We had calculated i was around 12 weeks based on my dates. I was told I had had a MMC on Tuesday and I had a MVA to remove what was left yesterday morning.
I knew something was wrong as I had started spotting and bleeding 8 days before which for any lady who is wondering it seemed to start out like a period (brown, then dark red, light pink, brown with bits/tissues in, 2 days of fresh period red, then a strange caramel brown color not typical of a period) the cruel thing is I phoned my hospital and spoke to a midwife but she said it was normal and my baby was doing some "spring cleaning" before getting settled and cosy in there.
I continued to kick up a fuss and that's when they booked me an early reassurance scan at the EPU. At my scan I was told that the baby was measuring way behind and was measuring at 7weeks+4, and that they could only see a collapsed sac with something blurry inside (basically nothing that should typically be seen at that time).
The shock and sadness that you feel stops you from being able to think, listen to, or process anything, after my scan the bleeding had stopped and so I called the next day for someone to explain my options again as I felt it wasn't going to come out on its own.
I decided to go with an MVA as the procedure is the fastest in terms of health recovery, and they said I wouldnt need to go back there again after it was done. Once I knew my baby had died I just wanted to get everything removed and back to normal as quickly as possible. I don't know if this is typical for the NHS but at my hospital they only book MVAS for Tuesdays and Thursdays so I took a Thursday slot.
I don't know if I was particularly unlucky but I can safely say it was the worse experience of my life. I was the first appointment of the day, they ask you to get there an hour early as you need to have pain killers and the drug dissolved in your cheeks that opens up the cervix. My doctor doing the procedure was late to start at 9am and my procedure didn't start til 10:20 and the drug kicks in quickly so I had 1 hour 20 of heavy, gushing bleeding which was horrific as I bled through every pad and all of my clothes again and again as everything is obviously doing what it's supposed to do because of the drug. During the MVA the nurse was very nice to me and you get gas and air, I'm unsure if I had a bad reaction to the local anaesthetic, the gas and air or the mixture of the two but ive never experienced what I did in that room. I completely hallucinated and it was like everyone was repeating what they were saying again and again, I felt like I was in a version of hell and felt I'd been stuck in that room for days. The procedure went on for almost an hour but was supposed to take only 15 minutes, the man doing my procedure was a trainee and he had another doctor with him I don't know if this is why it took longer but I was completely out of it but not in a good way as I hallucinated so much and felt everything. Afterwards it took me a while to get back to normal and I felt horrendous shaking, cold and sick.
Now I want to say despite my experience I was extremely well cared for by all of the staff and they explained I felt like I had been there for days due to the gas and air, and despite my mind making me feel what I did I had seemed calm during the procedure and everything went well with no complications. The mind is such a powerful thing and I still believe I was stuck in that room for days.
After I continued to heavy bleed but later on in the evening it turned lighter to pink blood and this morning much of the same as if it's stopping already.
They say you can go back to work after 48 hours but please just take the weeks sick note, you will absolutely need time to come to terms with this.