To Kick These People Out #3 - the countdown begins

[FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse]

The Beginning

The Middle

The end?

So... Long story short... There are horses, soon there should not be (I'm not good at summaries, they make me sound unreasonable).

We have a date! This Saturday! The horses should be taken away to pastures new, so we can roam the meadow in gingham dresses (dh looks good in a gingham dress) and we can have FuckYouFestivals to our heart's content.

There will be choirs and drums and bands and weapons and stackable goats and so much more!

Anyone who's read the threads knows I love a lurker. I can you see you out there. Go on, jump in while the thread's all new and shiny. You know you want to

I seem to have spent half my life, in the past couple of weeks, catching up with this thread

I'm so pleased they have finally gone and you've got to enjoy your field.

I'm shattered so having chinese and will open a bottle and raise a glass to you, Mr Chris, the Chrislets and your field later, Chris.

Been out all day at an extremely boozy jolly gathering. At once stage DH raised a toast 'To no horses'

No one knew, but we drank heartily. Shame the scarf hadn't turned up in time.

Oh Enrique "to no horses!"

I've ended up having a bit of a rubbish day, but that's probably to be expected after the stress of yesterday. One day I'll be normal again? Right?

Bolshie, photos are on a thread in chat. I'm glad too. She sent us a long email earlier saying that once all has settled she'd love to drop by for a cuppa next time she's in the area.

Deja :) most of my time seems to have been spent on here! I can't really quite believe it. We took the puppy over earlier and she ran wild and we all got muddy. Ds2 still bemoaned the lack of horses, but I did point out that we wouldn't be there if it wasn't for the fact that they are gone!

Being able to be there without worrying about where the horses were, meant I actually got to notice how things were. It's very lovely and peaceful. And there's two trees perfectly spaced for a hammock.

Meh! Normal is overrated

You have stood up to an unreasonable woman and achieved your aim all while remaining polite and on the moral higher ground. That is something to be proud of...remember that. Enjoy your field, you deserve it :)

Deja, :) I've always thought so.

Now I need to find someone in RL who will drink with me too.

Or my favourite solution, of you all come for FYF and never leave

Aaaaah Chris congratulations! Just been catching up after a busy weekend (Dd's bday party). Fantastic result and what a lovely last sentence [hammock emoticon]

Thanks bigArea :) how dare you let such things as dd's birthday party get in the way!

Many thanks. Hope dd had a wonderful weekend too.

Arf Brilliant day thank you - she had a Woodland party it was lovely (if I do say so myself)! Actual birthday tomorrow and off to cinema to see The Horse Whisperer the Lego thing

sounds brilliant. Maybe I should start running parties

Chris, you will be fine. Some days obviously will be less fine, but we all have days that are a bit shitty and days that are just ok and then we have good days. Soon the weather will improve and you will have the energy and verve to start doing things on the house and outside - just do one day and then another day and take baby steps.
If you have a bad day, then it's just a one day blip, don't let it be the be all and end all.

I think you need to get a selection of balls for the field and DC, as soon as the mud dries, it'll be great to run around and kick the hell out of them

Have a virtual with me, I might as well go the whole hog now I'm half way there

Hey Chris, I shall come and lie in your hammock and drink wine, however I shall have to stay there forever as I have never yet dismounted a hammock with anything less than a total loss of dignity. Perhaps you can construct a little shelter over it for the chillier, rainier months.. and obviously feed and water me occasionally -or perhaps you can call UW to take over my maintenance as she like collecting strays?

I've opened a bottle of Bucks Fizz that I bought for christmas but never drank because I wasn't well. I've also come to the conclusion that I must have large wine glasses because I get about 2 1/2 - 3 glasses out of a bottle

Agree with taking it one day at a time. If you do have a bad day then take it one hour at a time. You will get through this, you're a strong woman, that you have proven over the last three threads.

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Idea, for shame. Thinking 'dignity' is important. FYC has two trees providentially spaced: it is not in our mortal remit to worry about convention. just have a lovely laze in a hammock as nature/the gods intended.

g'wan, you'll love it.

OK Pedant, but I'm holding you responsible for any gusset-flashing that may ensue

Ohhhh yay and woohoo and all that jazz.

Just caught up and yay

The photos look lovely, so gld RL came back to speak with you, I thought she would.

Now you can concentrate on the important things and be able to relax in your sanctuary with no unwanted visitors.

I now have visions of you sneaking out at night to run around your empty field with just your strategically placed scarf, just cause you can!

Sorry I went AWOL again, but RL went insane, the flooding got really really bad and it was all hands on deck, but someone decided that we had had enough rain and it seems to be getting better. If you have been watching the news at all I live in St. aines in the Thames, as it should now be renamed.
We were fortunate that the sandbags kept it at bay for us, but lots of friends were flooded out and we have had constant visitors to feed.

Can we have a new FYC planning thread so we can carry on chatting? :)

raising a glass to muddy boots and a hammock.

A hammock too!

Awww, Ida, you wear knickers? Bless...

Enrique, Tis good advice. I'm feeling absolutely knackered today. Might have to go for a walk :)

I like the balls idea :) I need to get a chair over there so that I can sit and mumsnet admire the view whilst they play.

Ida, hammocks are tricky. I've been stuck in many a hammock in my time. Don't worry about dignity here. You're safe!

Deja, I wish I felt as strong as you all think I am.

We went for a meal with family yesterday. We invited everyone to ours but they suggested going for a pub lunch instead. Which was all fine but not easy with all the dcs.

I really tried to make conversation and join in, but they kept talking about things they'd done together, without us, and it got more and more difficult to join in. So by halfway through it felt like me and dh were sitting there in silence whilst everyone else had a lovely time.

Afterwards, I'm not sure quite how it happened, but we ended up taking the dcs home whilst everyone else went back to one of the other's houses.

It all felt a bit hijacked.

I'd kind of thought that it was my PND making me feel like family wasn't interested. That's why I made an effort to invite everyone round.

It just left me feeling even more lovely.

It's made me worry that maybe it is me.

I try to balance it out with "but i have friends all over the UK who think I'm great. They genuinely love me and listen to me, and think I'm great company."

I hope you don't mind me having a whinge on here. I was just really disappointed. Dh was too.

Lesson learned; no more socialising with family.

You guys cared more about the horses going than they did! they were pleased, but just got a "oh that's great news" and change of subject.

Pedant, that is the right attitude for a hammock

OohAahbird, oh no! I'm so glad your home survived! How terrifying for you. Fingers crossed the weather gets more normal from here on in.

Do you guys really want another thread once this one has finished?

Steppe, do it. They're never quite as relaxing as I imagine they will be, but they're a lot more fun!

Jux, you can have a turn :)

Pedant

I obviously meant lonely and not lovely.

But the poor spelling has made me feel a bit more lovely.

You are lovely :)

I'm sorry you feel let down by your family. Is it possible to go out with one or two family members rather than a larger group (you don't say how many there were but I'm assuming there were a few from what you've said). That way you can exchange news instead of some of them reminiscing and be more involved in the conversation. I know it must have been hard listening to them to talk about something which you weren't involved in and feeling left out. Even if that wasn't their intention it doesn't feel nice.

Un mumsnetty (((hugs))) for you...rebel that I am

Oh chris... Your family sound a bit - well, rubbish tbh. I do think that smaller gatherings are better these days as its too easy to ignore someone during a big event, even if its 'just' a meal out.

I had a similar experience a couple of years ago at my birthday - invited a bunch of people for a meal, they invited other people along that I didn't know but hey! The more the merrier right? Wrong. Hardly anyone talked to me and it was my jeffing birthday! So I said 'no more' and now we have an unwritten rule of 6 max.

I once lay in a hammock on an African beach and a camel stole my t-shirt!

You are lovely, FYC. Smaller gatherings definitely the way to go, it's so easy to lose people in larger ones. Nowadays, we don't have more people over than can sit round the table, so including us that's two, three at a pinch, four if dd doesn't want to join in.

Well, Isle of Wight and Wales are both sorted. It's almost a boring day here at Lake Horsebegone.

Sorry about the bad lunch. It just happens sometimes, just not having that "social mojo" going on. May I ask, FYC: prior to PND did you have any experience of the more general depression?

Déjà, it was us and two other families. We only invited one family to ours, they said, "why don't we go to the pub instead? Oh and let's invite x too!"

Which is what always seems to happen. They meet up with each other often. I am not usually included. That's fine. I don't expect to be, but when I try to organise something with one lot, it always turns into everyone being invited.

Which would be fine if we weren't so bloody excluded from it!

Alpaca, at the camel. It's annoying isn't it?

The main issue is that they have lived near each other for years and spend a lot of time together. I'm newly here and it makes for a rather "exclusive" feel to any gatherings.

It's made worse by the fact that they all know I'm struggling to get out. At least if they didn't then I could make excuses.

Jux, there's so many of us that it'll always be a squeeze but a good squeeze.

They make me feel like a whiney child stomping my feet and saying "this was my idea! Pay me attention!"

I got a few "I pass your house so often, I always think about dropping in but I never do" comments. To which I replied, "that would be lovely! You really should. Anytime." Whilst thinking "why tell me that? You're always telling me you'd love to come round, have the opportunity and choose not to. Surely that's just mean?"

They've always been rubbish. I just hoped they'd... Well... Not be.

The only story I did tell, the one about RL coming round and telling me about UW's abusive ex and me saying "join the club", I had to edit, because I know they think I'm exaggerating what XH did to me :(

Dh says I'm assuming that. And to an extent i am. But I always notice looks being exchanged if I mention the "abuse" word. There's a lot of "yes, but it's different with you, it wasn't that bad/you get very wound up by things/everyone else has dealt with similar/I wish he had just beat you to a pulp"

Sorry that's a very long whinge.