Emmsys angels xxx support for mummies of lost angels part 2 xxxxx

[barbie1]

Hello to everyone coming over from the previous thread and for all the new girls who will sadly be joining us...
You will not find a better bunch of girls to help you through such a hard time, we will get through this with the help of each other xxxx

Thanks for the welcome!
No, you carry on - not insensitive at all!
Im signing off now too but will catch up over the week

Hello justbeme - so sorry to hear of all your mc; six mc sounds like a very rough, tough time indeed so no wonder you're feeling down, anyone would be in your situation. I've just had one mmc so I haven't had any treatments or similar but there are ladies on here who have had 3 mcs, so they will be able to tell you their experiences.

Welcome to our new thread, where you will receive lots of support and advice. I'm also (1)40yrs old too but I still think that there's plenty of time to have another dc. You're bound to be feeling at odds with ttc so soon after mc - maybe wait a few weeks, get yourself back to normal and then think again? There are ladies on here who are waiting ttc (for a variety of reasons) so it's very much a mc and a ttc/nttc thread too.

Hi girls I'm back, ichat is just the best software invented barbie if you do go off to Dubai then you need to see about using this.

justbeme sorry you are here and what you have been thru, I am waiting on my obstetrician appointment after 3 mc's so cannot comment on any treatment yet but hopefully soon I will get some answers.

As for how I met DH...........yes you guessed it alcohol was involved. To cut a long story short first 'met' DH about 6 months before we got together, he was friends with one of my friends bf, I was in my 'lets have some fun' mood and basically disagreed with everything he said to wind him up, it worked and he left later thinking I was probably the most obnoxious person he had met but was too polite to say. Needless to say I found this hilarious and was in another relationship at the time so that was that as they say. Fast forward 6 months and we meet again, again we end up in the same company and DH is thinking nooooooo, anyway we start chatting and we all moved onto a club, he seen me home at the end of the night, I gave him my number (he asked btw) and the 12 years on the rest is history.

Next!!!!!

Evening Ladies! checking in just b4 bed. Here's my update on list... good idea!

barbie age 28 newcastle no children

vm age 25 oxford one ds

mm age 36 glasgow one dd

curlywurlee age 35 greenwich no children

molliemooma ?????

jonesy age 40, Reading, one ds

mermaidspurse*sabs 27 London No children

circularrainbow - age 40, hants, 2 dc

lilac

4ever**Vjay

sausage

bluesatinsash - age 37, Falkirk, 1 DS

scamperT*aspi justbeme

I have had a bloody good laugh reading through the thread since I left it at lunchtime! Loving the escape routes stories - totally made me lol!

And how did I meet dp?.. a little less romantic perhaps - on the internet!!! After marriage ended, dated online as so hard to get out with a 2yr old LO, full time job and no family to babysit for me. Anyway, after a couple of years and a couple of short relationships, met dp and we've been together 2½yrs. He and ds adore eachother which helps! Alcohol did feature in ours too I have to admit as on our 3rd date I had to get pretty well oiled as he's dead shy and wasn't making the moves so dutch courage made me do it instead! Then it was back to mine to make him listen to MY cool music (bluesatin) the whole, yes the WHOLE of the Smashing Pumpkins Siamese Dream album (anyone?)... He slept in the spare room... probably wise..

barbie there's a huge Giraffe opening up in Reading soon... Reading's 25 mins from Paddington on the train too so qt convenient...

justbeme so sorry for your losses - you poor thing. I have only had 2 and feel pretty sorry for myself already. I hope this thread helps you as it's helped me - everyone's been brilliant.

mm Glad you're feeling better today than yesterday - me too. Y'day was horrible, I seemed to cry on and off all day. So up and down!

Dreading 1st day back at work tomorrow. Boss and 2 others know. Just pray they don't offer me sympathy as I will probably cry and would hate to do that at work! Hopefully they'll just act like normal. Will log into MN at wk tho for moral support!

Nite all!

Here's my details;
barbie age 28 newcastle no children

vm* age 25 oxford one ds

mm age 36 glasgow one dd

curlywurlee age 35 greenwich no children

molliemooma ?????

jonesy*mermaidspurse*sabs 27 London No children

circularrainbow - age 40, hants, 2 dc

lilac

4ever**Vjay 31 near Inverness, one ds

sausage

bluesatinsash - age 37, Falkirk, 1 DS

scamperT**aspi

jonesy68 good luck for today...I was the same, totally dreading the first day back to work after MC. However, everyone who knew acted totally normal. Manager was lovely, bought me a nice bunch of tulips, another senior head even gave me a big hug, which was quite sweet! He later went on to tell me his ex-wife suffered 2 mc's.

Keep us updated as to how your day goes...

Morning! So far so good. Been busy since I got here and no one said anything except one quick 'you ok?' and that's all. Phew!

Hardly slept a wink last night so super-tired today. Lots to do tho thank god, so day should fly.

How's everyone?

barbie age 28 newcastle no children
vm age 25 oxford one ds
mm age 36 glasgow one dd
curlywurlee age 35 greenwich no children
molliemooma jonesy age 40, Reading, one ds
mermaidspurse sabs 27 London No children
circularrainbow - age 40, hants, 2 dc
lilac 4ever Vjay 31 nr Inverness, one ds
sausage
bluesatinsash - age 37, Falkirk, 1 DS
scamperT aspi justbeme

Glad your first day back is going well Jonesey.

I went back on a Friday (I work Mon/Wed/Fri) as just wanted to get back into my usual routine and am using the 'spare' day to take DH's birthday off on 21st Nov. As my MC happened slap bang in the middle of my two weeks summer hols I had an extra week added on but just felt I was wallowing and getting worse the longer I was off.

DS moved into his big boy bed in the bigger bedroom last night so the Nursery is earily quiet and empty. Will the rocking chair be used again? God I do hope so.

Hope everyone is having a good day, MondayShmonday...

Hello justbeme and welcome to our lovely thread...

This is just a very quick hello to all you other girls too as I'm on a deadline this week (and am way behind on work because of the all the moping I did last week). Have just had a quick read over the last few pages and have been enjoying the true romance stories!

((VM waves to everyone and goes back to frantic typing and nail biting...))

dear ladies! well I thought I would just catch up during my coffee break as RL had claimed me for a week or so - man do you lot natter - I have drunk 3 coffees and given up getting any work done and its nearly time for the school run!
sabs congrats on meeting your new niece, very proud of you.
barbie what can I say! have read so many posts and am so full of cafeine I will make less sense than usual.boo to the boss and well done for outing vm
hellos to curlywurlee jonesy vjay aspi justbeme and bluesatinsash sorry to meet in times full of tears ladies.
I went back to the gym today but it hurt my whiplash, prime excuse not to go for another month
waves to all

barbie age 28 newcastle no children

vm* age 25 oxford one ds

mm age 36 glasgow one dd

curlywurlee age 35 greenwich no children

molliemooma ?????

jonesy

mermaidspurse 40, Cornwall, 1 ds.

sabs 27 London No children

circularrainbow - age 40, hants, 2 dc

lilac

4ever

Vjay 31 near Inverness, one ds

sausage

bluesatinsash - age 37, Falkirk, 1 DS

scamperT

aspi

Afternoon all and it seems that, on this thread, 40yrs is the new 25yrs!

Well done mermaidspurse on reading through a week's worth of posts! This thread is like housework, you have got to keep on top of it!

Jonesey - hope your first day has been OK, soon be hometime..

blue - yes, that rocking chair will be used again...maybe even sooner than you think..

vm - hope you complete all your work; deadlines are hideous but they are good at focussing the mind! Do you have another job when you are not writing?

I chose to cook myself in the sauna for a change this morning and it was bliss, especially as it has not stopped raining all day long. I also had a steam room too (glutton) and then a swim so I felt better after I'd finished!

circularainbow you are so right, I am doing some housework later and I think I am going to stick a postitnote on everything as I go, 'put the cereal box away' 'why put the lid back on this empty bottle of milk' etc.
cooking yourself in a sauna sounds like the best think to do on a very cold and damp monday and it ould'nt hurt whiplash either would it? might try that instead of the gym

Big hello ladies,

Good to see everyone is well today and it is nice to find out a little more about each other.

circular what a good comparison this thread and housework lol, the only problem is I would much rather catch up with the thread.lol at the escape route story.
jonesey glad your first day back seems to have been going well you will probably need an early night tonight to catch up, that first day back is horrible but we do get thru it.
blue you will be using that rocking chair again, small milestones like ds moving bedroom always bring it home that little bit more.
sabs your manager sounds lovely a lovely man, that always makes it so much easier.
mermaid rl does take over at times I have been finding that out, take care with that whiplash injury so you don't aggravate it any more, at least you have a valid reason not to be going to the gym............mm sits thinking she is fast running out of excuses.
mollie how are doing hun, been missing you on here although you are never to far away when you have a MN stalker.
curlee hope you are good today.
vm hope you are getting some work done with your deadline approaching, looking forward to getting your book actually thought it might have came today but no joy. Hope we don't prove too much of a distraction.
barbie lol at how you met dh.......destiny . Hope you are good today. I will try and see if you are on later for a chat.
Not much new here, dd was off school today (in service day again) been cooking some home made soup together today so looking forward to some later. Back to work tomorrow but not working any nightshifts this week, got a presentation to go to on Thursday so should be an easier week. Big hugs and waves to all anyone I haven't mentioned, take care everyone xxx

Gosh it's taken me ages to catch up!!!
I met my dh when I was 18, at work, he was my supervisor...
Welcome justbeme, sorry you've had to join us, you are in good hands here, we will look after you.
I was thinking yesterday how much you all mean to me (how soppy!), but I don't tell anyone much in rl about it all because I just get are daft comments back, I know they mean well, but it's just easier to say 'I'm Fine' and leave it at that. You guys have helped me so much, so thankyou .

Oooh forgot to mention, the doctor rang me today with the results from my blood coagultion test, my blood is normal, yey!! So I think I have just been very unlucky twice, so third time lucky here I come (after Christmas).

Glad you got good news from the docs, got my fingers crossed really tight for you in the new year vjay, this is going to be such a big year for us all. I so agree with how you feel about the fantastic ladies on here, I don't know how I would have got past the last few months without you all.

Reading back I mean next year will be a big year, doh.

Vjay thats great news..
There quite a few of us who are planning ttc after xmas, our DH's wont know whats hit them
Think its time for a group hug, lol

Evening Girls....! Thnk God today is over! Work done, ds asleep, dp gone to gym.. peace decends... bliss!

Am going to bed shortly due to rubbish sleep last night and big, busy day at wk today. DP was a git tonight too which didn't help. I am cranky for sure but quite frankly I am allowed to be right now!!!

Can't wait for body to settle down so can risk putting cozzie on and going for a swim, sauna, steam etc. Sounds SOOOOOOO good!

Good to hear such optimism from many right now. I am getting there too...

Off for book and bed... happy chatting tonight all! xxx

Hi everyone, glad everyone seems to be in a better place today...
Ive just got home from the gym and im pretty tired so im going to have an early night.

mm we are heading into the city for the day on saturday, if you are about maybe we could grab half an hour or so, ill post my mobile number later, so we can see how it goes, i dont want to put you out, so only if you are about....

Dh got the job in dubai!!! the contract looks good....we are just waiting to see what bp can offer to make us stay but i would say its 99% sure that were are leaving!

Im feeling a little rubbish today, went to the gym but felt really bloated, i really want a proper period because it feels like im just expanding while my insides fill up!
Only a few more weeks until the hospital so i guess ill have to grin and bare it for now xxxx

mermaidspurse where abouts in cornwall are you, im from plymouth so just a stones throw from you!

Hi to all (incl. anyone I haven't said hi to before)
Added my details too...

barbie age 28 newcastle no children

vm age 25 oxford one ds

mm age 36 glasgow one dd

curlywurlee age 35 greenwich no children

molliemooma ?????

jonesy

mermaidspurse 40, Cornwall, 1 ds.

sabs 27 London No children

circularrainbow - age 40, hants, 2 dc

lilac - 31, Devon, 1 dd

4ever

Vjay 31 near Inverness, one ds

sausage

bluesatinsash - age 37, Falkirk, 1 DS

scamperT

aspi

I think I know answer, but helps me to write...anyone go through periods of acceptance (it wasn't meant to be...if it's going to happen,better earlier than right at end..next time maybe will be the right time), then really suddenly all hits again? I missed a bus on way home, and all of a sudden the 'I was pregnant, that was real' feeling hit me. Had to come home and carry on, but then washing dishes finally did it for me - weren't many to do either!

Sometimes I feel really too, like someone physically took my baby away. I'm learning to swim at mo (getting over a phobia so quite hard), but just after I was so angry I thought I can't fail at this too, and I pushed myself and did start to do a few strokes, and now I'm doing really well (ok near a width ). Think I used the anger to channel into doing something. Made me feel better.

On meeting dh, we met as teenagers and so we've known each other for 16 yrs, together for about 11, married for around 4. I fancied him when we first met, then later he was interested but I was with someone else and thought I should try to make that work (not sure why now ), dumped other bloke after about 9mths, and week after started going out with dh (well dp then). Sorry, bit boring, I did propose though, off the spur of the moment too after getting home one day!

lilac devon????? where????? god i miss it!
I know what you mean about acceptance..one day i didnt even think about it until gone 6pm in the evening. Felt so bad, like i had somehow forgotten about the baby other days i catch myself laughing and wonder if that is acceptable behavior for someone who has had a mc....and others like you i just think 'well ok it wasnt my time to be a mummy, next time will though'

Hi Barbie, I'm scared of outing myself here, but I know the Exeter-Plymouth area v. well! I'm biased, but love Devon and Cornwall, love to visit bigger shopping centres too, but don't like driving on busier roads and can't imagine moving away from family.

Evening lilac and barbie, I also feel similar, pragmatic most of the time (not meant to be, natures way) but then I have days when I'm just blue and can't put my finger on why then I remember...

My friend's a midwife and their Dept. hold a ceremony once a year for all the lost babies which allows Mums to grieve together. She's told me before the story of one woman who misscarried years and years ago but still goes along to remember. The verse they read out is "its never nothing, it might be everything but its always something" I think it refers to your grief and how not to belittle it.

Good for you learning to swim lilac. My phobia is snakes but I'll not be stroking one any time soon

Off to bed with the Sunday papers, there's just so much to them!