Support thread for those experiencing or recently experienced a MC/MMC - Thread 6. ALL welcome!

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If you’re going through this, you’re not alone. I’ll post some links to support organisations shortly, but feel free to post, or just read, whatever you need.

@ChloeN thank you so much. It’s the only thing I can think of. The lines are definitely lighter this morning, and obviously if I am/was pregnant they should be getting darker. I will test in a few more days but I believe it’s not a positive this time round xx

@Sophiey11 its just crap isn’t it especially after everything that’s happened😔

@Tawny2022 hi, I had headaches alot too but they've stopped now, put it down to the stress of it all and hormones! Hope you get better soon!

I was doing okay until I just got a message from my GP surgery/midwife stating that my next midwife appointment hasn't been booked in so they've made an appointment!! Yet it's on my notes TWICE that I've had a miscarriage and she would have had to have read my notes to get my contact details 😭

Think I'm about to have my first period 😞 since mmc. Had light pink when I wiped earlier but nothing since. However, that's not what I usually have when I have a period, can periods change after miscarriage or pregnancy?

@Brokenpancreas94 thanks for replying :) my headaches have stopped now.

re. Periods I would imagine everything is a bit off kilter so I wouldn’t be suprised at a change like that.

@Brokenpancreas94 hey lovely, sorry to hear your periods arrived! Mine defo were different, they were much heavier than before! I’ve had 3 now and they’re back to normal xx

@Brokenpancreas94 i hopped on here this evening to ask the exact same thing. Just over a week ago I had faint lines on HPT. Over time they have got fainter and fainter to the point there is now nothing there at all. I am guessing this was left over hormones.
I was due on today, and this morning I have had some red bleeding which has been pretty much it all day. The lightest period I have ever had. Just wondering if anyones periods were this light after their MMC? I believe I had a period 4 weeks ago which was crazy heavy and I passed a load of clots. Just seems unusual and not sure what to expect xx

@Sophiey11 I didn’t spot the first 2 periods but this month I did! I do think it’s normal to have lighter bleeding before it gets going! Xx

Thank you @ChloeN i have a tiny bit of bleeding in the morning and then that seems to be it for the rest of the day. Never thought I would actually want a heavy period for peace of mind lol xx

@Sophiey11 fustrating isn’t it, when your know you’re out for the cycle you just want to have AF and start again xx

@ChloeN definitely! Me and my husband were really lucky getting pregnant the last time no tracked my cycle and ovulation on an app and caught first time. Since my MMC I have been using ovulation tests and they’ve been negative nearly every time, or just slightly darker and not quite positive. I certainly don’t think we’ll be as lucky this time round which I think is why I’m so anxious about not having a ‘proper’ period xx

@Sophiey11 yes I was the same we only did it once in the fw so I was shocked it happened! What kind of number did you get on the darker ones if you used Premom? I thought I’d be pregnant again by now never imagined I’d still by trying xxx

@ChloeN the ones I’ve been using are MomMed. 0.5 seemed the closest I have got to a positive. I’ve added a photo of that helps xx

@Sophiey11 are you just testing once a day? Mine surges so fast I would miss it if I did only once xx

@ChloeN yes I test once every day but often forget my phone to put it on the app anyway. Do you think I should start doing it twice after this period as I really want to get pregnant this month :( xx

@Sophiey11 I would or just dtd every other day in your fertile window if you don’t want the pressure! if I’m tracking I do once a day until about cd13 then 2 if not 3 a day from then. In the morning I could get 0.1 and by the afternoon it shoot’s up! I thought I would defo concieve if I did it on the right days and it still didn’t happen so I’ve decided to have a month off tracking instead! Xxx

@ChloeN thanks for the advice. I will definitely try this. I am exactly the same. Last time I just used the fertile window on my app and made sure we BD every other day and I caught straight away. However that hasn’t worked so far so I will try and track more accurately after this period. Such stressful times xx

@Sophiey11 awful isn’t it! I hope it happens for us both soon🤞🏻xxx

Thanks @ChloeN you too! I just had my blood results back and my HCG is still 3. I know this is really low but I thought I would have been back to 0 by now. The doctor did say I can still get pregnant with it in my system though and that the light period is nothing to worry about xx

Hi ladies, diagnosed with a MMC at 7+4 on Tuesday. Took the tablets this morning to bring on bleeding etc. I have an almost 2 year old and had to take fertility drugs to induce ovulation for both previous pregnancies. The drugs make me feel like crap (kindof like pregnancy actually but not quite as bad). People around me are trying to reassure me - you'll go again etc. but im really not sure I can face it. Has anyone else felt like that? We went back and forth on having a second anyway so I don't think we'll feel like our family is incomplete? Sorry for the rambly post, just a bit all over the place...

@TrulyMiss i hope you’re ok, sorry you’re going through this. I think what you’re feeling is pretty normal, but maybe don’t make any big decisions just yet while you’re in the middle of all the trauma. Give yourselves some time to deal with this first, then think about whether or not you want to try again at some point.

You may well decide that actually yes, you’re done and the one you’ve got (plus knowing you gave it a try and it just didn’t work out) is enough for you as a family. Equally with a bit of time and distance from this loss you might feel like you want to give it another go. Whatever you choose to do as a couple, it’s nobody else’s business.

Hi ladies. Me again…i’m just wondering how you all manage day to day with all this going on? Today I’m really struggling. I have suffered with anxiety for a number of years (I’m 28) but the last few months it’s been horrendous. Since my MMC I wake up every day panicking. Scared I’ll never get pregnant again, or I’ll keep miscarrying etc. I’m tracking my ovulation twice a day now and this morning the line is so so light. So I think that’s what’s set me off. But just wondering how you all stay positive throughout this :( thanks xx

Hi @Sophiey11 I just wanted to say I can totally relate.
I have also previously suffered with anxiety - unfortunately I have had 2MMC in quick succession and it has sent it through the roof. I totally relate to waking up feeling panicked already, worrying about conceiving/it happening again, whether and what testing I should do now, falling down Google holes trying to find answers and feeling anxious even if I’m not consciously thinking about it.
I do see a therapist and I have also started taking medication, because it really was impacting my day to day functioning and I felt like my anxiety was spiralling, not getting better. I can’t say either of these things have cured it as ultimately we can’t control what is going to happen in the future, which sounds like the source of your worry too, but I’m hopeful that they will help take the edge off and bring me to a point where I can function a bit better again even though the anxiety won’t totally go away.
so more to say that I totally relate - it’s like it’s flicked an anxiety switch to on, about everything beyond just the MMCs. You’re not alone and I’m not sure how long ago this was for you but, as I keep being reminded, it’s also a very normal reaction. I hope you find something that helps give you a break, even for a while. It’s so hard x

Just wanted to drop in and share my recent experiences in case it's helpful for anyone else. After having a MMC and surgery in the summer I started to have random bleeds in between periods. I put off seeking help for a while as they sort of suggest you can expect your vagina to be the wild west for months after a miscarriage. Finally got an US in October and they detected some material that had remained in my uterus despite the return of periods - this is quite unusual but it goes to show it can happen and if it does, the docs will want to know about it.

So really this is just to let anyone who's continued to have non-period bleeding more than a month after, do get in to see your doctor and get a referral to get checked out. Thankfully in my case it cleared itself up eventually without needing more intervention, but I was so glad I was under the care of doctors who understood (and were also really kind).

@Sophiey11 it is very difficult - the anxiety about whether you will get pregnant and then if you do the anxiety about whether the pregnancy will continue. It is hard having little control over things - I saw this phrase this week 'worrying does not take away tomorrow's troubles but it takes away today's peace'. Been thinking about that - reflecting on what I can control and can't control and trying to find some peace within that but it is tricky so definitely relate xx