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drug dependant baby, advice needed

734 replies

EarthMotherImNot · 03/03/2010 15:20

I've been asked to foster a baby expected to be suffering drug withdrawal when it is born next week.

It is years since I've cared for one of these and any advice would be most gratefully received.

OP posts:
Tillytrotter123 · 01/01/2019 23:56

Ive just finished this thread and for the first time on mumsnet I’m in tears. I never expected the ending, you were a true Angel x

Stephisaur · 11/01/2019 08:00

Just read the whole thread.

I’m so utterly devastated that EMIN lost her fight with cancer. It really does take the best.

Thank you Mumsnet for putting this in classics so that more people can know the good she did whilst she was here.

RIP angel

SimplySteve · 28/01/2019 07:21

I originally read this thread while in hospital a couple of years ago. It was nighttime, an open ward with five other men. No chance of sleeping in that environment. So I found this thread filled with so much love. Obs got checked while I was crying. Got a strange look, then a HCA came and spent an hour with me asking what was up and why wasn't I asleep. That was the first time I opened up to another real life person about my childhood and how being sexually abused had affected me. Thanks to EMIN.

Selfishly, I've often thought since how things would've turned out if I'd had EMIN in my life.

You may be gone EMIN, but you will never be forgotten. Your legacy lives on in all you fostered, and if their children have 1% of your selflessness, empathy, love and compassion they will be amazing people.

However. EarthMotherImNot??? No. No no no no NO. EarthMotherYouMostDefinitelyAre❣️

And now I'm blarting again.

Canary123 · 29/01/2019 13:53

Rip emin,she was such a beautiful person, I never thought this thread would end like this, it struck my heart.I hope ladybird grows up to know what a amazing mum she was to her.

Lostwithoutdirections · 21/02/2019 00:57

I just found this thread in Classics. I was only browsing MN for light reading to keep me company whilst feeding my little one through the night. I didn’t expect to come across such a big and emotional story.

EMIN - Thank you for all you shared. I needed to read this tonight. I’ve been struggling with exhaustion. Gaining perspective from others is a wonderful thing. You’re an inspiration and I’ll remember you forever ❤️

ivegotthisyeah · 23/02/2019 22:19

Want a remarkable and brave lady RIP ThanksThanksHalo

Mrsmummy90 · 25/02/2019 01:15

I've just come across this thread and reading about the baby had me in tears. I had no idea what was to come!

It seemed you were an incredible and selfless woman with so much love to give. You have changed the lives of those children and their families and without you, I'm sure their futures would not have been bright.

Rest in Peace xx

LadyPeach · 07/03/2019 18:40

EMIN you are a true angel, and heaven gained another one x

FizzyGreenWater · 11/03/2019 15:03

I remember reading this thread when it happened, I had a baby myself then!

RIP Emin.

SuziQ10 · 12/05/2019 16:22

Such a wonderful, kind woman.
An inspiration. I hope the baby, that must now be about 9 is doing well & is happy.

Thank you EMIN for this post. Rest peacefully x

SVRT19674 · 17/05/2019 13:10

Such a lovely post-thread. I hope the little girl is doing well and knows in the future how lucky she is to have had such a caring person look after her. Really touching and sweet. Good job well done EMIN.

lilyryder · 18/07/2019 23:29

What a wonderful, selfless woman Sad

Butterisbest · 27/10/2019 21:08

What a wonderful woman EMIN was, I've just read this again, cried all the way through.
I hope her family are doing well and that little ladybird is growing up and that her life is good.

SirChing · 23/12/2019 12:23

*Just read the whole thread.

I’m so utterly devastated that EMIN lost her fight with cancer. It really does take the best.

Thank you Mumsnet for putting this in classics so that more people can know the good she did whilst she was here.

RIP angel*

This poster said it better than I could. RIP EMIN. You showed exactly what matters in life and I hope that your family know how many hearts you have touched. Not only the foslings, but all those of us who have read this too. I cannot imagine how overwhelmingly proud of you your family must be. People like you are the true heroes in this world. You are an inspiring woman, wherever you happen to be now, though I am sure it is watching over all those you have loved and given a life to.

May God keep you and may you rest in peace until you are reunited with all those you have not only loved, but shown HOW to love.

Words will never ever be enough to tell you the effect that you have had. RIP EMIN xxx

Wereallsquare · 29/12/2019 20:06
Flowers
Maddison12 · 30/12/2019 02:10

💔 Couldn't put it better than PPs have but just read full thread for the first time and couldn't leave without saying how moved I was by your amazing story.

Emin your beautiful way with words made this story heartwarming/ heartbreaking all at once. I cried all the way through lovely Ladybird's story and the ending just finished me off.

Your family must be so proud of you, the fact that this thread is still going nearly ten years on speaks for itself. Rest in peace emin, what an inspiration you are🌷

SalemTheTeenageWitch · 15/01/2020 14:12

What an inspiring person you were @EarthMotherImNot. I’ve just read the full thread and I feel so thankful for all you did for the children you fostered.
You clearly touched so many lives. Rest in peace you wonderfully lady.
I wonder how the lovely LO is now? She must be around 10. Bless her Flowers

AmbitiouslyFit · 15/01/2020 16:32

Saw this thread mentioned elsewhere and read it for the first time from start to finish. This is going to change who I am. I haven’t cried so much for so long for years.
RIP EMIN.

Twospaniels · 19/01/2020 19:00

I’m another one who has read this for the first time.
Earth mother was an amazing lady.

I wonder where the little one is now. 10 years old. I hope she’s having a fabulous childhood.
💖💕💐💕💕💐💕💕💐💕💕💐

sam221 · 22/01/2020 05:04

I have just read all of this thread, as i just came across it. I am literally crying, there are some truly special people, whose lives are a testament to true goodness.
Rest in peace sweet EMIN, the Angels needed you back.

2018SoFarSoGreat · 22/01/2020 06:08

Beautiful EMIN. I'm glad I got to know you through this thread. I wish I'd known you in life. What an incredible woman you are. You really showed us what love is ❤️

golddustwomen · 22/01/2020 13:42

Jesus what a heartbreaking yet beautiful thread. Wonderful, wonderful women xxx

sockittome123 · 22/01/2020 19:30

I don't think this thread will ever stop going.

Amanda, if you're still here, it may have been several years since your mum passed, but the lives she has improved, the hearts she has touched, they just keep on adding up. Everyone who met your mum, either in real life or on this thread, will have had their hearts warmed by her. Your mum deserved eternal life, and I hope that's what she's getting in her heaven.

RIP EMIN.

WhatTiggersDoBest · 16/04/2020 14:53

I know this thread is old, but I was looking for info on the effects of drugs on babies to try and make sense of my own messed up childhood. Wow.
Then I kept reading and the ending broke me a little.
EMIN was amazing. She gave so many babies their best start in life and I hope Ladybird hears all about her and treasures that letter EMIN wrote for her.

Mama05 · 16/05/2020 23:45

Wow so emotional reading this.

RIP emin Flowers