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hi ladies
well i think its about time we had somewhere where we can all come to reflect on our lost angels and help us to move on towards the future and support eachother through the bumps in the road in the meantime
love and hugs to you all
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Hi sfxmum - lovely to hear from you. I may try putting raspberry leaf tea on my wrinkles next (just joking, all - do not try this at home! )
Enjoy the running! x

laughing is good nevermind the wrinkles and crying helps too

morning all (oops, it's pm already!) Thanks for the encouraging posts. Feeling OK-ish today but tired, drained etc. Hoping the week doesn't drag too much too. I've just dosed up on painkillers again as having some pain when I move or sit, feels like a jarring, maybe just bruised or sthg. Hope your days are going OK too.

Oh girls you do make me laugh, villagemum I am so with you with the wrinkles and spots How did that happen!!!!! Hormones AGAIN.

sfxmum really good to hear from you, sounds like you are keeping busy and getting fitter at the same time, hats off to you.

You are really putting a big smile on my face today, we really do share the same worries, concerns wrinkles, grey hairs, spots and of course sense of humour. Oh it is so good to laugh.

mm - ah yes, I like to think that my spots show how very FERTILE I am. Whereas the wrinkles demonstrate my rich LIFE EXPERIENCE. Dh is lucky to have me, IMHO...

Jemima - it's natural to feel drained in the middle of this; try to get some rest or put your feet up if you can (says the woman who can't get off her laptop!) Take the painkillers too - it's normal to be tender in there right now and they do help. Thinking of you and hoping the days pass quickly for you. xx

villagemum Adopting you attitude at I type and you are right all our DH are so lucky to have such wonderful girls like us. And I am making a point of not checking in the mirror in between posts. Looks like you are having a busy day like me.

jemima sorry I think we crossed posts, don't expect too much from yourself right now. I agree with vilagemum about getting some rest and I hope the week doesn't drag too much for you. I remember when I was waiting for my scan I was counting down the days and they seemed so long. Just remember there are no rules and just do whatever helps you atm. We are here if you need us. mm xxx

I would agree with the no rules jemima you need time to heal and grieve.
I try to get on with things while expecting to have periods of sadness. Usually I think the first AF after mc s a bit of a watershed moment.

about spots and wrinkles, nature likes its jokes I feel

Sorry ladies! Didnt mean to start an age debate! Thanks for making me feel young!Trust me though, AF due and spots a plenty! I dont really suffer but OMG! As for wrinkles, well definatley noticing lots more since all this hoo hah and as for grey...... Well, spotted my first at 21 and been dying my hair ever since! (except when pregnant - what have you all heard about that one?) Avoided it all 3 times so looked great with long grey roots and mismatched hair!

Will have to wait for answer til tomorrow. my sis is visting from her canal boat in the west country, first time seen her since last mc and she's not been very understanding - you know the general foot in mouth comments that make us wanna scream. Anyway - put on my armoury and ready to face her today! Have a good afternoon! xx

I've even had to add spot gel to my beauty daily routine.

mm - well, since I last posted here (about 10 seconds ago, it seems) I've actually FOUND MY OLD TUBE OF NO 7 P&P lying behind the loo, dusted it (the P&P, that is) off, and applied a squirt under each eye. I can really recommend Johnson & Johnson Clean and Clear for spots. ((Cue ad break))

villagemum Sounds good or bad that we are actually discussing spot treatments at our age. Will give it a go, I thought I was sooooooo past this twenty years ago.

4ever Talking about your roots has made me think I should probably give my hairdresser a call. Oh I can just see the mental picture you all must have here wrinkles, spots, grey hair and could probably do with losing a pound or two as well. I'm gonna go eat a just made crispy cake to cheer me up now.

can someone pass some spot cream this way please oh and some of that dye and a crispy cake if there are any left.
Any good tips on the best way of approaching the Dr tomorrow so I can begin to find why/if /how/ etc. Now I have had the required number of mc for them to cart me off to a specialist. I feel guilty (yes v.stupid)for wanting to take this further as I have 7yr old ds and we have had the 'you have DS leave it at that' comments from people. But as beautiful as he is it dos'nt take away the jagged holes does it.
Armour is a good description for couping with comments when you feel fragile.

Hi mermaid don't ever feel guilty for already having DS, we have DD who is the best thing that ever happened to us but we want her to have a sibling and are desperate for another. Yes it does make it easier already having a child but it doesn't stop you from wanting more if that's what you choose, everyones has a different idea of what will make their family complete. And don't spend one minute listening to the comments of others, I have decided to ignore the ones I don't like and only respond to the ones that I feel are helpful. The ironic thing is people actually do mean well. I am seeing my GP on Thursday and plan on asking her where we go from now, I want to go down every avenue possible and want to make that clear. I am lucky that my GP is very approachable so this makes it easier but that shouldn't make a difference you are now entitled to tests to find out possible answers. Villagemum posted before on tests and what to ask for if you look back you will find it, this may help for tomorrow but don't leave until you get what you are entitled to. Sending a virtual crispy cake as we speak (wiping chocolate from my face).

Dear mm yes I thought I had seen a list somewhere will go and look.

Hi mermaidspurse (and mm!) - do use that list if it helps - sorry it's so basic; it's simply what I would ask... I do hope you get answers or at least a sense of control over what happens next, very important I feel. x

As for feeling guilty about wanting more sprogs - don't! I also have a DS, couldn't be lovelier, but I want another! NOW!! Ok, ok, I'm prepared to wait nine months. A childless friend of mine emailed me today with the advice to 'wait until you have healed properly before trying again - six months to a year at least'. Excuse me?? By then I won't just have 'healed', I'll be fossilised! Mc is not an illness, it's just something that happens in nature, and you do cope... This is exactly why Mumsnet is a godsend - only women who have been through it all can really know the emotions, not to mention the physical issues, involved! Much strength to you and GOOD LUCK for the next round! xx

hi there ladies sorry i havent emailed over the weekend just havent been feeling to good um today i went for a scan and nothing was there it was just all empty that was the hardest to see when just last week i had a bubs in there my dr at the epu said i am being refered to the m/c clinic so i am not sure how long that will take,made a little garden for angel on sunday went and got some lovely plants it is very pretty but wish angel was still inside i just keep thinking maybe its a dream but today it hit me with the sacn when thay said thay cant see a gestion sac and also i was looking at the monitor and there was nothing there but a cycst,sorry to go on again ladies but i am thinking its going to be a long journey to find out all the answers much love harm xx

Whoooooo 8 hours in work and you have all posted so much! hello everyone, this will be short tonight as im feeling crap, i think my cold has started again in sympathy for villagemum ! feel bloody awful today, hoe you are all doing so much better even with grey hair and spots! he he....

Found out last night my sister has 100% left her hubby, and was kept awake by vivid horrible dreams of his family doing something nasty to her (weird i know!) and then today the surgeon told us that my dh mum is almost for sure going to lose her sight

Ps n 7 is the arch enemy of estee lauder advanced night repair...boo!

p.p.s if its any concelation i have 3 whole spots, bloated belly, pale skin and a runny nose and i have to work in a beauty hall!!!! oh and no period still

Sorry its all me me me, but im day off tomorrow so will email you all then, take care my lovely ladies xxx

Evening ladies!

Just a very quick one from me - been away for the weekend and only got back late last night, then it was straight into work this morning.... urgh!

Hope you're all okay and I will try to catch up etc over the next couple of days .

Lots of love x

I've just found this thread, just marking it on my threads list, but in the meantime instead of telling you my story (which some of you may know) I'll point you to it.

tinkerbellesmum welcome, tears streaming down my face as i read your story, can see now so ill stop typing! x

tinkerbellesmum Welcome to the thread. I have tears in my eyes reading your story, so so sorry for the little angel you lost, the memory you have of those 3 hrs with Lily-Hope will be yours forever nothing can ever take that away. She was so tiny and perfect and clearly a little fighter. I am glad you found a reason that could be treated but what a terrible way to find this out. Isobel is absolutely gorgeous and you both must be so proud of your little darling. Congrats on the new pregnancy and your story is a true inspiration to us on here after what you have been thru.

barbie Sorry your cold is back, get DH to pamper you with some TLC tonight. You are both having a horrid time atm sorry to hear about your sister and DH mum I was hoping you would get a better outcome on both. I think beauty wise we are all not quite at our best just now, I think some pampering sessions may be called for all of us. You will see I have surpassed myself today with my time on here. Villagemum and I had a really busy day today. Take care hun and hope you get better soon. xxx

mbm good to hear from you, hope you had a good weekend away. Don't be working too hard.

harmony sorry you had a horrible time today. It is so hard when you know it is all gone, you are left feeling empty inside. Hopefully now you have been referred to the mc clinic they will find out some more answers for you and I hope your wait for this is not too long.

I'm sorry I forgot the disclaimer

I don't think I've made so many people cry in one day before!

Thank you MM and Barbie

hi guys.
can i join you?
my name is natalie im 22, i have 2 children a boy and a girl 2 and 1.

i had a miscarrige in july, concieved again straight after, and last monday mc again. this time mmc at 10 weeks baby stopped growing at 6, which i have managed naturally, got a scan in another week to make sure all is clear b4 we can ttc again.
i am reeling this time, i was so sure everything would be ok, i thought there was no way i would mc twice in a row... i mean whats the chances of that??
ok so maybe i was a little naive..

anyway need alot of support, as i have no friends or family around me. i am feeling really numb, and i dont know how im going to get thru the first 12 weeks next time.

thanks guys xx

Oh, Natalie, it's not a question you want to answer! If your first two were healthy and (not being personal here) all your children were from the same father then you should be OK next time.