Post - wedding message ... please help me, what the hell do I say??

[Puzzledandpissedoff]

I recently attended an ex-colleague's wedding where, in response to a request for cash gifts, I sent what I thought was a pretty decent cheque (£100 if it matters, though I can't help feeling it shouldn't)

Last night I received an email which opened with a few comments about how glad they were to see everybody and how generous they'd all been, then said "we were surprised that your contribution didn't seem to match the warmth of your good wishes on our big day. In view of your own position, if you wanted to send any adjustment it would be thankfully received"

For someone who's not easily shocked I confess I'm utterly gobsmacked by this. So as not to drip feed I'll mention that "your own position" probably refers to a recent inheritance I've had, which maybe they expected something from (and this is an ex-colleague, remember, not a close friend or relative)

Please, anyone, what do I do now? I've never come across anything like this before and still can't quite believe they've done it - but since they have, should I reply, ring them, ignore it or what??

WTAF i actually just gasped out loud at that message.

Cancel the cheque now, and respond telling them how uncalled for that message was and that you have adjusted the gift accordingly. cheeky f*ers.

Reply: "Oh gosh, sorry, what a terrible mix-up. I'm incredibly embarrassed. That was part of mgy fund for another much more special wedding in Maui, so glad you let me know! I've cancelled that cheque, and will be sending your gift special delivery."

Then send them this:

www.debretts.com/shop/books/a-z-of-modern-manners.html

Perfectly reasonable email to have sent, assuming that the wedding was in Maui....

I find this hard to believe, rudeness with bells on.

I would reply:

Thank you for your email. With reference to this sentence:
we were surprised that your contribution didn't seem to match the warmth of your good wishes on our big day. In view of your own position, if you wanted to send any adjustment it would be thankfully received"

I was surprised that you thanks did not seem to match basic good manners usual upon receiving a generous cheque. In view of your blatant rudeness, I have adjusted the amount given.
I have cancelled the cheque.

Let's say this did happen.

Cancel the cheque, say nothing, never contact them again.

Anything else is a waste of your time.

If this is true, I am staggered.

I would cancel the cheque and tell her you gave £500 to Save The Children as there are small children who don't even have food, water or medical care.

A bit of passive aggressive guilting never hurt.

I can't believe this is true, please tell us you're on a windup?! how grabby and entitled must some people in this world be?!

I'm with the others, cancel the cheque or ask them to send it back so that you can send them a new one, then send them one for 10p. Grabby bastards.

This isnt likely to be true. But these threads are always fun for the fiendishly imaginative retribution you vipers can think up.

I think some of you are secretly Evil Geniuses in Boden stripey tops.

Is this real?

The only possible conclusion that I can come to reading that is that they meant it for someone else.

Perhaps the intended recipient expressed disapproval at their marriage and they were emailing to suggest they reduced their contribution given their 'wishes on the day'?!

Echoing PPs:

Cancel the cheque, donate to charity, send them a message explaining that's what you've done.

I'd phone and warn them that their email account had been hacked by scammers.

I also know of someone who sent a letter round asking people to pay for her kid's school fees. She put the letter in the book bags during the first year, to explain she couldn't afford the fees for the next school year and as there are lots of wealthy parents in the school, please could people donate to keep her in school!!

Your entitlement is shocking
Hence I will be mocking
Your request, for now and ever more.

Your attitude is such
When I've given you so much
I wish I'd stuffed the money down your gullet.

If you hadn't banked the cheque
I'd cancel it and wreck
Your hopes of getting more, for good and all

Instead let me present
Something I resent
The bill for my attendance at your do

Enc.

Now I've seen it all.

At first I wondered if they meant it for someone else but my second thought was that regardless, it is a rude message to send to anyone at all, no matter the size of the donation.

also i really really hate being asked for cash donations at weddings

If you can't cancel the cheque just send them another one for 1p as an adjustment

I was going to call 'reverse', but that wouldn't make the OP read any better

Just reply saying "oops, I think you meant to send this to someone else?"

Post the email or it didn't happen...

No one could be so blatantly, rudely self entitled, surely?
I just can't see how it can be true, but I hope it is for the entertainment value.
Sorry OP for your predicament if it is genuine.

If this is true then cancel the cheque if you can. Then post that email not only on your own social media but the social media of every wedding magazine and the like that you can find.