Should my husband be asking my parents for inheritance money now?

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My parents are of an age to be doing IHT planning. They have not decided on anything yet.
I know my OH and I have much more money than my brother and his wife, and a much fancier lifestyle. My brother just moved house. He’s a contented person. He and his OH are quite happy doing the house up slowly, at his own pace, though it does need some work.
My OH just told my parents that they were on course to be the richest corpses in the graveyard. He suggested them giving my brother £100k right now to help him employ decorators, replace windows and install a new kitchen more quickly.
Then my OH told my parents that if they do, he will fight them for £100k for me now, too. We don’t even need the money. I am worried he’s making my parents think he’s greedy and they might change their plans. My parents say they are ignoring it but I think they are cross.
I want OH and me to be a team and I want to involve him in financial discussions with my parents. But I am uncomfortable with this.
I think my OH needs to take his lead from me and not ask my parents for money.
Thoughts please?

Jesus Christ, he’d be my ex husband before he could blink if he spoke to my parents like that !
How rude 😳

My thoughts are that your DH is a cheeky fucker of massive proportions. This behaviour would piss me off, to the point I’d be considering divorce.

He did WHAT ???

And without even discussing it with you?

I would be a lot more than ‘uncomfortable’ with this.

Does he have form for treating you as a less than equal partner?

😱

i can’t say i disagree with him in terms of general financial advice but there’s a time and a place, and it’s a conversation that should be led by your parents with you and your brother - not your DH!

This!! 100%

I would be uncomfortable with this too. “Richest corpses in the graveyard”…did he really say this?! It’s actually more incredible given he is their son in law. Really, the only IHT planning they should be doing is ensuring they have a will. The rest is up to them.

Well he is greedy and manipulative to boot. If you were my dd I'd construct my estate to make sure he didn't get a finger on a penny and certainly not before I died.

How much have his parents got and why doesn't he tap them up?

Wow - he’s one cheeky git
why the hell should they give him/ you anything after that

Your OH is a cheeky bastard and needs to mind his own business. It’s your job to tell him so.

I can't believe this is real. Who talks to people like that? It's the quickest way to get a divorce.

He's counting his chickens before they've hatched.

As your parents, and in your shoes I would be flippin' furious. If they're not showing that they deserve medals.

How are you not?

I'd be having very serious thoughts about leaving your share directly to any GC, to avoid him getting anywhere near it.

My in laws have the dumbest most ridiculous thinking on inheritance. I dont even discuss it with dh, never mind PIL. Your oh is so far out of line hes not even drawing in the same book.

Exactly!

Wow, I think your parents have been unbelievably civil and accommodating. I’d have been furious. His level of entitlement is off the scale. He is completely out of order. How rude! I’d be apologising to my parents and telling him never to discuss inheritance or money in general with my parents ever again because you are ashamed of his behaviour.

Oh he would fight them for their money would he.
Why are you not outraged at your grasping not so dear husband?

If my son-in-law had the brass-necked cheek to talk to me like that, you’d both be out of my will as soon as I could get an appointment with a solicitor.

Your parents money is theirs to do with as they like. If they ask for financial advice then direct them to a financial advisor. Your dh has no place in this discussion at all. I cannot believe that he felt able to have this conversation with them in any form. I am not surprised they are cross, i would be livid!

Your parents should leave every penny to the donkey sanctuary or something. What disgusting behaviour from your partner. Aren't you mortified?

WTF! Who does he think he is talking to your parents like that!

if they haven't, tell him to STFU for EVER about anything to do with their money.

If he is otherwise absolutely fab, all ok. If he is even remotely not lovely, divorce now and make sure you don't have to share what they may eventually leave you.

It seems awful for anyone to say anything like "richest corpses"! I don't care who it is.
While I agree that a married couple should work as a team, for example, if you needed babysitting, it would be equally ok for either parent to politely ask, that is not the point.
It is terrible for either a blood relative or an in-law to speak like this. It is one thing to ask a rich parent for money if you're desperate, or politely discuss estate planning IF they're happy with that.
This, no.

My thoughts exactly.