Should my husband be asking my parents for inheritance money now?

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My parents are of an age to be doing IHT planning. They have not decided on anything yet.
I know my OH and I have much more money than my brother and his wife, and a much fancier lifestyle. My brother just moved house. He’s a contented person. He and his OH are quite happy doing the house up slowly, at his own pace, though it does need some work.
My OH just told my parents that they were on course to be the richest corpses in the graveyard. He suggested them giving my brother £100k right now to help him employ decorators, replace windows and install a new kitchen more quickly.
Then my OH told my parents that if they do, he will fight them for £100k for me now, too. We don’t even need the money. I am worried he’s making my parents think he’s greedy and they might change their plans. My parents say they are ignoring it but I think they are cross.
I want OH and me to be a team and I want to involve him in financial discussions with my parents. But I am uncomfortable with this.
I think my OH needs to take his lead from me and not ask my parents for money.
Thoughts please?

Honest to fk, u think u hear it all then some absolute prik makes me rage again. WHO TF!!! Does ur husband think he is???? What a greedy, selfish fking asshole ur husband is!!??? Does he say this to his own parents????? Honestly if I were your brother I’d be distancing myself away from you and ur husband!! This is your brothers parents!! They can give ur brother any amount of money any time they want!! And can legally give you nothing!! I hope they leave alll their money when the time comes to your brother. If u allow your husband to even think he can speak to your parents like this and that he has any say in THEIR finances they u deserve nothing either! Speak up for them!! And I hope your brother takes them to a solicitor and gets power of attorney before your mad husband gets his hands on a single penny!!! Hey if I were u I’d be sleeping with one eye opened with a husband like that.

There is no scenario or context that makes his behaviour acceptable.

If my SIL spoke to me like that I would leave my DD's potential inheritance in trust for her sole use, somehow. And never look at him the same way again.

If my DH spoke to my parents like that I would be mortified and horrified. How dare he?

This is relationship changing behaviour, from whichever angle you view it.

Tell us more about his behaviour, OP. As a DH, SIL, Dad whatever.

How do you not know how inappropriate, greedy, grasping, rude and out of order this is? Why do you want to involve him in financial discussions with your parents anyway? It’s none of his business. And come to think of it, it’s none of yours either. Richest corpses in the graveyard? Come on OP, you need to divorce the disgusting fucker for this alone.

If my son in law ever said anything like that to me, I would immediately change my will to make sure you didn’t inherit a penny from me while you were still with him. I think this is honestly one of the most shocking inheritance related things I’ve ever read on here.

You are quite wrong to think you should involve your dh in discussions with your parents about their financial arrangements. This is something to be discussed between your parents, you and your brother. Once the money actually becomes yours (either through death or gifting) then your husband can have an opinion. Although if it were me, he’d be an ex-husband by that point.

He is masking his own greed by cloaking it in helping your brother with the home improvements.
If I were your parents, I would be wrapping up your inheritance with co dictions that you only get it if you divorce the gold digger.

Thats absolutely shocking. I would honestly never, ever be able to look at him the same way again. Your poor parents. How awful for them.
What a horrid man.

I agree!

Disrespectful and out of order. I'd remove you both from the inheritance and give it all to the grandchildren when they turned 18.

I think my OH needs to take his lead from me and not ask my parents for money.
Thoughts please?

Yes, he should take his lead from you. If I were you, that would involve shoving him off the edge of the nearest cliff.

I want to involve him in financial discussions with my parents.

Why?

This!

What a horrible man.

I’m hoping this is made up, however if you knew what was happening right now with my BiL, wills and inheritance, this is not as bad, so I can believe it could be true.

In answer to the question, no, he should not.

I would be so fucking embarrassed by his behaviour, my fanny would clamp shut forever more.

What the actual chuff am I reading??

Never mind "Take your lead"....I hope you made it very clear in words of no more than one syllable that you are absolutely furious with him and if he ever dares says anything like that again he'll be losing a similar amount in a divorce settlement. What an absolute arse of a man. And that's coming from ME and I'm a cheeky fucker at times.

No. No. Just no.

and this!

Wow! You really are married to an unpleasant shit of a human!

First post as always nails

what a rude crass man

If this is true let's just say you might not get any inheritance money now.

You think your parents are cross because your husband said he will fight them if they give their own son some of their own money?

😂

What have I just read?!?! Are you married to this obnoxious c**t and is he usually this obnoxious?

How on earth can you live with a man like that, I hope your parents find their anger and give their money to your brother and/or charity. "Fight them for £100k" indeed. How dare he.

How dare he ! Who the fuck does he think he is

I hope you found / have found your anger
and spent lots of time apologising to your parents.
AND he should be too !!!

Did he marry you because you have better off parents than he has or he is ?

^ this

Are you legally married? You should be taking steps to ensure any eventual inheritance you get stays with you because I think he’s eyeing up £100k ‘for you’ for his own benefit!

Why the rush also - is he thinking of taking the money & running?

Totally agree.