Should my husband be asking my parents for inheritance money now?

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My parents are of an age to be doing IHT planning. They have not decided on anything yet.
I know my OH and I have much more money than my brother and his wife, and a much fancier lifestyle. My brother just moved house. He’s a contented person. He and his OH are quite happy doing the house up slowly, at his own pace, though it does need some work.
My OH just told my parents that they were on course to be the richest corpses in the graveyard. He suggested them giving my brother £100k right now to help him employ decorators, replace windows and install a new kitchen more quickly.
Then my OH told my parents that if they do, he will fight them for £100k for me now, too. We don’t even need the money. I am worried he’s making my parents think he’s greedy and they might change their plans. My parents say they are ignoring it but I think they are cross.
I want OH and me to be a team and I want to involve him in financial discussions with my parents. But I am uncomfortable with this.
I think my OH needs to take his lead from me and not ask my parents for money.
Thoughts please?

Get the divorce finalised before they die for God's sake.

True colours moment - green is not his colour 🙈

Yet another twat baring teeth at the prospect of reading the will someday. You see ppl for what they are when inheritance looms.

Sending support OP, hope you can navigate this with support from everyone here, whatever happens you're not alone in this.

No he shouldn't have said it, it was entitled and rude and not his place, it's nothing to do with him.

But in some ways he's not wrong, if they give your brother £100k they should give the same to you or if they have £100k going spare they should give £50k to each. Will they change their wills accordingly? Or will the remainder be split 50:50 meaning you would be £100k down. In 10 or 20 years time the gift will be long forgotten.

It is your parents money no one deserves any of it and it's entirely up to them, but it seems a bit like favouritism to give a large sum to your brother and nothing to you. I think your DH was annoyed on your behalf.

But the parents haven’t said they are doing anything. Her OH is the one who suggested they should give £100k to the brother. And then the same for OP.

The OP's parents weren't the ones suggesting they give the OP 's brother a £100k, they aren't showing any favouritism.

It was the OP's husband who wants them to give £100k to the brother. Then another £100k to his wife. From the OPs opening post ...
"He suggested them giving my brother £100k right now to help him employ decorators, replace windows and install a new kitchen more quickly.
Then my OH told my parents that if they do, he will fight them for £100k for me now, too."
Guess that's a good way for the entitled gimme-pig to shoehorn into the conversation he wants to get his mitts onto a £100k handout from his parents in law. Present it as a way of helping the brother in law. Such a prince (not).

Wow...my parents have recently broached this topic and it seems that my brother and I will end up with a substantial IHT bill. I have suggested that they give us each £100k, which would pay off our mortgage and bring their estate to a little over the £1mil threshold, but they've said no because they are worried they'll run out of money and I've accepted that. I'm not sure how because they have 5 pensions between them, plus interest on their investments and regular winnings from premium bonds so they have no need to touch the capital but this is their choice.

DH has privately expressed to me that it's frustrating that they'd seemingly rather save the money for the tax man rather than make a big difference to our lives right now but he would never dream of inserting himself into a conversation about it with them.