Emmsys angels xxx support for mummies of lost angels part 3 xxxxx

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so here we are on part three, let this one be fun of happy news.....

evening all - can't help with the af question as mine hasn't arrived.

Kate - welcome to our party. Not neccesarily one you'd want to join from choice but I can personally garuntee it'll make you feel better. Sorry for your loss - I think the mood swings are pretty normal.

Bionic - I think the random black humour is also part of it as even as I was mc'ing, I was making v crap jokes

Gracie - if that was a rant, then your obviously a really really nice person. You don't want to hear me when I get started!

Mermaid - much luck out of the cave, I hope that you are heading for a happier place. Thanks for all your support - hope we meet on an antenatal thread!

Managed to send without finishing!

Bionic - as the others have said, take as much time as you need. Personally, I didn't have any time off as it happened on a day I wasn't working and unlike Gracie, I don't have to spend my life helping pregnant ladies! It also was the right thing for me - I wanted to get back to " normal" asap and haven't told anyone in RF, so taking time off would have been hard to explain. But obviously this isn't the right thing for most people.
Very impressed about your lo and aunt with plant!!!

Love to everyone I've missed - I'm going back to RL tonite - my dh is standing by with large amounts of gin. Hurrah to not being pregnant and having to avoid alcohol

Hi,
Thankyou to every one for your kind words it does help.
MummyLovesSadie my pg was a little odd, I got big quite quickly as second pregnancy, and I even felt movement from around 5-6 wks, but by about wk 11 I went quite small, I had no bleeding at this point, and I went for my scan when I thought I was about 13 wks. They did the scan and said they thought I was only 9 wks, but there was a heart beat and that was that. I spoke to my midwife from last pg and she was a little surprised as my periods were predictable to the day, so would be strange for me to get dates wrong, And I always mark them down. Any way I had by now not felt anymore movements or if I did it was once every few days, but I then had to get used to idea only 9 wks, having thought I was already over 3mth mark, then when I got to nearly 12wks (new dates) I started getting heavy mucus, which after few days started having blood streaks in it, midwife did swab to make sure no infection, there was none. Then at the weekend had slight aching, which I spoke to mw about and she said just put your feet up. This stopped discomfort, but I think I new something not right and sure enough at 2 in the morning woke up absolutely covered. Husband was really good and we phoned emergency mw number they said just try to have some sleep, but by morning kept fainting so went to casualty and was given drip and taken to hospital where although they said still chance just early bleeding I think it was fairly obvious with all clots etc.
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Hi,
Being a bit dense and I am not sure what some of the initials/abreviations mean. Can anyone help?
I had a blood test to check everything going back on track, and Gp said all fine just some type of cells still there from loss so should have anther test in 6-8wks to make sure all cleared. Has anyone else had this or understand it? I also feel quite bloated alot and uncomfortable if I try to get back into old troussers is this normal? They are not squeezing tight so I know its not just I should up my size but does it just mean my tummy still needs to go down a bit?
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Hi littlebig-if you click on 'useful stuff' at top of page then 'acronyms list' it will give you list of commonly used abbreviations, anything else you are not sure of just yell and someone will be along to answer your questions.

When your GP says you have some some cells left from your mc, it will just be some retained tissue, it may expel itself or you may need a small op done under GA to remove this.
You may find your stomach takes another week or so to go down, as the pregnancy hormones leave your system your uterus will start to shrink back down. I was 12 weeks when i had my mmc and it took approx 2-3 weeks before i was back to my 'normal' size.

My bleeding has now stopped, about 11 days after the miscarriage. I still have sore cramp like pains which seem to be worse when I do any sort of bending. Worried I've got an infection now. I've heard that some women who've miscarried are automatically given antibiotics to stop infection but I wasn't given any, just wondering whether they forgot to give me a prescription or they just assumed i'd be OK? Guess I will have to try and get doctors appointment on Monday though don't hold out much luck.

hi all thank you 4 all your kinds support

im having a ok day today made a bad move tho . went to town to sort wedding stuff and it was baby of the year competition. everyone had pushchairs . i just seemed to be staring at every young mums like i was crazy lady.

hope everyone is ok

Hi Englebert - I certainly didn't get antibiotics and when we phoned NHS diret, they didn't say I should have them either - I think they just keep the for when there is a problem . The cramps you describe don't sound good though - would get an appointment at the dr's and push for an emergency one to make sure you get seen

Kate - sorting wedding stuff sounds pretty exciting! And yes, you are not alone at staring at mums of young babies and pregnant women, I do they same, the world seems to be full of them.

Hope everones had a plesant spring day tioday - we found a pond in our garden that was a lot over grown, this was quite exciting but them I am quite sad. We had to get the kids out to show them what we had found!

yeah get married in may i cant wait now ive had somthing to distract me from crying all day lol

yeah everywhere i went today all these women with babies were following me lol

I think they do it on purpose - stalking us that is! Distractions are good - focus on that lovely wedding imo

yeah i must now it did take a back seat wen i found out i was pg so ive got some catching up to do aswell as winning the lotto to pay for it lol.

i did feel a bit upset wen i kept seeiing em all. them all smiling and happy not good for me anyway i dont want to be this jelous thing .its not me at all xxx

Just having a wee moment. And wanted to say thinking of you all x

littlebellsmum- well the cramps are much better today so I'm hoping I'm on they way back to physical recovery now. Could do without having to go to the doctors and explaining everything, it doesn't seem to get the more times you talk about it.

I hope everyone is doing OK.

hi all

hope everyone is ok thinking of you all

ive really started bleeding this am it nearly two weeks since it started but really bad today maybe this is is im passing it?

im really sick of it all today cant be bothered to do anything

anyone feel the same ?
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Hi Kate, hope you not in too much pain. I would start taking painkillers now if you havent already done so, i started on paracetamol then had to move onto codeine. I wouldnt move too far from your house today. Keep an eye on the bleeding and if you are going through a pad an hour you will need to seek advice. Thinking of you and everyone else. X

the werid thing is im not in any pain just really emotional 2day bloody hormones .

Big hug Kate x x

yeah u 2 thinking of you hope u ok 2 xxxxx

Hiya ladies,

Big hug to all the emotional ones out there today.

I've had quite an up and down weekend too. Finally was able to cry properly when we stayed over at friends last night. Men went out to town, whilst my friend and I stayed in. Was good to be able to talk to my friend and let the guard down.

Today I've been so exhusted and in fruitloop mood! Slept from 3 to 7pm as was so tired, and kept feeling sick. Am still tired now.

Just one of those days I guess.

hi girlies, just caught up with everyone's posts over the weekend.
hugs all round
can't post much, another sad and no-brain day. sorry. x x

anyone found they are eating loads ive found a new liking to haribo and digestive biscuits seems to be the only thing to cheer me up is to eat those and plenty of them . here come the fat bride lol

big hugs to everyone
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Hi, hope everyone is ok today, seems like I haven't posted for a bit but prob only been a couple of days! Have just caught up with the thread.

Had my second/confirmation of non-viable pregnancy scan this morning, which showed the pregnancy sac is still there despite it being day 15 of constant bleeding. Good news was that the yolk sac was there on the last scan and now it is not, so my body has at least made some progress.

I was given the option of continuing to wait, ERPC or medical and really didn't know what to do but decided to book in for medical management (I know the ERPC is ok and many ladies on here have had one but it makes me so squeamish!). Sadly can't get an appointment until a week on Saturday but am on the waiting list for a cancellation this Sat, if someone who's booked in miscarries naturally during this week.

So still in limbo. I told work I would be back tomorrow assuming I got the all clear on today's scan but I didn't, so I don't know what to do. I feel like I shouldn't take any more time off but am in such a weird place at the moment, still bleeding and waiting to pass the sac. I just want my body to get back to normal!

Giggle sorry you're having a sad day. Hope you're just relaxing and it will pass.

kate by the time I go back to work everyone will think I'm pregnant ironically, the size I'll be. Am comfort eating in a big way, my Christmas chocolate stash that usually lasts all year bit the dust last week

Hi all
Alta - good to see you looking on the "bright" side - progress is progress, no matter how depressing your scan results. Can't advise on the ERPC as my body kicked our my LO pretty quickly and completly.

IMO - if you feel you can cope with work, go but if not don't. For me it was a good distraction but this wouldn't be the same for everyone (and probably depends on your job)

And, I agree about the eating theme, my trousers are getting tighter now than when I was pregnant and I just can't face going back to slimming world. But I also can't face buying bigger trousers ( took me 12 months to get back to a size 12 and I'm not leaving again!), so it may be the better of two evils

Kate, Alta & LittleBellsMum I have lived on Mini Eggs and Minstrels for 3 weeks, I'm convinced they are good for me - all that calcium!!
Kate - Haribos? - would that be my fault??? You will be a beautiful bride!!

Alta, I had an ERPC 3 weeks ago, pain free, though I did bleed for about 10 days afterwards. Heavy for 3 days and normal period amount after that. It did kind of give me a day to work towards and decide I would start getting better after that date, if you know what I mean. I was really scared about that anaesthetic, I felt really ridiculous as I'm a nurse and my DH is an anaesthetist!! But it really wasn't anything to worry about, quite relaxing and calm really. I kind of wished they'd put me out for a few months and I'd wake up when the whole emotional bit was over.

Hello all

GG how is your af type bleeding now? I've just spoken to the epu as my so called af stopped after three days. The nurse said it was probably more of the mc coming away rather than af. More waiting then.

I've booked myself in for acupuncture in a week & a half, I've heard loads of really good things about it for post mc ladies who want to get pregnant again. Bit worried what they will say about my alcohol consumption though as I've taken solace in vodka since mc!

Sorry for short post but having a bit of a mooning melancholic day so I don't feel able to cheer others up.