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'd'ya ever wonder how many times you will be asked if they are twins?'

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MarsLady · 06/06/2007 23:44

C'mon girls. Got bored of waiting and started the new thread!

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oooggs · 18/07/2007 14:01

happy birthday estar, oh to be 20 something

LG&T - Erin & Jack are growing well, let me know when you are next down these parts and they can buy you a pint

Elsa - small twin bump????? lucky you I had 'wide load' across my back

3 bad nights in a row, up wanting to party - no routine - I am shattered. Only thing working is they go to bed/sleep 6.45pm fantastically.

chopster · 18/07/2007 14:25

Yey, well done HM for gettign the run in!

oogs, get yourself down there - it gives you MORE energy, honest!

kneehigh, def speak to someone, it sounds like wind, and they can advise you. Hope you get it sorted soon.
One of mine didn't really like formula to start with neither, she will get used to it.

flibertyjibbet - why do people always want to know?! I got asked THREE tiems yesterday.

Happy birthday dear Estar! It's actually dry here, bet it doesnt last though. It absolutely has to stop by friday though, the schools break up.

largegin, you are very organised! I've completely forgotten about presents for the teachers, and dd is leaving infants and has had the same teacher for two years.

Elsa, I didn't realise you were hding it from family too. I'm amazed that your GP hasn't contacted your parents. Since you are under 16 it is common for social services to be informed too. You need to elt your parents know, you will need their support.

I found the gym such hard going today. Changed my routine, and did the cross trainer for the first time there.

elsa07 · 18/07/2007 16:48

Chopster +menageriekeeper + Meeely2 - I know that I should have told someone other than my friend! This is probably the most stupid thing I?ve ever done in my entire life and I feel terrible?but as time passed it was just easier not to say anything. I?m such a fool. Also, they might have wanted me to get an abortion, and I didn?t want that, I might only be 15, but I love the babies inside me more than I?ve ever loved anything in my entire life, and to have them taken away from me? it doesn?t bear talking about. Also, I didn?t even know I was pregnant till about 22 weeks and then I was in denial for a while.
I know that when I tell them they?re going to want to know all the details, they deserve those answers but I?m not really up to telling them just yet - maybe I?ll have to write it down. I am going to tell them tonight, I?m just working myself up to telling them. (Insert strained smile here). I actually hadn't realised how hard I've been trying to hide it from my parents, it sort of became second nature, not really deliberate, I was doing it unconsciously.
I?ll tell my school tomorrow, that will be one hell of a bomb shell on the day we break up won?t it! Thank god my friend is gonna be there with me! I?ll come on later and tell you all how it?s gone on. Hopefully I?ll still be alive? Wish me luck!

triplets · 18/07/2007 16:50

Hi all,
No news from Bibi? Hope we hear soon. Niggly pain seems more in my left boob, hardly there today, no lumps felt, so dont know what it is, if its still there by Frid I will go to docs. Had sad news today of a friend who died this morning of brain cancer, met her after losing her 5 yr old daughter in 95, they have an 11 yr old daughter at our school, broke my heart to see Dad turn up to pick her up, she didnt know, isn`t life just the pits at times?

triplets · 18/07/2007 16:53

Elsa,
What alot you have to deal with, did you not report the rape? I hope that you recieve support tonight, you sound so brave, though I can imagine you are feeling anything but. Are you being seen by a doctor, had scans? Forgive me if I am asking too many questions, just concerned for you, xx

menageriekeeper · 18/07/2007 17:08

Just wondering really how you've managed to hide hospital appointments etc from the school and home. I am a nosy old bint, me.

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largeginandtonic · 18/07/2007 19:56

Oh triplets i am lost for words, i just cannot imagine life like it Your poor friends dh and daughter. Lots of love to them both. Really hope you are ok too, get checked by the doc.

Elsa good luck tonight

Chops i love the cross trainer, i cuold spend hours there with my 'tunes' playing No kids, no demands oh heaven.... i wanna go back to the gym >

largeginandtonic · 18/07/2007 20:00

Mommalove mine were head down but still managed to become an emergency section I just was so at going in to labour at 29wks i didnt argue. As it turned out twin 1's waters went first and twin 2's stayed intact till they popped them, he was squishing twin 1 in to the transverse position so i would not have been able to deliver naturally anyway.

Sure your delivery will be fine, OOOGS had a brill delivery with her lovely 2.

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elsa07 · 18/07/2007 21:38

Hello all!
To tell you the truth menageriekeeper, I haven?t got a clue how I?ve managed to keep it all a secret. It?s really easy to get out of school for a while, sick notes can be forged, friends cover for me in lessons - my best friend can do a brilliant imitation of my voice, so even if the teachers do a register, they still think I?m there. We all move seats each lesson anyway, so they don?t really notice any empty chairs and we have loads and loads of supply teachers - atm, we have 5 lessons covered by student teachers who don?t even know our names! I keep a low profile nowadays and don?t talk in lessons and sit at the very back so they hardly notice me. Because I?m one of the top in my class and keep on top of the work, teachers tend not to notice that I?m not there. At home, it was easy because if I go out, my parents assume I?m going to my friends house since I?m always there. I look a lot older than 15, more like 17 because I?m so tall, so if I walk through town, no-one really gives me a second glance because they think I?m older if I change out of uniform. I let people assume what they want.

Triplets - I am so sorry about your friend, sends virtual cuddle. I can?t imagine what you must be going through, and your friend?s daughter and husband . To answer your questions, yes I am having scans and being seen by a doctor and I am most certainly not feeling brave atm, in fact, I?m petrified! No, I didn?t report the rape, . I didn?t want to. Thanks for your concern, I don?t mind questions!

Mommalove - that?s so exciting! I wonder who will give birth first, you or me? Have you got any names yet? I haven?t. You?ve probably already answered that question somewhere on this forum, but I can?t be bothered reading it all! (Looks around sheepishly) It?s so long!

Talkin? to my parents went better than expected - although, that in itself isn?t hard, I was half expecting to get lynched for not telling them earlier!
Well, in a FOUR hour talk, I managed to tell them everything, and now, my mum?s really excited about being a grandmother to twins! She?s taking me to London on Friday so we can buy some stuff for them, any advice on things we should get? I showed them some of the ultrasound pics I?ve got, and she?s so happy, I think she?s already choosing their rooms. My dad?s a bit more reserved, I think he?s plotting to kill the man that dared touch me, and doesn?t really want me to have kids so young - I suppose I can?t blame him for that - I don?t think he likes the idea of me having that monster?s kids either. I was wondering actually, is it possible for him to one day randomly turn up, and demand the kids? Would he get custody? Hope you?re all okay. Thanks Elsa xx

estar · 18/07/2007 22:13

Wow, Elsa, can't believe your mum took it so well! You are so fortunate to have that kind of support around you, especially when it must be such a shock - my mum turned pale at the thought of having to occasionally babysit twins and I was 24, married and living in a different house! So glad for you.

Advice on things to get - just lots of clothes as they make a lot of mess!

Don't know about the custody thing, especially if its difficult to prove the circumstances, but I suspect the law will be heavily on your side. Anyone?

And huge respect to you for going through with it all. Too many people just get rid of babies through fear and then spend a long time having to get over that too, as well as the rape. You may have been in denial for part of it, but it sounds like you're facing up to the responsibility now. Hope we manage to give you a balanced and helpful perspective on here! xxxxxxxxxxx

MarsLady · 18/07/2007 22:37

Not doula-ing (well I am... but I'm trying to write a couple of essays). The big end of year assignment is looming!

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chopster · 19/07/2007 08:21

glad it went so well for you elsa. I wouldn't worry about custody, I really can't see that being allowed. If he demands visitation rights though, it is likely you will have to allow access. I wouldn't worry about these things yet though, you have enough on your plate.

largegin, it is amazing what a difference some good music makes, isn't it! I find it so much easier to keep going if I've got something really lively blasting out on my pod. I def love the kid free time too. And I've lost 3lbs this week, and 5lbs at some point in the past week or two too! I feel goood!

Poor dd is on her last two days of infants, before she goes up to the junior school. I can't believe it. I don't know why but the change of uniform makes her look so grown up - what happened to my little chubby baby?! She is really excited by it all, I don't think it has really hit her yet, and ds1 is defo going to miss her.

Triplets, have you pulled a muscle? I've had sore boobs on and off lately and it's stretching the muscle behind them. I agree though, you should get it checked out. Isn't your holiday soon? You don't want to be worrying about these things while away.

Good luck with the tma, mars.

meeley, where are you?

oooggs · 19/07/2007 09:45

haven't time at mo to post/catch up this was my birth story mommalove

Meeely2 · 19/07/2007 09:57

mommalove, i was head down and breach - or rather my boys were - however at 29 weeks, not the biggest things to try and squeeze out, so 40 mins after first major contraction it was all over! The head down twin preps everyting for breech twin. However you will be very tired for the breach delivery, so you really have to focus to get him/her out quickly else they breath too early, absorbing muconium.

My breach boy was not very well to start with, but he's 2 and half now and absolutely fine!

elsa07 · 19/07/2007 17:16

Hello all! Hope you're all well... School's out for the summer!! YAY!!
Estar - I know! I couldn?t believe how wonderful my mum was about the whole thing either! Although, I will admit that it did make me very nervous when she fainted when I said I was just pregnant - never mind twins! She had been growing steadily paler throughout the entire conversation, I never knew people could lose so much blood from their faces!
I laughed today, because she told me which rooms the twins were going to have, and they're on the complete oposite side of the manor than she is, she won't even hear them crying! She's sorted two bedrooms for them and a nursery for them to share that we're going to decorate, I was wondering if it was better for twins to have the same bedroom, everywhere I look on the internet, there's a different opinion...what did you all do?

Any ideas on names would be greatly appreciated, I'm partial to: Sydney, Ella, Emma, Erin, Ellie, Evie, Kate, Holly, Lily.

Well, I'm off to get some sleep, I've had a splitting headache all day and the twins would not settle down last night so I didn't sleep very well. xx

triplets · 19/07/2007 21:35

Hi all,
So glad your parents are being so supportive, you must feel relieved that they now know. Niggly pain gone, feeling ok today, had an appt at hospital for a masking device for my tinnitus, feel like an old croc, the audiologist said that she detected alot of tension within me, could be the cause of the tinnitus, when she heard my story she almost collapsed! So will pop in my lovely hearing device, "ow attractive" it will look and hopefully fall asleep to the relaxing sound of soft waves!!! We`ll see! No news yet from Bibi?

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chopster · 20/07/2007 07:35

mommalove, you can tell us, we don't count, we are jsut figments of your imagination...

I bet 50p on Horace and Angelica

Elsa, You will probably want them in with you to start with, not in their own rooms, so I wouldn't rush into decorating rooms yet. Thing of all the night feeds, you don't want to be traispsing back and forth. I doubt the babies would be very impressed being stuck in rooms on their own neither! Mine refused to sleep in the bedroom on their own until at least a few months old.

Look at the weather!! It's like flipping winter. I wish I was with fg, bet she is having a great time.

inamuckingfuddle · 20/07/2007 08:13

morning all, haven't posted for ages sorry I will catch up on all these names I don't recognise and get back to you all some time next week...

Summer starts here for me - no wonder its pouring with rain, a sure sign that its school hols

chopster · 20/07/2007 08:30

hello fuddle.
Mine break up this afternoon. The next two weeks are going to draag! Then mine are in holiday club for a week.

Meeely2 · 20/07/2007 08:51

A Manor no less Elsa!!! Agree with Chopster (shock horror), you will want them in with you to begin with, close to hand - the little beggers will have you up all night, easier just to roll out of bed and fetch them than having to trawl across your MANOR! (soooo jealous). We moved our two into their own room at about 4.5 months (so 2 and half months after they came home) simply cos they could no longer share a cot and we couldn't fit TWO cots in our bedroom (we only have a 3 bed semi u see!).

How is everyone today - in foul mood myself, if you are interested I will tell you later when i have calmed down.

oooggs · 20/07/2007 08:52

lovely day down here so we are off for a walk soon.

Elsa - dts are 16 weeks and are sharing a cot in with us (well we are in the bursery with them!!!)

Mommalove - dts birth fantastic - ds1 birth crap - couldn't believe the difference. Both pregnancys terrible though NO MORE

good luck for the summer hols, ds1 preschool runs right through so it is a few years before we are affected.

oooggs · 20/07/2007 08:52

nursery

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