Should my husband be asking my parents for inheritance money now?

[Wwe175]

My parents are of an age to be doing IHT planning. They have not decided on anything yet.
I know my OH and I have much more money than my brother and his wife, and a much fancier lifestyle. My brother just moved house. He’s a contented person. He and his OH are quite happy doing the house up slowly, at his own pace, though it does need some work.
My OH just told my parents that they were on course to be the richest corpses in the graveyard. He suggested them giving my brother £100k right now to help him employ decorators, replace windows and install a new kitchen more quickly.
Then my OH told my parents that if they do, he will fight them for £100k for me now, too. We don’t even need the money. I am worried he’s making my parents think he’s greedy and they might change their plans. My parents say they are ignoring it but I think they are cross.
I want OH and me to be a team and I want to involve him in financial discussions with my parents. But I am uncomfortable with this.
I think my OH needs to take his lead from me and not ask my parents for money.
Thoughts please?

Your OH is absolutely and totally out of line. It is not his place to spend your parents' money, or have any conversation at all with them about it, particularly without you involved or consulted.

My DH's mother will leave at least a million or two with her house (bought for a pittance in zone 2 London, now worth loads) and savings — DH is helping her to estate plan as there are various complexities. I have been at meetings with advisors and solicitors, but mainly I see my job as making sure MiL understands what is going on, and asking questions on her behalf. I would absolutely never add my own opinion on how she should manage her estate without being asked/invited by her to do so (she has a few times asked me, 'What do you think?'). If I were you I would be clear with DH he has overstepped and insist he apologises.

How disgusting! I would be making sure he didn’t get a penny in your parents’ position. Yuk.

How cheeky, intefering and audacious your husband is. You must be a pushover to tolerate this! I'd be the most foul mouthed, ranting roaring fish wife to him then kill him.

Divorce. Is the only answer anyone can give here.

OMG!! Your partner instructed YOUR parents to give their son £100K now as part of his inheritance and then said he'd fight them for your share!!!!

Your parents assets have absolutely zero to do with your partner!! I can't actually believe the audacity of your partner to be honest! I'm not surprised your parents are annoyed, if I were them, I'd be bloody fuming.

You need a conversation with your partner as he has seriously overstepped. It's not his place to suggest how your parents distribute their assets or when. It's one thing to say something to you in private, but a whole different matter saying something to them in person.

Yes, he came across as materialistic and greedy. He needs to apologise to your parents.

Your dh massively overstepped - I’d have words with him and offer apologies to your parents - this was none of his business - that’s a mild interpretation of the situation

Ugh, how fucking greedy is he? I couldn't respect a man like that. Who does he think he is, honestly, speaking to your parents like that? So out of order.

Is this a wind up, are you okay him speaking to YOUR PARENTS like that, this is insane. My husband would be out the door if he spoke to anyone like that. I would be mortified. What the hell.

I'd have to wonder this. The ick would be everlasting. He'd be out.

My parents (...) I think they are cross.

You should be, too.

Your husband is way way way out of line.
He should not be speaking to your parents AT ALL about this. You and your sibling should be the ones - If anyone - to talk to them. Your husband will inherit as long as he is married to you… I would think carefully about his intentions to be honest. My parents are very generous financially towards me. My husband never says a word. He would never ever get involved unless I actively sought his opinion.
Can you imagine yourself saying these things to his parents?? I expect not.

This is a wind up. Posted and disappeared.

In fairness, that's half the site these days.

Jesus Christ what a pig
That's really out of order of him

This didn't actually happen.

Well @Wwe175 what are you going to do ? Can’t drop a bomb like that then no reply

Gosh what a horrid man.
I hope your parents spend all their money on a round the world cruise and leave what’s left to a donkey sanctuary.

Fucking hell…same here !!! Obnoxious man !!

Was he drunk at the time?!

I did wonder ... after I added my online rage, more fool me

Is this rage-bait?

I think so 🧐

I initially thought that was kind of a sort of nice thing encouraging them to give it to your brother. But then following that up with saying he’ll “fight them” for the same for you, is so out of line!!

It’s like “how about you give the brother some cash so I can hound you for some for me” lol

Your husband should STFU they're not his his parents and it's not his money, it's theirs.

Inheritance money is not guaranteed, you're not entitled to it & they might decide to give it all to charity, I hope they do actually.

That being said I would not be happy with him speaking to my ageing parents like that, I'd seriously consider giving him the boot.

Why do people think they're entitled to other people's money just because they're related ? Sheer greed.

Yeah I’d 100% be writing you two out my will if id been spoken to that way! Or if someone had acted so entitled - ick.

That is absolutely despicable behaviour from your partner & you should be telling him that in no uncertain terms.
He needs to apologise sincerely to your parents.

Don't be surprised if your parents either skip a generation re inheritance (ie leave it to grandchild not children) or tie it up tightly so your partner can never have a claim on it - that's what id do if a SIL started telling me what to do with my money.