Should my husband be asking my parents for inheritance money now?

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My parents are of an age to be doing IHT planning. They have not decided on anything yet.
I know my OH and I have much more money than my brother and his wife, and a much fancier lifestyle. My brother just moved house. He’s a contented person. He and his OH are quite happy doing the house up slowly, at his own pace, though it does need some work.
My OH just told my parents that they were on course to be the richest corpses in the graveyard. He suggested them giving my brother £100k right now to help him employ decorators, replace windows and install a new kitchen more quickly.
Then my OH told my parents that if they do, he will fight them for £100k for me now, too. We don’t even need the money. I am worried he’s making my parents think he’s greedy and they might change their plans. My parents say they are ignoring it but I think they are cross.
I want OH and me to be a team and I want to involve him in financial discussions with my parents. But I am uncomfortable with this.
I think my OH needs to take his lead from me and not ask my parents for money.
Thoughts please?

What did I just read?!

I hope you can make him see how awful and inappropriate he was and sincerely apologise

Christ I read some mad shit on here. Who the hell does he think he is? I’d be furious if I were you.

I have some fairly frank conversations with my MIL about inheritance as we are quite close- although my comments are more along the lines of spending money on things that will give her pleasure whilst she's still well enough. Depending on the relationship, I can see a situation where I might encourage her to give money away to someone else now rather than leaving it in a will (so she can enjoy what they do with it as well as IHT planning) although this is a moot point as DH has no other family. I would certainly not be asking for money for ourselves now and if I were them I'd find the phrase 'fighting for' totally unreasonable.

Sometimes I worry I'm a selfish prick and then I read things like this and realise I'm actually a really good person 🙈

💐 sympathies for you OP. You'll need it

Surely no one is this rude?! Wtf! 😳

I think the acronym you're looking for is STBXH.

Wow OP. You’ve got bigger problems than the inheritance being married to a rude arsepiece like this!

I'd tell him that I was going to find them the best and most expensive care that I could, and that there wouldn't BE any inheritance.

What an utter shit he is.

Are you British/English OP, heritage wise?

This is fairly strange behaviour culturally if you are, not least the greed and overt 'want' but also speaking for you to your own parents

Im surprised you are asking the question, do you think this is appropriate and acceptable?

Why do you need a load of randomers here to tell you that it is of course and very obviously out of order?

Thats for a Financial Adviser to tell them, not your OH. My ex husband was discussing how he was going to spend my inheritance from my Nan. She's not dead yet. That was the catalyst for me to divorce him.

WTF have I just read? He would “fight them for money?”

Divorce him asap and don’t let your parents give you a penny until it’s finalised.

I think your fuckwit husband is planning for his future and it doesn't include you. He is planning to do a runner once any money hits your account. Get rid of him now before you have to share.

If I was your parents, first of all I would tell him to fuck off!
Secondly, I would be straight off to the solicitors. I would put my estate into trust and ensure that he is excluded from the trust.
Be warned. He is the sort of man who would divorce you for your parents money once they are dead

How can you possibly respect him after he said that to your parents.

What a vulture.

This^

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Even if they asked him for financial advice he has gone too far

Who does he think he is, telling someone else's parents what to do with their money and to give him some??

And op seems far too complacent so I can only imagine how much he's ground you down over the years with his blister and bullying to not be enraged right now.

I’m afraid there really are people like this out there, it’s exactly the kind of thing my BIL would say to my FIL too- he would say it’s just being factual whereas me and my H would be mortified (and we rent in our early 60s ) whereas my BIL has a huge not far off paid off house. .

That is ludicrously rude and overstepping. In your parents shoes, I'd be very worried about him exploiting you and them. I'd never trust him (and by extension you) with power of attorney for instance.

Your DH is an absolute cunt and I hope your parents spend the rest of their days blowing their cash on luxury holidays, fancy meals out, hefty donations to charity, and leave absolutely nothing in the pot when they die.

Interesting you say that following on from my post below yours - my H is the only one with POA

If my DD’s dh spoke to me like that I’d be doing inheritance planning to ensure he couldn’t get a penny when (not if) they divorce!