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Aibu to think this doesn't make sense (behind my back)

323 replies

tccat · 14/08/2017 20:50

Having an argument with Dh about this, I say the phrase "behind my back" doesn't make sense because if something was behind your back surely it would be in front of you?
I'm getting more and more irate trying to explain my point and only dogs and dolphins can hear me
Am I right?

OP posts:
MaisieDotes · 14/08/2017 22:15

Thanks user cos I really don't have the energy Wine

Original poster
tccat · 14/08/2017 22:15

Pickle that's it exactly! my back is in front of them, therefore they are not behind my back they are in front of it😀 I rest my case

OP posts:
NoSquirrels · 14/08/2017 22:20

You are hilarious. This thread is hilarious.

If someone was going "behind my back" they would be walking around me to get behind me. My "back" is the opposite of my front in this situation-specific positional sense.

You seem to think that it's an oppositional phrase, where the reverse of "back" equals "front".

It isn't and doesn't.

And the grammar is fine!

Your poor DH! Grin

ifyoulikepinacolada · 14/08/2017 22:20

From their perspective, your back is in front of them. But from your perspective ("my back"), they are behind your back.

noodleaddict · 14/08/2017 22:20

No you're confusing something being in front of part of you (i.e. your back) and you (i.e. your back) being in front of something. Totally different. If you are standing in a line you are in front of them but they're not in front of you. Obviously.

IloveBanff · 14/08/2017 22:20

Your back is in front of someone standing behind you. Someone standing behind you is also standing behind your back, since your back is part of you.

user7841794168 · 14/08/2017 22:20

Pickle that's it exactly! my back is in front of them, therefore they are not behind my back they are in front of it😀 I rest my case

You've just contradicted yourself, your back is in front of them so they can't be in front of your back or they would be in front of you and you'd be behind their back.

dontbesillyhenry · 14/08/2017 22:22

I'm picturing the vicar of Dibley and Alice Tinker joke scene playing out in OP's house

Original poster
tccat · 14/08/2017 22:23

I've gone to bed, I can't cope anymore

OP posts:
NoSquirrels · 14/08/2017 22:24

They are behind my back.

I am in front of her back.

Can you not see these are different people's viewpoints and thus your argument is bonkers?

diddl · 14/08/2017 22:24

"my back is in front of them,"

Therefore they are behind it!

IloveBanff · 14/08/2017 22:27

"dontbesillyhenry" "I'm picturing the vicar of Dibley and Alice Tinker joke scene playing out in OP's house"

Oh yes! The OP is a real life Alice Tinker. Grin

Firesuit · 14/08/2017 22:43

"behind my back" = "behind the rearmost part of me" = "behind me"

"Behind my back" is a slightly unreasonable phrase because it doesn't convey any more than "behind me." You're wrongly assuming that because people go to the extra trouble of using the longer phrase it must mean something different.

DollyPlastic · 14/08/2017 22:54

Go home, OP you're drunk and you're embarrassing yourself.

Rockhopper81 · 14/08/2017 22:59

You're attempting to change the perspective, which is incorrect. As a previous poster said, if your back had a 'back' and 'front', the front would be the iternal 'side', the back being the external 'side'. Thus, "behind my back" would be correct (the 'back' of your back).

Given that your eyes are on the 'front', this dictates the perspective (looking forwards). So the above is true.

I'm not sure how anyone can make it any clearer, at least without a diagram? Your husband is correct.

Aquamarine1029 · 14/08/2017 23:01

Has your husband drowned himself in the toilet yet? Because I'm about to after reading this thread.

Aeviternity · 14/08/2017 23:04

He should video you and put you on the internet trying to argue things behind your back are in front of you.

PidgeonSpray · 14/08/2017 23:10

Ahhhh are you saying because your back faces outwards... Not inwards Then that means behind is actually in front of your "front"?

Because the back of your back is facing your chest?

AlternativeTentacle · 14/08/2017 23:10
PidgeonSpray · 14/08/2017 23:15

I really don't get it as it seems you're changing perspective to make this make sense

SilverySurfer · 14/08/2017 23:21

Completely bonkers.

Your poor husband - I reckon he deserves a few Wine

Whatthefoxgoingon · 14/08/2017 23:22

FFS are you this obtuse and argumentative about everything??? You are completely wrong your poor husband

IloveBanff · 14/08/2017 23:23

AlternativeTentacle I just watched the video. The trouble with people that stupid is that if you tell them the answer they just think you're weird for knowing.
Depressing is what it is.

Whatthefoxgoingon · 14/08/2017 23:23

You actually think your back has its own front and back. The mind boggles....

marmaladeforme · 14/08/2017 23:24

Dogs and dolphins!! Calm down Monica 😂

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