D'y ever wonder how life got like this?

[FrumpyGrumpy]

New to MN but like what I read so far. Struggling to get by day by day at the minute and feeling isolated but not enough to make the effort to join in the 'groups' the whole world seems to think are just what I need!!!!

Have daughter of 4 and girl and boy twins of eight months. Not had time since they were born when all three kids have been well, am I just cursed? Throw in a house move that took 6 months, a partner that works away most of the week and a mother-in-law I can wait another lifetime to deal with and I've ended up the sort of person I used to look at and wonder how life got like that.

Anyone give me hope that when the babes are eighteen months I'll feel better?!! If not, anyone tell me that alternate nights of gin then chocolate is an ok passage through?

They don't all turn into Kevins and Perrys. Some stay incredibly sweet and loving. At least that's what I tell myself as I kiss DS1 goodnight.

Escaped to the cinema tonight. DH working overnight and I couldn't bear the thought of staying in with sick kids all night. My babysitter is lovely. She wouldn't let me pay her. She said that she likes my kids and doesn't want to make money out of me. How lovely is that. Combined with the free tickets from the Standard last week. Result! I went to see the Interpreter which I enjoyed. Off to bed just now as the DTs are sleeping and who knows how long that will last.

Rock on. We truly are living the dream!

Marslady, your babysitter is a angel from above! Once in a while someone like that pops into your life and restores the faith. I have trouble doing anything outside the treadmill, just can't seem to allow myself the pleasure.... Anyway, I guess thats why you're on the chilled side and I'm flappin like a flappin thing.

Its been a better weekend for me in myself, just need DT1 to stop crying all night. She has taken to waking on and off from early on (9pm ish), sometimes right through. I tend to ignore for a while then check her. There's no signs of teething (although she's only got one tooth so I guess she'll be due one or two more ).

Have to sort myself out, really am beginning to look like a tired out mother of three and surely there's no need for that!

How was the weekend girls?

The weekend has been good. The weather is lovely. We've done the park to death. The DTs seem to have gotten over their viruses. They've spent today running away from me in the garden and playing in water. DH is now at work and I've fed the girls and the DTs, DS1 is at the cinema with his mates and now I'm getting their bits ready for school tomorrow. These bank holidays really knock me out of sync. Ah well... it could be worse.

FG, you sound like you need a little more wine in your life. Works for me lol

I'm looking forward to days when my DT's can play in the garden although I suppose it always just brings another set of issues - eating dirt!!

Well I took a leaf from the book of Mars and me and DP went to the flicks. Didn't fancy the child friendly ones a bit so we went to The Interpreter. How good was that! Must have done me some good because instead of my mind fretting all night about what time I'd be up and why DT1 keeps being so unsettled, I spent the night wondering how gorgeous it would be to have just one, little, tiny, full face snog with Sean Penn. I mean in his Madonna days he was barely so-so in my book but now...... Am thinking Robert De Niro type craggy handsomeness. I mean I am obviously far too responsible to contemplate a fully fledged affair with said eye candy but the thought of a bit of up close breathing beside him is a picture that's keeping me going today! I, of course look somewhat similar to Nicole Kidman so mutual fanciability is guaranteed .

Dreamy sigh.

So girls, open to all, what eye candy keeps you goin in these days of food, poo and snail trails on your shoulders?

Reckon you'll feel better much sooner than when the twins get to 18 months. I don't have twins (a 2.10 year old and a 13 month old) so not as harassed as you, but things started looking up from when ds was about 11 months on for me (i.e. quite recently)

Feel like I've just crashed a party!

lol, frumpy!!

Personally, it's been too soon since I gave birth to even think abt eye candy!

We had a lovely weekend, went to Battersea park and had a BBQ. Now, I'm stuck home with four kids as the elsest one hass a stomach bug AGAIN! DP is on earlies, so i get 4 kids dressed and down the school, only to have to go back up there at 9.30 to pick her up again. Grr!

But on the plus side I'm getting some sleep now! The twins are having about 7-8bottles ebm during the day, then 2-3 formula to get through the night. So they cry and feed a lot of the mornign and evenign, but sleep in the afternoons and at night, just waking up for one or two feeds.

I've even had time to cook again. Now I just have to find time to study and tackle that pile of ironing....

sod the ironing Kelly. lol Glad you're getting some sleep though!

frumpy, good on you for going out. Great film huh? I love Clive Owen, which is a closely guarded secret. Actually, I always post about how gorgeous he is!

My DTs are about to be 15months. Blimey. I'm knackered from chasing them everywhere. They love eating dirt and have been known to drink puddle water and give sighs of satisfaction!

Welcome to the party HMC. I don't know about easier, but it is a whole other ball game.

Kelly, how come you do AAAALLLL that and still sound like its manageable?!!! Cooking, barbies, studying, STUDYING!!!! I can only study my dodgy hairdo and wonder if I can transplant some from my dodgy legs. Take care of you remember honey.

Crash on handlemecarefully and thanks for that! I'm doing the emotional rollercoaster but have felt a lot steadier with the support of the online chat here. I keep taking the badger pee herbs ......

Marslady, mmmmn Clive Owen. Not top on my list (which is good for us) but I see the attraction. Do like the spark in the eyes. Bruce Springsteen still tops it for me really, now, then, whenever.

DT2, my one good sleeper, is coughing and coughing and coughing and whimpering. Not promising for the night since DT1 still doing her thing and DP away til Thursday night. Find the nights alone are hardest. Going to hit bed, hide under the duvet and hope. Maybe with a little Sean Penn dream thrown in.

Did u get a good night FG? Sweet dreams?
I do it all cos I have to, and just get very irritable at least once a week cos I have too much to do!!

Ravi was up for a good two hours but other than that they slept, so that wasn't bad. DD still sick so another day stuck in, but at least I didn't have to get up til 8.

Poor DP is knackered tho, from having to get up for work at 5 - he's fallen over getting out of the car (don't ask me how) and bashed himself and the car alarm up.

Sweetish dreams thanks Kelly, DT1 had me up, she's unexplicably (sp?) unsettled, every night and no teething signs. I think she just gets stuck moving around the cot (not yet crawling even though DT2 has been for months), although why she's so restless I don't know....

Having not such a good day in myself, still fighting with demons and trying hard to win. Two in bed and one about to go so maybe some hours to claim for me (hey, maybe do some laundry!! lucky me!!)

Some wine making it a bit softer to bear though and still a dose of herby pee stuff to cheer me along!

Be back later to maybe whinge a bit if I can't rise to a bit humour.....

Oh ye, and I like the sound of someone that falls over getting in or out the car, it reassures me I'm not the only wombat around! I once fell off a bus and broke my arm! I KNOW!

hi fg, where've you gone? how's your weekend been?

Hi all, Am exhausted dt1 being very willfull!(is that the right word?) Arguing with everything I say, Constantly saying 'No I won't' Constantly attacking siblings not only his Dt. AARGHHHHHHHH
Told him yesterday 'Pleaase be a good boy mummy is going to cry' He said 'go on then cry mummy!'

I started some laundry on Thursday night and I've only just surfaced! I look like I've been snorting cocaine but I swear its only Persil. Is it a silly idea to get washing machines plumbed straight into the kids rooms? Is that a bit reckless? Am I a pushy mother?

What age are they 2manypushchairs?

DT1 bit DT2 today. It was not a pretty sight. Ah well........... they were kissing earlier lol

Hey doll! Was the kissing bit before or after the bite? Someone get a bit passionate?

before and then after lol

Wow, so actually it waaas a love bite really! What are you going to do, educate, separate or just ask the dentist to pull teeth .

pulling teeth sounds good

Ye AND then you can let them eat the cupboards without worry of having to get them Da Vinci crowns. Gotta go to bed sadly but be back another time soon if I don't get accosted by a prince on a white horse again. Nite Mars x.

Any ideas why DT1 wakes every night, for couple of hours, unhappy but showing no signs of anything being wrong apart from being a bit sniffly maybe? Tried EVERYTHING. Has afternoon sleep of about hour or hour and a half, done by 3 or 3.30pm. Tried cuddling, calpol, controlled crying technique, ignoring her completely (at the risk of waking other kids), less clothes, more clothes etc. etc..... Confused and tired!!! Older daughter was dodgy sleeper at same age and didn't get to bottom of that either but can't do it again!!!!

Just left DT2 with something too big to get in his mouth so I could send this and sure enough it fitted in his mouth. At least I know I've still got a heartbeat. Oh dear!

Wednesdays are always dodgy days and nights for me as DP isn't home til Thursday nights at earliest. Just feeling a bit fed up doing it all alone. DT1 and DD had me up a lot last night and DT2 (my one good sleeper) took time to settle tonight and DD crying with sore ears (all connected to the sore throat and cough she's had). The're all lovely kids and I never mind dealing with the snot, sick, poo and tears but when they all have it and they all need it and there's no-one else walking through the door at some point in the night to lighten the atmosphere and put things in perspective, it gets to me.

I'm luckier than lots and I just have to stop wallowing in self pity I think and keep reminding myself that in a few years it will be different.

My one good sleeper, DT2 just woke up crying and he's already had the calpol.....

Kitchen full of dishes, toys everywhere, not eaten for a bit and need a wee. Best see to him first I think.