Post - wedding message ... please help me, what the hell do I say??

[Puzzledandpissedoff]

I recently attended an ex-colleague's wedding where, in response to a request for cash gifts, I sent what I thought was a pretty decent cheque (£100 if it matters, though I can't help feeling it shouldn't)

Last night I received an email which opened with a few comments about how glad they were to see everybody and how generous they'd all been, then said "we were surprised that your contribution didn't seem to match the warmth of your good wishes on our big day. In view of your own position, if you wanted to send any adjustment it would be thankfully received"

For someone who's not easily shocked I confess I'm utterly gobsmacked by this. So as not to drip feed I'll mention that "your own position" probably refers to a recent inheritance I've had, which maybe they expected something from (and this is an ex-colleague, remember, not a close friend or relative)

Please, anyone, what do I do now? I've never come across anything like this before and still can't quite believe they've done it - but since they have, should I reply, ring them, ignore it or what??

Enjoying but also reported. Come on.....

This can't be true!

Did the bride know about your inheritance before you were invited to the wedding? Did she maybe invite you knowing you had just inherited a large sum and thought you would be stupid enough to give her a chunk?

My response, given that it's a colleague rather than an actual close friend, would be along the lines of "Are you having a fucking laugh? £100 not enough for you? Grasping bastards."

etc.

And I'd cancel the cheque too, except they've probably banked it already. Can't BELIEVE the cheek of them!

There's no point in reporting it because unless someone from MNHQ was at the same wedding, it can't be proved either way.

That is shocking

I think you need to be absolutely blunt in your reply:

"I am utterly insulted and shocked by the rudeness of your undisguised accusation that my gift to you was too small. Please consider our acquaintance to be at an end and do not contact me again."

There has to be a mix up right?

I'm imagining something like a close relative who spent the whole day bigging up their contribution and then it was a cheque for a £5??

And you got the wrong note??

A wind up surely? But I'm thinking 'please let this be true! PLEASE LET THIS BE TRUE' for the sheer JOY of stopping the cheque and sending a fairly public reply.

You have to send a poem back!

Are you there OP?

Ah Teabag, i think you've hit the mark there.

Shamelessly placemarking for the deletion message

Cancel the cheque if you can and email a video of yourself laughing heartily.

Even if you had been stingy there is no way it's ok to go begging for more. Cheeky fuckers.

Dear Bridezilla

Please find encloseda further cheque to compensate for your disappointment at my original gift. You'll see it is rolled tightly to make it easier for you to ram it right up your arse.

Cheers.

Cancel the cheque, then drop a note to say your financial situation is none of their business and that their brass-necked behaviour towards your generous gift has come 21 years too early - but that you, as a result of their outrageous request, don't intend to keep this friendship going that long.

Wow... 😳😳😳

Wake up you lot

I'm inclined to believe this, as I have heard of something similar recently.

But I'm also placemarking....

I don't believe you. Could you show us the email please?

Fabulous. I so want this to be true.

Cancel the cheque and tell them to fuck off, obviously. Then post their email on Facebook.

Reply with "sorry, yes you are absolutely correct it was a mistake. In my current position of severe constipation I had actually meant to push out a turd for you as a sign of my efforts. Please could you return the cheque and I will swap accordingly."

not place marking at all

Most entertaining thread for weeks. I don't care it it's real.

If it is - please don't do as someone suggested earlier and send them an unsigned cheque for £1000 - it could go through and be processed.

Quietly cancelling the original cheque is the dignified way to go.

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