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Baby-proofing your marriage - online chat with author CathyO Neill, Monday 26th Feb 9pm

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carriemumsnet · 22/02/2007 10:53

Cathy O Neill is co-author of Baby-proofing your marriage - How to Laugh More, Argue Less and Communicate Better as Your Family Grows and will be answering your relationship queries live here on Monday 26th Feb from 9-10pm.

We've got five copies of the book to give to the first five members to join the live discussion, but if you can't make the live chat, you can post your questions in advance below.

Thanks and hope to see you on Monday

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carriemumsnet · 26/02/2007 20:59

Hi Cathy

Welcome to Mumsnet. There are plenty of questions here already and certainly more to come, so we'll hand over to you.

Enjoy!
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OliviaMumsnet · 26/02/2007 21:47

Hi Cathy
Wasn't sure if you saw PeachyClair's question from earlier?

My Dh works nights,a nd I am at uni much of the day. With three kids, two of whom ar disabled and don't sleep much, this often leads to argues that are clearly rooted in tiredness and also the belief that the other doesn't quite contribute enough ( I gett jhisa lot from DH- I amke the effosrt to do any claening etc when he isn't there to maximise our time, then because he doesn't see me scrubbing, although the loo is clean, he assunes that his washing up and putting clothess away is all that gets done)

This frequently causes rows and is slowly driving me nuts, TBh- I love heim dearly but I'm not entirely sure he values what I contribute any more. Any tips?

Thanks

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OliviaMumsnet · 26/02/2007 22:01

And a couple more from below, Cathy:
One from Maggi:

How do you deal with very different views on discipline? I had agreed with husbands authoritarian and smaking approach but since becoming a childminder I have had to become fully devoted to the 'correct' method of positive discipline. This leads to many arguements between us of the nature of "I'm not being told how to bring up my kids by someone who wrote a book" which is my husbands view. How do I get him on my side all the time and not just when mindees are in the house?

And one from MummyPenguin:
How do I get my kids to toe the line? They are 11, 8 and 7. A girl and two boys. They are causing a lot of grief at home at the moment with their fighting (the boys, mainly) squabbling, laziness, not listening to us, having to be asked a hundred times to do the simplest thing. My Daughter (the eldest) won't keep her room tidy, and that is a source of constant friction.

It has got to the stage where my Husband and I feel like we are 'a family in crisis'. He in particular, is quite depressed about the way things are right now.

How do we communicate with them, without shouting, to make them see that we are fed up with their behaviour and the way things are, and we want it to change for the better? We all need to work together on this, but how do we make the kids realise that? What changes should we make? The youngest is very immature for 7, so is quite difficult to 'get through to.'

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carriemumsnet · 26/02/2007 22:08

Hi all

Well officially Cathy's time is up. Thanks to everyone for contributing and to Cathy for all the top advice. Hopefully Cathy will manage to answer the last couple of questions before disappearing - but if not I'm sure there are plenty of mumsnetters ready with some words of wisdom.

We'll try and get a transcript up in the next couple of days.

Night Night and thanks again to everyone

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