Should my husband be asking my parents for inheritance money now?

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My parents are of an age to be doing IHT planning. They have not decided on anything yet.
I know my OH and I have much more money than my brother and his wife, and a much fancier lifestyle. My brother just moved house. He’s a contented person. He and his OH are quite happy doing the house up slowly, at his own pace, though it does need some work.
My OH just told my parents that they were on course to be the richest corpses in the graveyard. He suggested them giving my brother £100k right now to help him employ decorators, replace windows and install a new kitchen more quickly.
Then my OH told my parents that if they do, he will fight them for £100k for me now, too. We don’t even need the money. I am worried he’s making my parents think he’s greedy and they might change their plans. My parents say they are ignoring it but I think they are cross.
I want OH and me to be a team and I want to involve him in financial discussions with my parents. But I am uncomfortable with this.
I think my OH needs to take his lead from me and not ask my parents for money.
Thoughts please?

I can't even tell you how mortified I'd be if my DH spoke to my parents like this.

No

I can pretty much 100% guarantee that your OH has now ensured that your parents will never allow him anywhere near one single penny of their money, and that anything they decide to leave you in their wills will be so hedged about with red tape he will never be able to get his hands on any of it.

He's done them a favour by telling them what a grasping bastard he is.

He needs to shut his trap.

I can’t believe your parents haven't said anything, mine would have a lot to say. Most of it very loudly.

I would genuinely reconsider my relationship if my DH said anything as appalling as this.

Bullying an older couple for £100k is not a normal thing.

I don’t even like my parents but if my DP spoke to anyone like that I’d be done immediately.

Raise your bar OP.

What a disgusting man. I’d be thinking how quickly can I get out of this marriage.
And if any of my DDs husbands ever said anything like that to me I’d be rewriting my will.

I'd be raging if one of my DDs partners ever said anything remotely like this to us! Absolutely none of his business. Tell him to butt out of your parents finances. I'd spend it all on the high life now, cruises, champagne, first class flights ....

Exactly this with bells and whistles on.
Nothing turns me off someone quicker than revealing themselves to be greedy grasping inheritance seagulls. Revolting behaviour and if I were your parents I’d be spitefully planning on pissing all of my money up the wall to ensure not a single penny went to someone with expectations of me dying and handing over a load of cash to them. So vulgar, I can’t believe he actually said that.

I hope if they do already have a will they redo it asap to ensure he gets nothing

Your parents would’ve right, he is a greedy fucker. How dare he tell your parents what to do like that. You need to lay down the law to him that hes never to speak to your parents like that again.

Blimey - I’d be straight off to the solicitors to see how best to keep every penny out of his grabby mitts. Straight into a trust for your kids the easiest way of doing that I guess?
However he is correct - good IHT planning is to hand excess money over as soon as possible. I couldn’t sit on a fortune while my son was struggling to renovate a house for example, but he’s not going about this in a reasonable fashion.

And it's not a bloody 'inheritance' as they are still alive and kicking ... it's their bloody money 😡

If my son in law spoke to me like that I think I would ask him what makes him think we are planning to give anything at all to you and him but I know he would never say anything like that because he would never presume to tell us what to do with our money.

What a horrific piece of shit husband you have managed to find OP. Make sure that you protect your potential inheritance from him if you get any. You will need it when you hopefully dump this dick.

not ask your parents for money
think that has passed, if he has a great relationship with them maybe ok, but to actually word it like that is truly cheeky!

He’s a disgrace.

Should one or both of your parents suffer health or degenerative conditions that require care I can assure you it can can rip through 100k in a year if you actually care about them being somewhere you’d want to be in the same situation.

Well for a start it’s nothing to do with him and he should absolutely NOT be involved in any conversations.

it is up to your parents to decide how they are going to split anything and if the give any now or you wait

your husband is a greedy CF and now showing his true colours. It’s all a out the money

Your OH behaviour is unbelievably inappropriate. He sound like an absolute dick.
What do you think of your OH behaviour towards your parents?
if my OH spoke to my parents like that i would have told him in no uncrtain terms that if they wish to be the richest corpes in the graveyard or leave their estate to the cats home its entirely their prerogative.
Is he usually so inappropriate and socially unaware?

If I'd alreadyset up POA I'd be revoking it and making sure neither of you ever had access to my money. And I'd be rewriting my will to leave it all to charity.

If I was your parents I would be hightailing it to the solicitors to make sure he never to got touch a single penny.

Aren't you ashamed of the man you married?

Jesus is anyone spoke to my dad like that there would be one hell of a reaction!! What did they say?!

If my DH approached my parents in such a way I would be absolutely livid. As it goes they are going to spend many millions in inheritance tax if they do nothing so they are funnelling money to my DSiblings and myself now but if my DH even commented to them about what they are doing or any other thing he would get ripped a new one.