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drug dependant baby, advice needed

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EarthMotherImNot · 03/03/2010 15:20

I've been asked to foster a baby expected to be suffering drug withdrawal when it is born next week.

It is years since I've cared for one of these and any advice would be most gratefully received.

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BeanStew22 · 10/10/2022 00:43

Read this thread earlier today for the first time - what a precious legacy to leave, RIP EMIN ❤️

DaughterofDawn · 10/10/2022 00:55

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SwapPlaces · 10/10/2022 00:55

What a rare privilege to read of such a wonderful woman and family. @EarthMotherImNot may you be resting in the eternal piece you so richly deserve. I hope you are in embraced in the love and selflessness you showed to so many.

“But the effect of her being on those around her was incalculably diffusive: for the growing good of the world is partly dependent on unhistoric acts; and that things are not so ill with you and me as they might have been is half owing to the number who lived faithfully a hidden life, and rest in unvisited tombs." George Elliot

Wetblanket78 · 10/10/2022 01:12

So sad I've just looked up her daughter's post of when she passed away. 😪😪😪

Wetblanket78 · 10/10/2022 01:16

This post is from 2010 baby was adopted so will be about 12 now. The OP sadly passed away in 2013 of secondary breast cancer. But this post keeps getting revived every so often.

Woopzies · 10/10/2022 02:06

My heart aches for the little one who will one day grow into a woman, learn of Emin, and her desire to meet this wonderful woman will be met with such tragedy 😥

expat101 · 10/10/2022 02:08

I remember when our DD was in ICU, the nurses kept playing Enya over and over again and there was a baby, no bigger than a newborn who had been a patient since birth and (from memory) was 3 or so months old. The music calmed her, sadly she wasn't expected to live due to whatever the Mother took while pregnant and would never be discharged.

You mentioned upthread about wanting to slap the mother and I have to say it took all of our strength not to do the same to the father of this bub. He was the dealer partner who supplied Mum with the drug, had her convinced it wasn't the drug that caused their daughter to be born without whatever function her brain needed. If ever there was a reason to put a human down, he was the example of it. I often wonder what has happened to Mum since, she was only young, 24 1/2 years ago.

JestersTear · 10/10/2022 02:14

💐RIP you amazing lady

onlythreenow · 10/10/2022 02:18

Best of luck OP. What a wonderful thing you are doing for this wee one and her DM. Flowers

onlythreenow · 10/10/2022 02:20

Oh no - that's a lesson to me, check the date on the thread!!! RIP lovely lady and I hope the child is going well now.

Wetblanket78 · 10/10/2022 02:25

You need to read through the whole thread. This post is from 2010. The OP passed away in 2013. Here is the link her daughter posted when she passed and said what an amazing lady she was.

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onlythreenow · 10/10/2022 02:20

Oh no - that's a lesson to me, check the date on the thread!!! RIP lovely lady and I hope the child is going well now.

Me too!

I got to page 4 I think it was and it just clicked memories of the little baby we saw in ICU ..

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Pippylongstock · 10/10/2022 06:58

Absolutely heartbroken to get to the end of the thread and realise @EarthMotherImNot had passed away so young. Will be holding my loved ones very close to me today, what an inspiring women.

ChristmasCwtch · 10/10/2022 07:58

I read this thread every few years when it pops up. Heart wrenching 😔

EMIN was an amazing lady ❤️

FridayTheThirteeth · 10/10/2022 08:05

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Cigarettesaftersex1 · 10/10/2022 08:08

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Fucking hell, at least read the updates FFS

AdelaideRo · 10/10/2022 08:09

And @FridayTheThirteeth wins the “read the bloody thread” award or at least the “check the thread start date” award.

This thread is from mumsnet classics And the OP is very sadly long dead. The baby featured will be at secondary school.

stupidannoyingtaxthing · 10/10/2022 08:17

Wow; rarely have I seen a more extreme case of misguided and unnecessary unpleasantness, even accounting for Friday not having read the whole thread.

<waves cleansing wand around>

KevinsChilli · 10/10/2022 08:24

Just read this for the first time and very sad to hear the OP passed away. RIP Emin.

The LO will now be 12 and I’m assuming in a few years will have the “goodbye letter” to read.

Jux · 12/10/2022 12:14

I am posting because I want her family to know that even so long after her sad death, she is still inspiring hope and clarity in people.

I have had quite a bad week, and have spent thee morning uselessly crying. Then I read this thread - oh must be at leas the third time - and cried more! But now I know that I can effect change in our situation and achieve some semblance of normality. It is Emin's love and generosity that has inspired me to KNOW I can find a way to make things right for us.

Thank you Emin. Years and years after your sad death, you are still inspiring people!

Thank you Emin, You have helped me find my strength again.

ivykaty44 · 12/10/2022 12:41

I can remember reading this post back in December 2010 when I was terribly I’ll. what an inspiration this foster mum was. The child will hopefully be with a loving family & around secondary school age now.

mumof2many1943 · 22/10/2022 20:21

Have followed Emin’s posts with interest and love. Was in a similar place as our adopted son’s life was ruined by maternal drugs, his mother took so much heroine she did not realise he was virtually dead with pneumococcal meningitis leaving him deafblind and cerebral palsy . Her posts gave me courage. Sadly my beautiful son died but I still read her posts such a fantastic lady. Hope her beautiful boy is ok

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