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[MultipleMama]

We fill these up fast!

Fingers crossed he has an awesome day school, Soks.

Shabs, has he given you anything for your knee to try and treat it?

K was met in the playground by his new "best friend' today, and went off to play, I met his parents - they're French - the only language I didn't bother to continue learning! They're really loving though and have agreed to meet up Saturday morning to take K and Raoul to the science center :) I'm making friends!

Miss my dad so so much. I just want hug from him; he bumped into a member of the birth family yesterday while he had DB with him, and they tried to talk to DB and tried to approach him. He was terrified, the family have been told not to attempt contact or engage with him or call him by name (the nn they gave him is a trigger word); which they broke within 10 minutes.

Off to bed early because I am tired!

Hi All, you've all been busy on here!
Mama - glad birthday went well and k is enjoying school, dont worry too much about dd1, she will settle soon
Soks -glad J has also had a great start, long may it continue
Trips about Thomas and school, I agree, surely it would be better for him to be in school during these next few months
shabbs- hope your knee stands uo to the school run

Things have been quite settled here, we had a great weekend at the village music festival, I drank more wine than I should have, but at least it was spread over 2 long afternoons. The boys have rekindled a friendship with another boy in the village, after a rift over the past 6 months, and they have finally re-discovered the skate park which was opened last year 200yds up the road
dh and i have been getting on well, rediscovering why we love each other
We had our CAFF advisor come to see us, and he had really taken on board the problems the boys have, and is stepping up to the mark with some good advice and practical help and the boys have started back to school with enthusiasm and excitement
Finally, I have now got all things for our holiday sorted and paid for, only 6 weeks to go! Positive vibes finally abound here!!

My left wrist and my left knee both feel the same.....they both 'click' and are swollen and burning hot. I have no faith in my GP - went a couple of weeks ago and he prescribed anti depressants. I am not taking them - I am not depressed I am pissed off and very sad.....missing my precious dad so much that it takes my breath away and hurts. I know depression - its an old friend of mine....depression made me, after Matt was killed, buy a litre of gin and a 3 litre bottle of cider every weekend and drink them both until I was semi concious. I will carry on putting one foot in front of the other and not forgetting to breathe. I am made of stronger stuff and am delighted that one friend on facebook said I was my fathers daughter...I am indeed and my beloved Dad lasted over a year when he was given a few weeks life expectancy. As my Matt said 'Mam we dont wive vewy wong do we? We have to gwab evwy day by the balls and shake it...'

Today and every day I will be gwabbing the day by the balls and shaking it xx

:o

Just had the most awful 48 hours. Gp thinks dk has Parkinsons on top of the cancer, he ticks 6 out of 10 early warning signs. He has been made an appt to see a neurologist on the 18th Nov! I am going to push for an earlier appt. He is very low, and last night he flipped and I got the biggest slice of it, it was very very upsetting. On top of that within the last 24 hours Rebecca has left her 6th form, gone to visit Canterbury College, took her portfolio of art/textiles and has been given a place and started today! So I now have to get up with her at 6.30am, she leaves to catch the bus at 7.20am and gets home after 6pm. Its just the cost, £400 for her bus pass for the year, £45 for trip money, £20 a week bus fare until her pass comes through and £3.50p a day for lunch! Then the boys want £200 for the ATC camp at half term, then today the car broke down, towed away, new alternator needed, they can`t do it until Sat, last week dk had to replace the battery!! I wonder what tomorrow will bring.....

Oh my bloody God Trips - aint life just grand????

Rebeccas art work is amazing but I know exactly what you mean about the cost of college. Tom used to walk to High school and he got free school lunches because we are on benefits....now, as the free college bus goes at the crack of dawn into Bolton and there is no free bus for the return journey......we have to find £13.50 for his weekly bus ticket and then his lunches. Even though I do him packed lunches I still like him to have at least a pound every day for emergencies. It is terrifying - money wise - that he needs a tenth of our weekly benefits just to get to college and back.

Hope they soon sort out H - hope he hasn't got Parkinsons.

I wish that you lived down the road from me - we could 'sort the world out between us' couldnt we? xxxx

yeh aint it, whats its going to throw at me next I wonder? Up at 6.30am to get Be cs organized, dk got up as well which is pointless as he hasnt a clue who is going where or when, so I sent him back to bed. Now got J organized, T doesnt go in until 11.15am so I am going back to bed!

Apollo's post op letter came through today. 9am on 18th at the Berlin hospital. DH has booked the day off work and he's going to take him and and bring Artie along so I can have some "me" time.

Trips- its wonderful dd sorted out the collage placement by herself, but did she even consult you about it beforehand?
so sorry about dh, but they have some much better parkinsons drugs now if it is that.
Shabbs- thats shocking about the bus fares. Also, sorry to ssy this, but your GP may be right about the joint pain diagnosis
Mama- is A more settled since his op?
just came home from work to find dh didn't cook himself any tea when he got the boys, and wanting to know what I was going to cook for us both
I said I was too tired to cook, and I would just have a bowl of cereal, which sets him off about only having a sandwich all day!
Ffs! I have only had a sandwich and apple on my 13hr shift, I have been grappling with a very strong combative gent, and to cap it all, I had left him the rest of the chicken roast from yesterday's dinner to eat for his lunch. Why th f@#k should I start cooking at 9.45pm for him!!!

Bubs, I would be so too if DH expected me to cook when he's perfectly capable of doing it himself nevermind after 9pm! I would have just thrown a jar of almond butter at him and said "there's your dinner!" The cheek!

• Apollo has settled more, he seems to be more energetic (he loves kicking his legs - he never did that before), he seems more interested in the things around him, he's sleeping more and more easily like he's not making as much noise or waking himself up due to him struggling. And he's also awake for longer periods of time :) He no longer has to take his blood thinners either! :)

Trips, fingers crossed it's not Parkinsons however like bubs said there's better drugs to treat/help these days but hoping you don't have to go down that route! Oh, did dd enjoy her first day?

How's your wrist and knee, Shabs? Have you thought about requesting to see another doctor? It took me 6 doctor visits and moving country to find a doctor who knew what was wrong with me...

Where's Rubs these days?!

Is it too early to go back to bed zzzzz

James had me up at 5am trying to reason with him about a drink - he wanted one and I said yes. He wouldn't drink it then repeated the same question every 5 minutes for the next 2 hours, when I said no. He asked dh who said yes and then James refused to have one because I'd said no. I bloody wish school could see him like this. It's hard work and I'm grumpy now.

Morning girls, poor you Soks, its tough being a Mum isnt it? I have just sneaked back into my bed for an hour, got Becs up at 6.30am, she has gone off looking happier than I have seen her in a long time! She is loving the college Mama, it is exciting for her, in fact I am most <img loading="lazy" class="inline-flex mumsnet-emoji" alt="Envy" src="https://www.mumsnet.com/build/assets/envy-CqHTfWXN.png"> the art sounds fantastic, yesterday she was using an Apple Mac with a graphics tablet, loved it! Got one boy back in bed until 10am, and one off to school in 10mins and hell be home for the day by 12.15pm! Its like Piccadilly Circus. No news of the car, so obv the garage hasn`t even started it, real pain! The sun is shining, its looks lovely out there, so up and out! x

Morning girls xx

Not bothering to find another GP Mamma - they are all crap in my humble opinion. When he gave me the anti depressants he didnt take my pulse or my blood pressure etc etc. I didn't take AD's even when I lost my sons so I am certainly not bloody starting now. For me....and I stress that FOR ME I have to work through grief and bereavement. I am not trying to say I am some kind of super woman because I am far from that, but - I have to do it my own stubborn way.

I don't blame you for not taking them. If it was me, I'd not want to take them for fear it was the drugs making me happy and relaxed instead of me actually feeling that way. To say you are despressed without even doing a proper exam is ridiculous. Many people deal with grief and sadness in differents way doesn't mean you or them are bloody depressed.

My MW told me to see my GP about AND because I wasn't showing signs of "feeling" for K and didn't seem interest or there... it had only been 3 weeks since my mum passed. I was griefing felt guilty for being happy about the baby and sad she won't meet him so I blocked it out. It's the way I've always dealt with grief.

Stick to your guns. You know how you're feeling, not a doctor who didn't even check your pulse xx

I'm glad she's enjoying it and happy Trips! It's amazing what they have in colleges these days technology wise.

I think I've got myself another stroller refuser. Artie has decided, and displayed her feelings clear, that she no longer wants to be carried in arms or by carrier and refusers to go in the stroller she's somehow learnt the stiff/lax trick, she only wants to walk. And I only wanted to go the shop!

Finally finished the boys presents and all wrapped. Bought them some bits and bobs (like aqua sand!), two indiviual presents and Workshop playset/station as their big gift instead of two big gifts like usual.

Little tea party is being thrown at GPs for them so house doesn't get trashed! :)

Phone call from Petrov. Ivan is in hospital with a head and lung injury; he had a run in with a couple of protesters/soldiers. Dad is desperate to go to him and Petrov is a nervous wreck, so dad called the reinforcements (my GPs and flying them to Moskva). And it's the boys birthday tomorrow.... great.

Happy 2nd birthday to Dieter & Domeczek!! Cannot believe how fast time has flown by! Love you to pluto and back!

Morning girls xx

Bloody hell Mamma - dont know how you keep up with everything - its like an Eastenders omnibus in your house!!!

Just walked round to the shop through hundreds of leaves falling off the trees.....that must mean that the very short Summer we had is done and Autumn/Winter is on its way.

Me neither! I bluff my way through most of it. Roll with the punches as they say...

The kids are so excited for the party that they refuse to go stroller (brought the double just in case) so I have walking DC, and a sleeping Apollo. I have a feeling this 50 minute walk is gunna take so much longer!

Called dad for an update; Ivan is out of surgery (his lung collapsed) and doing well, and the bleed on his brain isn't serious enough for treatment; just a waiting game... and he's supposed to be call as a patient of his is due to give birth in 3 weeks!

How're you ladies doing today? Any weekday plans?

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO MAMAS BOYS
Mama what ever next? What was he doing? You should do a blog..............in your spare time of course :o
Hate Sundays...............kids all dossing around, dk gone off to his allotment, just done the ironing, dinner half prepared, bored...........bored bored

A blog would be fun but time I don't have

Shabs, three Ukraine protesters saw Ivan wave and say hello to a couple of the soldiers, and as he passed they attacked him, the soldiers came over to help/fight and accidentally ended up kicking/standing Ivan in the head (while he was on the floor) trying to restrain one of the protesters. It took them awhile to realise he was unconscious but thankfully they called an ambulance!

Anybody been to Brighton?

No, but I want to now you've mentioned it! Planning a trip, Trip?

Sort of! The boys are off for a weeks camp at Oct half term so I promised dd we could do something and she could take a friend for a change! I have suggested Brighton, loads for two 16 yr olds to do, I would love the vintage shops, dk can stay here as it won`t be his thing and we will be doing a lot of walking, and its easy to get to on the train! Just 2 nights, found a funky b&b called Snooze! Not booked anything yet though, want to do more research! I love research!!