Should my husband be asking my parents for inheritance money now?

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My parents are of an age to be doing IHT planning. They have not decided on anything yet.
I know my OH and I have much more money than my brother and his wife, and a much fancier lifestyle. My brother just moved house. He’s a contented person. He and his OH are quite happy doing the house up slowly, at his own pace, though it does need some work.
My OH just told my parents that they were on course to be the richest corpses in the graveyard. He suggested them giving my brother £100k right now to help him employ decorators, replace windows and install a new kitchen more quickly.
Then my OH told my parents that if they do, he will fight them for £100k for me now, too. We don’t even need the money. I am worried he’s making my parents think he’s greedy and they might change their plans. My parents say they are ignoring it but I think they are cross.
I want OH and me to be a team and I want to involve him in financial discussions with my parents. But I am uncomfortable with this.
I think my OH needs to take his lead from me and not ask my parents for money.
Thoughts please?

Absolutely!

He is massively overstepping here and it would be cheeky of either of you to say anything about this, but if someone had to, it would be you not him.

How old are your parents please and are they cash or property rich?

He did what??? This is shocking!! If I was your parents I'd be making sure this money grabbing shit didn't get his mitts on a penny of my money! How have you not gone mental over this? What they do with their money is their business, don't be surprised if you are written out of their will.

"He did what??? This is shocking!!"

It's almost unbelievable, isn't it?

You're worried he's making them think he's greedy? He is greedy! Your parents are right to be cross. It's their money. You, not him, will get it in due course.

Dear Lord, who does this? Who is he to make these pronouncements? Tell him to gtf!

The way he spoke to them is not acceptable for any relative but to not even discuss it with you! The audacity to think he could “fight” them to force them to give you a gift while the are still alive! If I was your parents I’d be giving 200k (assuming the can afford 100k for each according to your husband) and not a penny to him. I’d be changing my will so that money goes to the grandkids instead of him/you as well.

Your OH is awful, I'd be furious.

Thoughts??

Your husband is behaving like absolute trash! Aren’t you embarrassed to be married to him???

He is disgusting in so many ways.

Why are you even with him?!

If my husband dared to speak to my parents in such a vulgar and grasping manner I would be seriously considering a divorce.
I know that my parents will not be around forever but I’ve always told them I don’t want an inheritance and I want them to spend money on themselves.
My parents scrimped and saved when I was growing up and I never felt I went without but there was not often money for luxuries or a holiday abroad.
For your DH to refer to your parents as “richest corpses” and that your DH “will fight” for you to be left £100k also is honestly horrible. I think you need to sit your DH down and explain that he can apologise to your parents and never bring up the subject again. You must be mortified by his behaviour!
Will your DH be happy for you to approach his own parents in the same manner about what inheritance he may need to fight for?

Wow, what the heck did I just read? If this is real op, I suggest your parents get planning some lovely expensive holidays, first class flights to Australia etc. and don’t leave any money anywhere your husband might get his hands on it!

I want OH and me to be a team and I want to involve him in financial discussions with my parents. But I am uncomfortable with this.
I think my OH needs to take his lead from me and not ask my parents for money.
Thoughts please?

That disgusting ghoul of a man called your parents living corpses and demanded money and your AIBU is this?!

It should be AIBU to leave this monumental prick.

Has he got some kind of condition that means he has no social awareness or sense of propriety?
Or is he a money grabbing, rude and entitled twat?

Can you divorce him while they’re still alive and he can’t get his grubby mitts on any of their cash?

He sounds utterly repulsive, how can you even look at him or have any respect for him after he said that about your parents?!

This!

How has this happened? Seriously, how has he come to cross so many lines - gradual erosion by getting too familiar or is he always a monumental overstepping dick?

Cheeky fucker! And gold digger. Eww

Is this real? He really is a greedy golddigger with no shame.

I am worried he’s making my parents think he’s greedy

No shit Sherlock

This feels to be one of many recent, highly improbable, actual real life situations.
AI scenario again

He would FIGHT your parents for THEIR own money?

Holy fucking shit. I'd be single in no time flat. What a prick.

Your DH sounds like a controlling bully. Be very, very careful going forwards and keep your cards close to your chest.

I’m sorry, but your DH sounds like he’s playing a very isolated game here, and I’d be worried about what he’s actually planning.

AI scenario, hence no response from the OP?

But if real, then my question is how elderly are the OP's parents? Although tax systems allow giving away money to children without IHT if the parents live for 7 years, Social services do not treat it in the same way. If the theoretical gift of £100,000 to each child is considered to be 'depreivation of assets' - i.e. a way of the parents avoiding paying for necessary care, the Local Authority can claim it all back.

Is this real?

Good question.

Wow. How bloody rude of him. I’d be fuming. It’s absolutely nothing to do with him what your parents do with their estate / savings. Is he concerned that he thinks that your parents might help your brother out, so he’s making it clear now he expects the same for you? Either way, he is extremely rude and that must have made your parents feel very uncomfortable.