emmsys angels xxx support for mummies of lost angels xxx

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hi ladies
well i think its about time we had somewhere where we can all come to reflect on our lost angels and help us to move on towards the future and support eachother through the bumps in the road in the meantime
love and hugs to you all
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xx ei xx

I'm looking forward to 2009 too, lets hope it's good for all of us x

I'll drink to that girls, I am both dreading and looking forward to new year, relief to see out the old year and to look to the future even if it is still the unknown.

barbie and VJ it's hard enough dealing with mc but even harder still when you don't have the support network round you. I did this with my 1st mc, didn't tell anyone, thought we could cope alone and didn't want to ruin everyone elses Christmas. It was so much harder and it all came out in the end but I have found talking about it helps enormously, but then again I didn't have you lovely girls on here to blow off steam with. The circumstances you are both in will have contributed to how you are feeling but you are both so strong and will make it thru this.

Barbie I 'work' for a semiconductor (kind of electronics) company and work shifts 4 on 4 off, not busy atm so plenty time to chat to you all today. Drives me crazy tbh.

villagemum to hear you are feeling down today, it sounds like a lot has hit you emotionally in the last week and making the decision to wait a month before ttc has brought a lot to the surface. For what it's worth I think it is the right decision and this will stand you well for the future. Keep chatting if you are finding it helps, get it all out, you know that's what we are here for.xxx

sabs1981 it will affect you hearing about your SIL, you are allowed to be both happy and sad especially when all the emotions are still so raw, take care.

in order to lightnen the mood i have had some good news....hubbys ship will be handed over to another company on the 5th of december (bp make ships for themselves and then after 3 years sell them on to another company) so hubby will in fact have the choice to wether he comes home then or gets transferred to another ship...doesnt take a scientist to work out which he will choose Its still a little touch and go to wether bp will kkep this handover date or postpone until after xmas, but heres hoping ......

Oh and i have been painting the bathoom and my dog decided to come and lean against the wall ihad just done, so now he looks like a chocolate lab in disguise just in time for holloween

mm im going to find out where my family live and see how far it is from you! keep up the good work!

Barbie Sorry I wasn't around to add support last night, really hope you are feeling a little better today? I really feel for you as you not only dont' have DH but you are away from friends and family too (well apart from us of course ) Sending you a huge hug x
VM & Vicky Sorry you are both having down days today, unfortnately they don't go away completely for a while yet, but I'm sure you know that. It is such a hard process healing after m/c as there are constant reminders EVERYWHERE! Our own bodies are the worst reminder as they are built to reproduce, our whole being is a cycle all the time reminding us each bloody month!
MM Sounds like you've got your plate full hun, just remember to book yourself some quality "me" time
Sabs You are allowed to feel upset about your SIL it's only natural, my SIl (the same one who's pg again) gave birth in March, which was 2 mths after 1st m/c and I fell apart spectacularly, v embarassing, but couldn't help the way I reacted. Everyone was understanding and supportive, SIL especially.
Vicky Bring on 2009, and like mm said I'll raise a drink (or bottle) to that!

Mollie waves to everyone else

barbie fingers and toes crossed for you that dh will be home for christmas, things could be starting to look up. I live in East Kilbride which is about 10 miles outside Glasgow city centre.

mollie "me time" what is that lol, will book some for Thurs when I finish my shifts this week, that sounds so long away!!!!!! Btw you are so right about the reminders everywhere, no matter how hard you try they hit you full slap on the face when you least expect it, I find going to the local shopping centre the worst, prams and babies everywhere.

barbie lol at your halloween chocolate dog

Barbie Fantastic news, will keep everything crossed there are no delays!
MM Promise me you won't cancel your "me" time on Thursday, promise??

Also forgot to mention AF is here, hurray! Never thought I'd be so pleased to see TEW but this time I am

m0llie im fine now thanks just very very tired after a long week....loved the lie in even if i was awake and not sleeping! any news on af for you....42 days since mc and no af for me still, i bet the witch turns up on halloween!

crossed posts!!! barbie is running around the room, followed closely by the lab who thinks its a game to celebrate mollies af!!! Well done mollie...

Promise mollie honest, mumsnet for me on Thurs..........or maybe a little retail therapy!!!!!!

HURRAY Mollie just seen that AF has made an appearance finally. Smiles at barbei running round the room being chased by a chocolate dog

sorry barbie typo, mm slaps wrist....

barbie I have wonderful pictures in my head of you running round followed by the paint covered lab! Hee Hee!
Thanks girls, you sound as relieved as I was after waiting nearly 11 weeks! Mind you DH is regretting it I have been soooo evil I just send him to the pub to get out of my way or we will seriously fall out

brilliant excuse to put your feet up with a huge bar of chocolate! sod the diet that can start next week...

Oh well if you insist

Chocolate dogall round, yeee heee, diet

Yum enjoying this chocolate

vm wondering how you are feeling hun, hope you have felt better as the day went on.

mm im here too, what are we like???? i was just thinking about vm too....im watching monster in law, reminding me how my monster mother in law were in the v beginning of mine and hubby's relationship!

mm i think its time you were to post some pictures on your profile, how else am i going to recognize you when we meet?

You are right will sort some out on my days off later in the week. How are you doing hun, you will be feeling upbeat with the news about dh. I daren't watch monster in law in case I enjoy it way too much in front of DH, too many home truths may ring true.

lol! im feeling soooo much better today...i just get so tired sometimes and it makes me run down, sad and just a bit low. I think the whole dog walking thing hasnt helped..In order to be in work on time i have to get up at 6.30 and be in the park by 7am and now the clocks have gone back its going to be dark!! doesnt matter either way, if i walk him when i get home it will be dark and then no time for the gym still the first couple of weeks that dh is away so im still finding a routine!
Apart from that i have everything crossed that dh will be home for christmas, things will start to look up for all of us soon enough.
I was thinking while in the bath (as you do!) that out of all the sadness from mc at least it has lead me to you girls, so im trying to look for the positives in everything from now on!

That's the way to go, tbh at times I really struggle and question what good can come out of what has happened but then like you say we wouldn't all have connected as we have. I don't know if it makes sense but I need to believe something good can come from situations and that we just don't know the bigger picture yet, this time I have/ am really struggling with this idea but if us all 'meeting' is the positive then I can live with that.
Glad you are feeling better today, you have been so strong coping with what you have while dh is away. What you have done takes guts, you haven't crumbled or fell to pieces you have found a way and got on with it, that takes inner strength and you have got it girl. You will find your routine just in time for dh to be home to mess is all up again, I really hope he is home for christmas you both deserve a great christmas together.

i believe that something positive must come out of any bad situation or else how/ will you ever move forward, there just has to be something better waiting just around the corner or life as we know it will just come to a grinding halt. If there isnt something to look forward too then there isnt any point in getting out of bed in the morning, i get out of bed each morning hoping that something will happen to help me regain some of the joy, spirit, laughter, warmth that i have lost lately. Even if i regain a tiny bit at a time, then thats my positive for the day!

I just know that 09 will bring all of us more positives, ok not all of us will get a bfp or give birth but will will all be stronger and wiser and more in control of our raw emotions. I would just settle for that right now

I have been starting to think about christmas and new year the last couple of days. I think it means I am looking forward but I always see new year as a milestone, marker and I am looking forward to seeing this year out tbh. My first mc was on 16th Dec last year and only having dd got us thru christmas, I remember having a few tears at new year and dh and I both saying that we were glad to see that year out and looking forward to 08. I can't believe we will be doing it again this year but we need to look forward or else you never move on. I always get a bit melancholy during the festive period, I think I am just feeling like this a little earlier this year.