DH says cat needs to show more gratitude

[UngratefulFeline]

I’ve been away for a few days and DH managed the kids and the dog just fine.

He’s upset with our cat though and says he made a real effort to bond with him by giving him treats, protecting him when our dog had the zoomies and making sure his bedding was fluffed.

DH said the cat gave nothing back, blanked him and even swatted at DH when he tried to pet him.

DH wants to know why the cat doesn’t show any gratitude. I explained to DH very carefully that the reason the cat doesn’t show any gratitude is because it is a cat.

DH says that is illogical and there must be a real reason and “it’s a cat” doesn’t cut the mustard.

YABU- Deeper reason why cat won’t show gratitude
YANBU- it’s a cat.

This is hilarious 🤣

Cats are cats - they’re ungrateful , bossy and rude but they are darn cute !! 🤣

I love this post. Imagining your DH fluffing the cat’s bedding and looking crestfallen that he didn’t get so much as a thanks from the ungrateful pet.

🤣🤣🤣🤣

LTB @UngratefulFeline I'm amazed he's made it to adulthood not realising the psychology of a cat. Next thing you know he'll be submitting a court action that the cat has violated his human rights. Can you make him a bumper sticker -

Cats are dicks, get over it.

Cat doesn't show gratitude 😹 Doesn't you DH know it's called Catitude 🤘

All 3 of my cats are extremely affectionate with me and my husband, but we have been building those bonds since they were 10 weeks old.
He can't do it for one weekend and expect the cat to love him. It takes time...

Also that kind of attitude always transfers into how someone treats cats generally, and they can sense it.

Cats are extremely loving and can show gratitude, but they are also very good judges of character.

People who don't like cats or talk this way tend to have issues with people who have strong boundaries and also they are often problematic with consent. I've had this proven time and time again in my life.

I’m just in awe that it appears your overlord uses the bed you bought him for its actual purpose?? I cannot tell you the sheer amount of beds, cat trees and scratching posts we have bought over the years for our boy.

Does he use them? Does he fuck. Rips our carpet to shreds and sleeps wherever is most inconvenient for us at the time - usually halfway up the stairs or on the one bit of duvet we need to pull back to actually get into our bed.

Love him to bits but he’s a total dick. He’s a cat.

The Cats couldn't be arsed buying me a birthday card , they just piggybacked on the card DD bought . It even looked suspiciously like DD handwriting ...........

But , no Horses Head on my bed so I;m claiming the Win here

IT IS A CAT!!! Cats do not show gratitude because we should fell honoured to be allowed in same room. They deserve our worship and feeding, treats and cuddles is the way we do this. Its letting you live in their house probably even letting your sleep in its bed, you need to show gratitude, not them.

"Lighthearted" presumably OP
If he lives with a cat he knows they are arseholes. End of story

Your DH is completely missing the point.

He is the one who should be showing gratitude given that the cat has deigned to accept him as staff...

Poor DH he really doesn't understand it does he.

Mine loves my Dad most, my carer second and I come about 15 after the post man and the Sainsbury's delivery people.

I was the spare human with our first tortie. She was man-mad. She schmoozed tradesmen and flirted with the local beat bobby. We got a phone call from a neighbour to say she'd turned up at theirs. We went round to find her in the arms of a handsome young student, the trollop. Most of all, she favoured DH over me and regarded him as her property. She'd sit on the kitchen table behind him while he was cooking dinner and if he didn't pay her attention, she'd hook her claws into his waistband and tug.

I was definitely second best. . .unless she was in a huff with her fancy man. In that case, she'd sit on my knee and smirk at him as if to say "I don't need you. I can pull any time I like!" She was a legend and living with her was a lot of fun. ❤️

I had a high level cat. She hated everyone in our family with equal vigour. Except for my aunt, who hated cats. Whenever my aunt visited, the cat would spend the first ten minutes coughing up a huge and disgusting fur ball on the rug then head straight for my aunt’s lap, dig her claws in and feign sleep for as long as necessary to ruin her day. Pure evil. YANBU.

I’m a rare breed of cat AND dog person

they speak such different languages. Your dh is being a dick for not recognising that.

To be fair…cats are dicks.

You need to get your DH onto Jackson Galaxy on Youtube, so he can learn a bit about cats.

If he's really wanting to be BFFs then he should spend some time playing with dcat daily.

DH had never had a cat before he lived with me.
Not long after he moved in I had to go away on a course for 4 weeks, he rang me at the end of week one and said with awe
"Hopping, these cats - they have ACTUAL PERSONALITIES!!!!!"
He fell head over heels and has been a "cat Dad" ever since
He was never daft enough to expect gratitude though

Come to my house and experience cat ingratitude 3 fold; plus farm cats

Your husband needs to understand that the cat is displaying gratitude, your husband just doesn't understand it as gratitude.

Does your husband still live? Gratitude. Are his arms and legs unclawed? Gratitude. Has he gotten an eyeful of the cats arsehole in the last 24 hours? Gratitude.

Ours brought in a rat last night. She did not seem impressed that instead of accepting the gift gratefully, we instead, shouted and swore and chased the rat out of the house again, and refused to let her out to retrieve it. She did not understand our lack of gratitude.

Theres a language barrier there that just doesn't exist with dogs.

Such a great post!

This thread has given me a laugh. If he wants more explanation, then how about telling him that the problem was that he didn't offer the cat his backside for a sniff? If the cat wishes to bond he will then offer his own. Then hide just out of sight when the cat next deigns to be in the same room as him and report back to us 😅

I love this!

Best thread ever!

Pffft, our current ca(rsehole)t is 16yo DS3s. He cuddles with him, sleeps with him, brings him whole live mice/rats/voles & fractions of mice/rats/voles. He purrs for him, he plays fetch, he gets arsey with DS isn't in bed when he should be. He's even got a miniature door to access DSs room.

The rest of us?!? Me? The moment I open DSs door cat will leap down & meow at me to be fed. He'll come find me to tell me he's hungry. But do I get cuddles?! No I do not!

He stand near me, he'll lay near me (if son isn't there) but can I touch him? No I cannot! He's not even bothered enough about my existence to have a strop about me touching him, he just gets up and walks away like I'm an inconvenient draught!

We are allowed to fuss him in his cat tree though. Then he'll lick you like he's a dog.

It's a good job he's pretty!