. Fear it might be too late for us.

Monkeytrousers · 22/02/2007 20:53

"I read a quote somewhere today (might have been from this book) that said that having a baby is like waking up and realising that you are now running a really busy nursery with someone you used to date"

except nursery staff get paid!!

morningpaper · 22/02/2007 20:53

Sorry to hear that Monkeytrousers Didn't realise.

malaleche · 22/02/2007 20:53

oliveoil - DD1 is 3.4 yo and DD2 is 5 mo
DP and I never talk, we only argue. DD1 constantly interrupts on the rare occassion we are only talking, so that we can't argue, iyswim.

Monkeytrousers · 22/02/2007 20:58

Why you apologising MP??

Question still stands to Ms O'Neill

oliveoil · 22/02/2007 20:59

stick with it

If I cast my mind back I was probably still crying 3 times a week when dd2 was 5 months, probably over nothing

can you get a babysitter and go out?

IT DOES IMPROVE

dd2 has just started wailing through the monitor (as per) and we haven't moved a muscle. 2 years ago we would have been arguing over whose turn it was to sort her out

xx

oliveoil · 22/02/2007 21:00

MT - can you go to relate?