Hello everyone!
I've been pooterless for the last week - and before that I was trying v hard to get the last few bits of work done before the dts arrive.
Kelly - I've been reading your thread and not sure which to post on. Just wanted to say that I've been thinking of you since I last posted. Having read tonight, I used the Jabs website for info on MMR. I'm not sure how up to date it is these days, but it was very helpful when I was making that decision for DD. I had various health professionals breathing down my neck about it all, but it was my decision to make, not theirs and they did back off eventually. Also, I had a father who didn't stick up for me with my stepmother and it's taken a long time (and him dying) to accept it. Mum mostly stuck up for Dad's actions too, I think because she could see that his position was difficult with stepmother. Just before he died he wrote a letter to me and my brother to say that his first priority was to his wife, not to his children. I'm only telling you this because he was absolutely wrong. You are absolutely right to put your children first. Fortunately I managed to have a fairly frank conversation with Dad before he died and so was able to raise my eyebrows at his letter and pass over it. My brother didn't get this chance, and he now has problems which he needs help with - he's a big, burly Marine so not the kind of person you'd think it would affect. You are a wonderful woman and I wish my parents had had your strength and resolve. Love to you.
Mars - I know you won't read this for another couple of weeks, but go diva with that Shakespeare! Ignore the birth plan and get on with the revision - far more important! And salsa - I haven't salsaed since I left London 5 years ago... oh I miss it! One of the downsides of deepest, darkest Dartmoor!
Quick update on the boys - they're still inside and I'm 37 weeks today - hurrah! DH starts 5 weeks leave a week today. My wonderful Radical Midwife is back the same day, so the boys are allowed out then - 6.5 days! We discuss it in the shower each morning. Midwife is very onside for the birth plan, and has said that it's very likely that one of the midwifery team will be available for me even if they aren't actually on call when I need them. Wonderful women.
Leogala - just to let you know, in case you wanted to look, the best twin book (most comprehensive) is Elizabeth Noble's Having Twins. Second best is Double Trouble by Emma Mahoney. Both available on Amazon. And I'll let you know about the routine book I've unearthed once I've had a chance to see if it works!
FG - most of my weekends with DH are like that, though they are getting better at the moment. I think DH is beginning to relax a little as his leave approaches - don't know why because he's going to have two new babies, a small and wonderful daughter who needs him, a shop to run because I will need my mum back and me to look after (yeah, right!). I have a lot of sympathy for you though. It's not easy to get through a week's worth of discussion in a weekend, and actually sort some of it out when you're both exhausted. I've found myself getting more and more independent over the last 5 years because it's easier. Not right though. Anyway, hope you manage to sort it out before it festers over a month or so.
Love to all in case I don't get back for a while... Birth thing is really beginning to get scary, and so is having DH home. If we can get through this coming year, I think we'll survive!
xx
doris
PS Just re-read and realised how long this is again! Sorry!