D'y ever wonder how life got like this?

[FrumpyGrumpy]

New to MN but like what I read so far. Struggling to get by day by day at the minute and feeling isolated but not enough to make the effort to join in the 'groups' the whole world seems to think are just what I need!!!!

Have daughter of 4 and girl and boy twins of eight months. Not had time since they were born when all three kids have been well, am I just cursed? Throw in a house move that took 6 months, a partner that works away most of the week and a mother-in-law I can wait another lifetime to deal with and I've ended up the sort of person I used to look at and wonder how life got like that.

Anyone give me hope that when the babes are eighteen months I'll feel better?!! If not, anyone tell me that alternate nights of gin then chocolate is an ok passage through?

can I suggest you all start a new thread - this one is so long it is daunting .

I have often felt tempted to come on over - but can't face wading through it all - it dates back to April 2005 .

Hello everyone again!

DD and I have been away doing camping for a couple of weekends... Don't ask me why, but I kind of think that I might as well not sleep in a tent as not sleep at home.

FG - thanks very much for the welcome - I hope you get some time for yourself soon - is there anyone who can take all the children to the park while you go for a coffee and read a book for an hour or so? If that's the kind of thing you like to do, of course. At least you're out of the house that way and you can't do a 'job'. But you probably know all that already.

JuA - thank you too for sharing pics of feeding - I've been trying to find info on twin feeding but not doing very well. Hoping to breastfeed if poss, but it's always good to see other ways of doing things too. My boobs are sooooo itchy at the moment.... (hope you don't mind me sharing that!)

I've been fighting hospitals again already - they've charted twin 1 incorrectly on my growth chart so he's above the 97th centile, and they're all hopping about it. Neither the student obs, the senior obs or the sonographer actually checked the source scan data when they looked at the growth chart and saw that there was a growth discrepancy. Aren't they supposed to be the professionals??? And now none of them will believe me because they don't keep a copy of the scan data on my file at the hospital - I have the only copy. So got to go back next week for ANOTHER scan which I'm hopping about - this was after a bit of bartering on my part: I know my maternity rights, but I kind of feel that I need to keep some of the hospital staff happy as I may need them! But why is it all a fight?

ML - haven't contacted you yet because I haven't actually talked to my doula either - thought it was best to have a chat to her first. But I will.

Anyway, bed is calling, pelvis is aching, wish I could help anyone who needs it but feel that you all have (obviously!) much more experience than I do at managing everything.

Take care everyone. Thank you for being here.
Doris

(And yes, I loved my leg warmers too!!)

Oh, and HM, I lost it with DD the other day at bedtime (my worst time for tiredness and guilt). My neighbour heard me through the wall (I live in a granite built terrace so quite thick), and her 18 month old son did too, and wanted to know why I was shouting/crying. Left DD also crying as I told her if she carried on like this I would leave. Actually meant I would leave the room, but it came over that I would leave the house, I think.

Had a bit of explaining to do when I'd managed to calm down. Fortunately DD is very considerate and now does stuff because "You're too tired, Mummy."

It is hellish being pregnant with small child/ren and no husband/help around. Not the same as being a bad/psycho mother. And anyway, it's probably good for them to see their parents expressing emotions properly and will eventually make them into better and more normal adults.

Thinking of you. D

new thread here guys, come on over!