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AIBU to ask you to talk me out of cancelling this date tonight?

291 replies

Posypointshoes · 17/04/2023 18:28

I’ve name changed for this because the background is incredibly outing.

I have a date tonight with someone I’ve liked for YEARS but I am absolutely bricking it.

We knew each other as children, we used to dance together. We did ballroom and competed so spent a LOT of time together and were very close, stayed close during our teens, then we went to separate universities and stayed in touch.

we had a falling out when I stopped dancing and he wanted to continue and didn’t speak for several years, then got talking again - by which point we were both married to other people. We stayed very loosely in touch but not close like we used to be.

neither marriage worked out - nothing to do with each other.

We’ve been talking again, and he asked me out on a date/for a drink tonight and I’ve been really looking forward to it as I really like him.

the thing is I haven’t seen him for ages. I was always in amazing shape from dancing when I was younger, but while not in bad nick I’m not like I used to be. I feel old! And like I have nothing interesting to say. I’ve lost all my confidence and I’m worried I’ve built him up in my head over the years to be something he’s not.

i don’t know what’s wrong with me, I really like him. But I also just want to stay at home!!

OP posts:
SoCunningYouCanStickATailOnItAndCallItAFox · 26/07/2023 22:00

Posypointshoes · 26/07/2023 20:42

Thanks for asking, still going well although we've hit some unexpected road bumps (not with the relationship directly exactly, just something that complicates things) but happy to report that not even that has caused any major wrinkles. Still disgustingly happy in a way I can't quite believe!

Disgustingly happy 😁😆

DancinOnTheCeiling · 27/07/2023 22:29

Oh that's so lovely to hear OP 😊😊

StellaLaBella · 07/08/2023 14:56

This thread warms my cockles Smile

EmotionalSupportHyena · 07/08/2023 15:13

StellaLaBella · 07/08/2023 14:56

This thread warms my cockles Smile

Pickles your walnuts, surely!

Posypointshoes · 02/10/2023 18:42

So I have an update…

I said I would never get married again… but here we are! 😀

I was always the kind of person who shook their head incredulously as these kinds of speedy relationships 🙈

I couldn’t resist updating because I’m floating on a cloud and am SO HAPPY and thankful I did not in fact cancel that date.

AIBU to ask you to talk me out of cancelling this date tonight?
OP posts:
Ellemeg82 · 02/10/2023 18:47

Wow congratulations!
Love that you can read this back and see how you wanted to cancel and look at where you are now.
Beautiful ring!

LittleMonks11 · 02/10/2023 18:49

Ahhh congratulations!! 😁

cocktails4two · 02/10/2023 18:52

Oh how lovely! Congratulations! I didn't know I could be so happy for someone I don't know ❤️x

KeziaOAP · 02/10/2023 18:52

Congratulations 😀
Gorgeous ring.

HollaHolla · 02/10/2023 18:53

Lovely update, OP!! Hope that you can both have a giggle over this thread.
Congratulations to you both. 😍

LiliLil · 02/10/2023 18:53

Ahh congratulations!!!

I TOLD you not to cancel! Grin

baffledcoconut · 02/10/2023 18:54

NO WAY! Ahhh this is the BEST NEWS! Eeeek so exciting!

poorpaws · 02/10/2023 19:02

That is just the best news, I am so happy for both of you. Thank you for the best update I've ever seen, and I hope you'll both be this happy for ever.

Trudij123 · 02/10/2023 19:06

This is brilliant!!! So so pleased for you 😁

Theluggagerules · 02/10/2023 19:23

Aw congratulations

similarminimer · 02/10/2023 19:29

That had made my day - so many congratulations to you and i hope this goes in classics to show that everyone should get a second chance and that sometimes you have to be brave to be happy.

Dancingqueenwannabe · 02/10/2023 19:47

Congratulations, absolutely the best news xxxxx

Willmafrockfit · 02/10/2023 19:51

what Beautiful news Flowers

so very lovely

Americano75 · 02/10/2023 19:55

Ah, I love a happy ending, congratulations!

ScottBakula · 02/10/2023 20:34

Aww congratulations @Posypointshoes, I am so glad things are going so well for both of you.

Of course we need to know what what your first dance will be 😍.

MNHQ please can this go into classics, it's so good to have a lovely story.

EmotionalSupportHyena · 02/10/2023 20:45

Marvellous!

Onekidnoclue · 02/10/2023 20:46

Congratulations! That’s utterly wonderful. X

JenniferBooth · 02/10/2023 20:47

@Posypointshoes Ive been following this thread but havent commented till now. Congratulations.

CoconutQueen · 02/10/2023 20:51

Best update ever!!! Flowers
What a brilliant thread this turned out to be!

MeOldBamboo · 02/10/2023 20:54

I loved this thread! Thank you for letting us all know and HUGE congratulations xx