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D'ya ever wonder... [enter witty phase here]

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MultipleMama · 15/05/2014 19:45

We fill these up fast! Grin

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triplets · 07/10/2014 08:13

Morning all............what a change in the weather, gloomy.......I hate it, find it soooo depressing when you know you have seen the last of the summer. Boys went out at 6.30am and it was a monsoon, poor kids. Got back at 7.20am drenched through socks and all and to help matters my bloody tumble dryer packed up y/day :( More expense. Dds travel pass has still not arrived at the college, that's another £20.50p tomorrow for a mega rider, that means £82 in fares since the 10th Sept which you cant claim back. Getting very very worried about dh, I am now 100% certain he has Parkinsons, all the obv symptoms and now he is losing weight. In the last 6 weeks he has lost almost a stone, he says he has tried deliberately, says the nurse was pleased when he went for his blood pressure check y/day. I don`t think so, I think he has lost his appetite, sense of smell and that is contributing. Oh girls this is going to sound so mean but I am dreading it if it gets much worse than it is. The last 20 years have been such a roller coaster, now that the trio are getting a bit more independent I was hoping for some freedom........I am already taking over lots of the things he used to do. The boys really need to be taught diy basics, y/day we spent the day doing shelving etc in Rebeccas room, it took dh hours to do the simplest jobs, jobs he would have done in half the time 6 months ago. I worry about how long he will be able to drive, we all rely on him, I am terrified of driving, am such a bad passenger in a car. James is quite keen to learn asap, kids will be 17 in Jan so need to try and get on to that. Worry worry worry!!!

bubby64 · 07/10/2014 11:37

Oh trips- that is a worry for you, I must admit the thought of going straight from being a mum to being a carer with no respite inbetween would get to me too. Sad
Has he got a neurologist appointment yet? if he has got parkinsons the sooner he starts the drugs the better.
Weather here- tipping it down up to 9am, so the boys would have got drenched walking down and waiting for their bus, now bright sunshine!!

triplets · 07/10/2014 22:56

Thank you Bubby, you are always so kind. Yes he has his first appt on Nov 18th, three month wait. Today in the Mail there was a big article on Billy Connolly who has it and prostate cancer. Then the health page had a big article on Parkinsons mainly about bad sleep pattern and nightmares, both an early warning sign of the disease, dh has had nightmares for the last 5 years. I have been reading about the meds on offer, we know there is no cure, but it seems the sid effects of the meds can be as bad, causing tics. Not bloody fair is it?

shabbs · 08/10/2014 08:50

Trips its not fair....in fact it is a giant pile of shite poo!!! I don't know what I can do to help you or make things easier for you. As always, I wish we lived closer to each other. If you ever need to talk or if there is anything constructive that I can do I am here my friend. xxxxx

Minisoksmakehardwork · 08/10/2014 09:50

Oh trips! Sorry your roller coaster won't let you off! Am desperately hoping for you that it's not Parkinson's but something else more readily managed (thinking of my dad being in that 5% and hoping the same can be true for your dh).

Have been rather absent lately because everything is just manic. I don't know where the days are going.

James is settling down a bit. He asks every day if it's a school day and tells me he only wanted to go for 2 weeks! (I did say perhaps he should tell his teacher that). But we're having less morning issues. Consequently though we are having more and worse once we get home.

Jen and josh appear to be going through what is described as typical twin twos and are fighting with each other. Even just walking past and bopping the other on the head! Jen hasn't the ability to say sorry yet. So we're getting screaming tantrums from her. Seriously concerned that she needs some salt input to help her express herself. She spent ages trying to tell me something last night, repeating herself over and over. And getting more frustrated because I didn't have a clue. Or she just points at things, with a very delicate pointy finger. Aaaah!

Chops. How are you getting on with the school?

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MultipleMama · 08/10/2014 23:00

Oh Trips, massive hugs. I have my fingers crossed that it isn't Parkinsons. You deserves some good news your way.

Bubs, I hate my photo taken too especially when I was in my work uniform because I never wore make-up and had the messed up do possible Grin

School called me this afternoon; A had a massive screaming fit which included throwing things and kicking at anyone who came near her (she's never been violent before). When I got there she was in the headmaster's office, curled in the corner, crying her eyes out with the headmaster sat next to her. I'm very pleased with how the headmaster and teacher handled the situation though.

I had my eye appointment this morning, and saw another specialist and he thinks he knows what's caused the scarring on my eyes, but I need to wait for my results to see if it comes back as positive. I'm praying to God it's negative...

So exhausted. Been having cramps all day :(

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triplets · 10/10/2014 04:56

Awake since 3am...........ambulance across the road, head full of worries..........grrrrrr..........need to sleep......

Minisoksmakehardwork · 10/10/2014 07:23

Cuppa tea trips? Hope you got some more sleep.

triplets · 10/10/2014 08:11

Not really, had dreadful heartburn about 6am, then did drop off, boys alarm woke me at 6.20am.......then up at 6.45am. Just done two packed lunches, 3 lots of pancakes, emptied dishwasher, fed the cat, made sure everyone is out the door and am now back in bed, but need to be out by 9.30am! Going to be a longggggggggg day!

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MultipleMama · 10/10/2014 12:39

Hey ladies.

Stayed an hour at school with A today to settle her in, then had a meeting with him about how to help her adjust and then a conversation about K, as his teacher had wrote on his assessment that he calling certain lessons "too easy" and becomes restless Blush

Had my weekly scan yesterday, and it's not great news. The CCAM has grown agressively in size, the BPS has started to grow (so the steriods haven't worked :( ) and his heart as been completely pushed to side. He's no longer a candidate for fetal surgery so now it's a watch for a hydrops or heart failure, if that develops; he needs to be delivered :(

However, good news; he's growning a little faster, his heartbeat is very strong and he had hiccups :)

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Minisoksmakehardwork · 13/10/2014 20:09

Mama. It must be such a roller coaster for you. However, you're such a strong, United family I'm sure whatever lemons you get thrown you'll make delicious lemonade.

We're still plodding along here. I'm struggling with the dc. Dh has been working a bit of overtime lately and it's showing on all of us. The kids are running rampant and completely ignoring me. The twins seem to think it a fun game to remove every book from the shelves in their room and then lay on th shelves to 'go sleep mummy'. Complete with fake snoring. They are a delight but oh why they have to challenge me after I asked to reduce my meds...

James is, well james. No further forward really. And emily is struggling with having to be the oldest and therefore more responsible of them. And is showing it with whopping stomping tantrums.

Currently James is medicated to sleep and the twins are creating havoc upstairs and keeping emily awake. I'm ignoring them since it makes no difference at the moment. Although it's surely only a matter of time before one of them hurts themselves.

shabbs · 14/10/2014 08:29

Morning girls xx

Chopstheduck · 14/10/2014 09:09

hey ladies.

Been soo busy!

Trips, that is utterly shit. Really hope he is in that minority and it isn't parkinsons xxx How was your weekend?

they do sound a handful, soks!

Still having shit with the school. I have a thread running here with updates.

Really hoping we do get the house. I have a friend who is emigrating and so we may get her house - 4 bed, and TWO bathroom!! Ds1 would get his own room, and there is room for the kids to have more of their own space, friends round, etc. Detached, so no more noisy neighbours neither.

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MultipleMama · 14/10/2014 10:27

Chops - I just read your thread, and will keep reading. It seems you have been given some really good advice and I am so shocked at how this is being handled. It would not surprise me if the HT is acting as the "innocent one" and making you feel sorry for her because "she's at a loss" when it's her job! Just about to add my 2 bits to your thread so I can keep it on my watch list.

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MultipleMama · 15/10/2014 00:19

I can't do this again, I really can't do this again. I don't want to bloody do it again.

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Chopstheduck · 15/10/2014 07:25

What's up, mama? :(

{{{hugs}}}

Minisoksmakehardwork · 15/10/2014 07:40

Oh mama. Talk to us! ((Hugs))

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MultipleMama · 15/10/2014 08:14

I had a baby last night..

My post was myself having a complete meltdown and to be honest, I think I'm probably still having one. Couldn't/can't sleep and too many thoughts and scenarios.

... why was I stupid enough to think I could do this pregnancy thing again. So stupid. Why didn't I just listen to everyone...

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Chopstheduck · 15/10/2014 08:33

Mama, whatever has happened it is NOT your fault and you are not stupid. You are an amazing strong person with a beautiful family. Hang on in there xx

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MultipleMama · 15/10/2014 08:45

I know it wasn't my fault but I did set myself up for it, didn't I? I pushed myself and my luck too far. I knew should have stopped.

They won't let us see him, yet.

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Minisoksmakehardwork · 15/10/2014 09:29

Oh mama. You are so not to blame! Things happen with no rhyme or reason.

I hope you get to see your little boy soon. What's his name? I can't remember if you told us already what your names were going to be.

Sending you huggiest hugs across the miles and thinking of you all today x

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MultipleMama · 15/10/2014 10:53

They've gave me something to sleep and I can feel it working, so yay, sleep. DH is waiting outside the NICU after an arguement early this morning, I haven't seen him since...

We decided to name him Feliks Ambrose. He needs a good, positive strong name. DH says he looks like a Feliks.

They're sending a counsellor down to talk to me/us today, apparently it's something they offer to all parents of premature babies. I really don't want to talk to her, I don't want to relive it.

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Chopstheduck · 15/10/2014 14:28

It's NOT your fault.

Feliks Ambrose is a gorgeous name! Congratulations, and thinking of you. I hope you get to see him soon. xx

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MultipleMama · 15/10/2014 16:14

Thanks you're the first lovely lot to say congratulations. We haven't told the family yet only BIL as he watched the DC. And swore him to secretcy.

We were allowed to see him this morning but haven't plucked up the courage to press the buzzer yet. I'm terrified.

Think I'm gunna try and nap first Blush xx

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Chopstheduck · 15/10/2014 20:49

How are you, mama?

and how is little Feliks doing?