estar, I'm with you on the book it must only be sold to those who have already had twins though......under the counter in a brown bag
Oooooooooooogs, right, colic first. My DD1 and also DT2 suffered with it. I thought it was my imagination/useless mothering with DD1 and only when I had the DTs did I realise.......I got some herbal drops for DT2 which I popped in a bottle with a little formula (this might not work if you are exclusively b/feeding, I can't remember if you are.....). I had a consultation with a herbalist and she made it up with soothing things and digestive things and marshmallow is the only one I can remember. I'm not sure it helped but I was willing to try and it certainly didn't hinder. What did work really, really well was cranio-sacral therapy. Also referred to as cranio osteopathy. Its a hands on (barely) treatment which some osteopaths do in a baby/child clinic. It is soothing and calm and the osteopath we used had an amazing deep voice. It might sound mumbojumbo (be sure to get a recommended osteopath or at least from a very reputable place) but MY GOD it made a massive difference to my DT2 after the first session. He only had two sessions and it didn't go completely but I would say he was 90% better. Really worth it IMHO.
Secondly, routine. It is worth trying at this stage although I can't say that mine worked better until at least 3 months and hugely better at 5 months.
The hardest part of my day was/is evenings. I would give DD her tea at 4.30pm. DTs had feeds.
DD went in the bath 5.30pm. DTs lay kicking on gym, change mat or swinging in the swing or rocking in bouncy chair. While I bathed, dried and pyjama clad DD.
DD 'helped' or played or watch TV while I bathed DTs separately in baby bath. I would rotate the DTs. One on the change mat awaiting bath, one in the swing. Pop first into bath, lay other on change mat nappy free. Wash and dry first and put in swing (by now crying for next feed). Turn swing on to medium power while wash and dry next one. Whack power up to full if DT in swing is inconsolable.
Swap DTs and feed or wake and feed and put other in swing. Shove first one into crib regardless of awake or sleep or crying and aim to get back to that baby asap. Feed other and do same. Leave both in crib(s) far away from DD so she can have bedtime story in peace.
Finally go back to DTs and re-settle/top up breastfeed whoever needs it.
In my house, everyone had to wait at some point because everyone deserved their little bit of time just for them. There is no easy way and no right or wrong way.
Remember, however you get through this bit is fine, you are only human, you are doing your best and the DTs will not remember. xxxxx
How did it go Kelly? Car working? If your fuel guage is buggered try re-setting the mileage everytime you fill the tank. You can then roughly gauge how many miles before you need to re-fill.