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emmsys angels xxx support for mummies of lost angels xxx

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EisAHandbagaHolic · 15/09/2008 22:26

hi ladies
well i think its about time we had somewhere where we can all come to reflect on our lost angels and help us to move on towards the future and support eachother through the bumps in the road in the meantime
love and hugs to you all
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xx ei xx

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mm1509 · 29/10/2008 20:22

Let me know if you have any free time and we can see what we can do, I know what you mean about having something to look forward to

VickyJane77 · 29/10/2008 20:24

We will get pregnant and have babies in the next year, that's the way forward.
I'm going to have a glass of red now x

mm1509 · 29/10/2008 20:26

Oh vicky have a glass for me (mm has stuck in work), and we will all have a fantasic 2008 pregnancies and babies all round.

barbie1 · 29/10/2008 20:27

um 09 mm!

VickyJane77 · 29/10/2008 20:29

2 glasses it is, and barbie, one for you too, or can you manage x

mm1509 · 29/10/2008 20:30

I blame the nightshifts.

mm1509 · 29/10/2008 20:32

All this talk of wine and it's not even time for me to have a teabreak , can you not all see how hard I am working atm.

VickyJane77 · 29/10/2008 20:34

DH is on his way home now, so I'm off to open the wine and get him something to eat, will be back on tomorrow sometime, happy posting. x

mm1509 · 29/10/2008 20:36

vicky enjoy hun. xx

barbie1 · 29/10/2008 20:38

have one for me!!!! enjoy vicky, im sat here with the dog snoring on my lap, well his head anyway because he is so big, scared to move in case i wake him, i cant even get up to get myself a drink, so defo one for me!
mm hope you arent working too hard

VickyJane77 · 29/10/2008 20:40

3 glasses it is then, night night x

lilacpink · 29/10/2008 20:40

Hi All,
Barbie - sorry, I logged off after my email so didn't reply. Good luck on Dubai plans(is that where you want to go, or wil be better as you'll be with DH more?)

VJ - I'm like you thinking in my head wait until Xmas (and results), and maybe should wait for longer (I'll be 32 in spring so could wait). But heart says now! I think the fact it could have been now that plays with emotions towards it!

4ever - I found it hard to hear that I had MMC, but you have been through so much, thank you for sharing your experience, it makes me think that you can survive this, and continue, I'm hoping next time for you all is ok.

In long-run I really want 2 dc, so in head think wait, try again, if another miscarriage try again. I try to think ahead this may happen again, but maybe if keep trying it wouldn't too. I was so shocked it did happen as with dd didn't have any major probs and just didn't realise how common this is. I've heard it's 1 in 3 (anyone know for sure?), but it seems for some people they have lots of dcs and no loss, others have fewer dcs, and have more loss! (Not that I want anyone to have loss, just feel awful to hear of repeated loss).

mm - know what you mean about being busy helping, I find it harder when I stop doing things! Hope your work is going ok tonight - and goes quickly too (or is it just me that likes to be busy, but still 'wills on' time at work?)

Few smileys for us all as we deserve them! x

mm1509 · 29/10/2008 20:48

lilac yes there are a lot of stories on here about repeated loss but we are only on here because of the loss we have had so some of the stories at first do not sound positive but go look on the knicker checkers thread on pregnancy and it is full of stories of sucessfull preg after mc. Let the positive stories be our inspiration for all of our good news in 09 (got it right this time, thanks barbie). I'll raise one of vickys glasses of wine to that.

barbie1 · 29/10/2008 20:51

lilac no worries about not replying, im just on here too much

As for dubail, im up for it, i think? tbh i would mean dh working 9 til 5 and not going away, also it means a better life still, ie no house to do up, no retail hours for me, fresh air, and generally another life experience under our belts...I spend so little time at home with my parents due to my working hours that in a way ill probably see them more, due to flying home for longer periods and of course them hoildaying with us.
My main worry is if (fingers crossed) i do have a baby the level of medical care and not having that support network, athough dh insures me that we get private med care and i will probably even come home for the birth and stay a month?
As for your question sadly it is one in three that end up having mc, although that doesnt included the mc people have without knowing, ie chemical....not sure why some people have more? Im sure there is some medical reason hence people being offered medical help after the 3rd one. They told me in hospital that after the 3rd mc something like 76% of women are found to have a problem. You are still young so no rush for you!

barbie1 · 29/10/2008 20:52

life style not still!

lilacpink · 29/10/2008 21:05

mm - you're right, there are others who are on another thread now...give lots of hope

Barbie - Dubai sounds lovely, hope all is ok with rest of plans - maybe dh work will offer private healthcare for lower cost?

I'm on decaff tea at the mo, if I have wine will be straight to sleep, if caffeine be up all night. May go for a hot chocolate though and have just made choc buns, happy 2 share these

barbie1 · 29/10/2008 21:14

ill have one, i still cant move the dog is so cute i dont want to wake him but i have cramp in my leg! um chocolate....i have none in the house

lilacpink · 29/10/2008 21:26

I keep 85% strong dark choc in, find I can eat small chuncks regularly and not eat bigger bars, and choc cake doesn't count as I add brown flour and brown sugar .

I know choc has caffeine, so maybe his explains why I always fancy it with my decaf tea

lilacpink · 29/10/2008 21:27

Off now, leaving choc cakes for Barbie and anyone about

mm1509 · 29/10/2008 21:27

Wine and chocolate hmmmmmmmmm, all my favourites.

barbie I can understand your concerns over healthcare in another country but Dubai is a country that is growing in both status and economics, they are trying to attract people to them so I would imagine that there healthcare would be pretty good. And don't worry too much about the support network you got us!!!!!. No seriously did you say you had a mac, if so use ichat, I use it continually to keep in touch with my family in the states, it is not the same as in person but it is not a bad second.

mm1509 · 29/10/2008 21:28

Good night lilac

barbie1 · 29/10/2008 21:38

night lilac mm yep i have a mac, will look into that, also will invest in skype, i have down loaded it and it gives free calls to any other user.
The first thing i ask dh when he mentioned dubai was wether i would still get mn, as he had said some sites are banned over there... didnt realise he meant porn sites
Its only 4 hours a head so ill be posting at strange times, hopefully though will get you at the start of your shift so we can still talk im going to go to bed now, doctors early in the morning, goodnight hun, sweet dreams xxx

mm1509 · 29/10/2008 21:42

barbie skype is good but if you have a mac ichat is much better but only works mac to mac where as skype works between macs and pcs. Don't you worry about time zones with the shifts I work we will always chat at some time. Good luck tomorrow at the doctors and let us know how you get on. Good night and sweet dreams to you, I'll have to save my dreams until after the school run in the morning xxx

monkeybumsmum · 29/10/2008 22:32

Hi All,

Just popping in quickly to say hello! Can't believe I haven't posted in so long, but RL has been taking over and I haven't had chance to come on the computer...

Hope you're all okay. Managed to scan through the last few posts - mm what is ichat? I have a mac too, but am completely computer illiterate . I just turn it on, type, and if anything goes wrong I call DH.

Barbie Good luck for the morning, I really hope they manage to figure out what's going on, and that you're okay. I too am v impressed with your gym regime. Do you enjoy it? (Have just eaten a delicious raspberry pannacotta so am sitting here feeling rather fat, a little guilty and thinking that maybe I should become a gym bunny too )

4ever I am so sorry for what you've been through - I read your post describing what happened. How terrible for you to not only lose your baby but to have it dragged out like that. Am sending you a big tight hug . You are really brave to tell us what happened, I just hope it helped you a little to be able to share it with us.

vm hope you're doing okay? Think you mentioned that RL is taking over for you too. Surely that's got to be a good thing hasn't it? I found myself telling a friend today that life goes on, and it does, doesn't it. You never forget, but you have to keep on marching forward.

I just heard from a close friend of mine who moved to the States last year. We were thrilled when we found out that we were both pg and due on the same date, but now it's just her with the bump. I told her not to hold back on telling me stuff about the baby, but goodness me it's tough .

On a positive note, I got dh home today (I love these halloween smileys!!!!) He's been trekking in Nepal with his dad, but they were airlifted down from a mountain as his dad got altitude sickness. I cried when I collected him, was such a relief to have him home safe and sound, and ds is so happy too! Barbie I so hope your dh comes home before Christmas - is horrible to have them away, but especially so for you coz it's for so long...

Have to go and join my sleeping boys now as am knackered, but I'll try to come on tomorrow and check to see if there's any news...

Love to all x

mm1509 · 29/10/2008 23:17

A big hello again to mbm you have been missed. Glad to hear that DH is now back but that must have been a worry about his dad, glad they are both home safe and sound. How brave of you with the news from your friends preg, it must be so hard to be both happy for her and of course sad for what has happened, you reaction is one that shows you really are a true friend to her and your time will come hun.
As for ichat, it is basically video calls thru your mac, it is like skype only better quality as it has only been setup for macs and the best bit it is absolutely free!!!!. Check out the apple page and do a search, I think you download the software, setup your account and then you are good to go. I got mine setup for me but it did look pretty easy. Fantastic when you have family living some distance away, dd loves talking to her cousins in the states.