Should my husband be asking my parents for inheritance money now?

[Wwe175]

My parents are of an age to be doing IHT planning. They have not decided on anything yet.
I know my OH and I have much more money than my brother and his wife, and a much fancier lifestyle. My brother just moved house. He’s a contented person. He and his OH are quite happy doing the house up slowly, at his own pace, though it does need some work.
My OH just told my parents that they were on course to be the richest corpses in the graveyard. He suggested them giving my brother £100k right now to help him employ decorators, replace windows and install a new kitchen more quickly.
Then my OH told my parents that if they do, he will fight them for £100k for me now, too. We don’t even need the money. I am worried he’s making my parents think he’s greedy and they might change their plans. My parents say they are ignoring it but I think they are cross.
I want OH and me to be a team and I want to involve him in financial discussions with my parents. But I am uncomfortable with this.
I think my OH needs to take his lead from me and not ask my parents for money.
Thoughts please?

divorce and a financial order so he can’t claim anything from you once divorced and parents die /you inherit

I hope this is a wind up to be honest.

If not, I know my 84 year old dad would have showed dh the door immediately if he had spoken like that.
What do you mean you are uncomfortable with this Don't you mean you are bloody raging?

I am closer to your position in this than your parents but without doubt if I were your parents I would now be considering how I could leave you money in such a way that your DH could never touch a penny of it. Trusts with trustees who despise him or skipping you and leaving to your children directly, without either of you being the trustees for them until they reach adulthood.

He is absolutely outrageous and entitled.

That's abominable. Even if it was meant to be helpful, and even if he is an inheritance tax planner by trade, this is absolutely not something anyone should say unless they have been asked a specific question.

Who needs 100 k for kitchen and windows ? Thats nuts

What the fuck is wrong with him? And why are you even questioning this?

@Wwe175 If I were your parents I'd cut you straight out of my will rather than see your obnoxious DH get a single penny of it. I'd rather leave it to charity. He said they'd be "the richest corpses in the graveyard". What a cunt. I can't believe you only feel "uncomfortable" by his comments and that you even have to ask if this is normal.

Nobody gets this entitled and arrogant over night. What else is going on?

Are you actually married? If I was your parent I'd delay passing any money to you until your divorce was finalised.

WTAF OP. That’s appalling. He owes everyone an apology at the very least though it can’t be unsaid. How can you be sure he’s with you and not with you for your inheritance. No wonder your folks are cross. How disgusting to think he sees them as a cash cow. Hoping they will leave all to cat or dog home now. Inheriting is not a right.

Well said… this

That is absolutely shocking. To speak to your parents in that way is unforgivable. Feel very sorry for your poor parents.

I'd expect my parents to protect their money in such a way that he will never get his hands on it e.g. a trust, or some construction that means it'll only be available after a divorce.

It was an odd thing to do though, to be the one bringing up money that he thinks should go elsewhere, and then get all aggressive that money should come to you. Very odd.

What a surprise. OP @Wwe175 hasn’t returned after posting a massively baity thread…

This has to be a windup. No one could have doubts as to whether or not this is one of the cheekiest things I have ever heard. How dare he.

Correct.
Your soon to be ex husband you should say.
Never in my life any member of my family would dare to manage other people money. And they do they are the problem no the ones who has the money.
The entitlement and the greed here is huge.

The money isn't anybody's "inheritance" until both parents have died. It may be needed for care for one or both of them, so they shouldn't be giving it to anyone at this stage.

OP, your husband is incredibly rude (polite version), and I'd be telling him to F off....your parents financial affairs are absolutely none of his business.

What the fuck does it have to do with him anyway? You found a right prince there…

This.
300%!
The bloody cheek of him!
You, and your parents, should be totally furious with him!
I'd have trouble forgiving him if he was ny husband or son in law.

Holy shit, is this real??

How a) tacky and rude and b) what if they need money for their care/medical help for any future issues? I had a rich uncle who needed all his money in the end to pay for private treatment for mesothelioma, if he'd give it away earlier he'd have lost his life alot earlier too.

It's up to your brother and them to decide tonrelease some early inheritance to help him out, why does your OH think he is the machiavelli of the family?

My god it would of been bad enough if you said it but the fact he said it when they're not even his parents makes it so much worse.

This is a wind-up, right? If OP was describing a real situation she would have been engaging with the responses.

What the hell was he thinking, doing this?

And, without your knowledge?

Has he always been this much of a dick?

I would be thoroughly disappointed if my dh ever spoke to my parents like this. I'd quite frankly go apocalyptic. He isn't entitled to anything that belongs to your parents and neither are you. You might get an inheritance one day but if they spend it all or give it to a cat's home then that is their choice. Noone is entitled to an inheritance. You have alluded to you having money so maybe as a couple you should keep your eyes off your parents money. This really is entitled, awful behaviour.