Support thread for those experiencing or recently experienced a MC/MMC - Thread 6. ALL welcome!

[Sunbird24]

If you’re going through this, you’re not alone. I’ll post some links to support organisations shortly, but feel free to post, or just read, whatever you need.

@tulipsunday glad that bit is over for you, sending strength and positivity for the journey forward

Hi ladies, went ti my epu today to confirm and it was confirmed my baby didn't have a heartbeat no more at it passed at 7+3. I've been booked in for surgical management tomorrow which I'm dreading. They were so lovely and gave us a memory box with lots of lovely little bits in and a Teddy bear. I feel numb right now, don't really feel anything I devastated still but I feel numb. I will update tomorrow when I can in hoping it all goes smoothly so I can start to try move on as much as I could. Thank you for all your kind words ❤️ o hope you are all okay as can be xxxx

@candycrush789 thats thoughtful of them, I’ve never been offered anything like that. Don’t panic about the surgery, it’s good that they’re getting you in quickly as waiting is horrible, but they’ll look after you. Guessing you’ve been told not to eat or drink in the morning because of the anaesthetic, so make sure you take something you like for afterwards.

@Sunbird24 yeah it really made me feel a bit better. I'm not allowed to eat past 2am which is fine as I haven't eaten much since Sunday anyway and not allowed to drink past 6am, but I'm not sure if I'm allowed water? Need to check my peice of paper. Am I wrong for saying I can't wait for it to be over? My body is in limbo and this whole experience has been so so draining

@candycrush789 not at all, after the surgery your hormones will start returning to normal, and it’s easier to deal with not being pregnant when you don’t have all the symptoms!

Think I had occasional tiny sips of water after 6, but nothing more than that, and not in front of the nurse! The cup of tea in recovery was beautiful…

Hey ladies it’s me again. I’m 10 weeks pregnant this time and at risk of miscarriage again. I miscarried at 6 weeks last time.

This morning when I went to work I felt wet and then I went to toilet there was massive gush of blood. I must have bled for two hours and now still spotting about 10 hours later.

Didnt know where to turn so came back to this forum. I have a EPU booked tomorrow. Meantime I still cramping a lot. Last time same thing happened and I miscarried 3 days later.

I’ve had two miscarriages before and just don’t know how I’m going to cope with another.

@Sunbird24 since being pregnant I've gone off tea and makes me feel sick so looking forward to having a tea. Been awake all night dreading it 😔😔 still can't believe it's happening, I can't cry anymore though it's wierd. I feel numb is this normal?

@candycrush789 I can completely relate to the feeling of wanting it to be over. That's exactly how I felt last week. Just couldn't stand the waiting. This week knowing the physical part is mostly done has helped me feel more able to cope.

Hope today goes well. @mooneagle sending you lots of positive thoughts and strength for today.

@tulipsunday I'm in a ward with newborns just round the corner to me what a wonderful feeling not 😔 just done all admission forms and bloods and now waiting. I just want to be able to move on but at the same time, I want my baby

@candycrush789 it is so hard 😞 I feel the same. My husband bless him is trying to be positive and say don't worry etc. we will get to have another one but I am like but I wanted this one - my April baby. From talking to my friends who have sadly gone through this it sounds like there will always be a sadness there but time does heal and make it more bearable. I hope so. Thinking of you today. All here for you.

@tulipsunday thank you! Yeah I don't think we will try ever again, I have a girl and a boy and I think ill leave it as that. Xx

I haven’t posted in this group for a couple of weeks due to the guilt I’ve felt because I’m pregnant again (almost 5 weeks)

I have no children so far and lost a twin pregnancy in April this year. My anxiety is through the roof and I’m nervous for another loss

@Essexgalhere don’t feel guilty, that’s great news! I did the same when I was last pregnant again. I know how worried you’ll be but this is a different pregnancy and could well have a different outcome - plenty do! I think there’s a specific thread for pregnancy after loss in the Pregnancy board that might be good for you?

Back on the ward now, bleeding quite a bit and in a bit of pain. Painkillers aren't touching it, does anyone know how long this lasts, its agony 😔

How are you now @candycrush789?

Hi @Sunbird24 I'm at home now. Tbey didn't want me to go home but id been there since 8am so just wanted too. Cramping more then I thought, mainly in my left side so hoping it goes away soon with the bleeding. I feel a bit better emotionally but a bit empty....😔💔

Hi,

I sadly have just suffered what I believe to be a miscarriage at 5 weeks pregnant with my first child. I am due to go to the early pregnancy unit on Sunday to confirm. We really want to try for a baby again as soon as possible. I know that you can potentially try two weeks after miscarriage, although it is recommended to wait for one period first.

I was wondering if anyone has been given advice on trying this soon after or whether you have been through the process yourself and if everything was okay?

Thank you.

Sorry if this seems a bit insensitive to you ladies please do tell me if it does...I am sure I never want to go through this again. I have my 2 children and I'm just going to focus on them I think. So the question is, could I go to the Dr's and get the pill straight away with in the next couple of days? Or is it best to give myself a period first? I suffer with heavy periods anyway but I'm scared the 1st one is going to be really bad so I wsnt to go on the pill that not only stops you getting pregnant, but stops you from having periods too. If any advice could be given would be lovely thank you, again sorry if this is insensitive xx

@Aks91 Sorry for your loss. I am keen to try again soon as well. Going to wait for first period. This info from Tommy's was quite good.

@candycrush789 hope you are ok today. I was on the progesterone only for two years prior to TTC this baby so have experience of it but sorry don't quite know about how quickly you could start it. Hopefully GP can advise.

@tulipsunday I have no intention of trying again I couldn't go through this again it's so hard. I might ask my gp and see what he advises. I'm OK today I'm a bit sore and tired but the bleeding isn't as bad today which is good thank you for asking. I feel a bit hormonal though so I hope I don't start crying again 😢

Sorry if I wasn't clear - the Tommy's info was for @Aks91.

Completely understand why you wouldn't want to try again @candycrush789 it is such a difficult process. Hopefully you can get some answers soon about when you can start the pill. Glad the bleeding has slowed down. Mine is very light now. Emotions come and go still. Guess may be like this for a while.

Like the idea of a memory box so have ordered a box that I am going to put a few things in. Think it will help me.

@tulipsunday we got given one the day the hospital confirmed it. I've briefly looked in it but I'm not strong enough yet to have a good look. Aching arms is a good charity, I have a Teddy bear the hospital also gave us. Yeah I feel strange at the moment I feel like I'm still stuck in this nightmare 😔 I dont feel like crying at the moment I dont want to cry, I know at some point I will but I don't want to. I feel better now I've had the surgery but as I said it feels bizarre. The bleeding is just like a lighter period now which is good but my bits are a bit sore and I still have occasional cramps.

How do you feel? Physically and emotionally? X

Physically good just a bit of cramping and light bleeding. Been back to work since Tuesday (just from home) which been a good distraction and am managing to do what needs to be done work wise. However, that empty feeling continues and find myself feeling sad. My sister in law is due a few days after what my due date was so that is tough. I am missing messaging her and sharing symptom updates and having this shared excitement between us 😞 hope you are feeling ok @candycrush789 and anyone else who is going through this

@tulipsunday ita horrible isn't it. I miss being pregnant already. Sorry I'm not being rude but my bits hurt did yours? I hope your coping OK emotionally. I've been ok today felt strong until the past hour I've just broken down and now I feel so low 😞 x

Mine don't but I didn't end up having the surgery option so I imagine that is quite common. Perhaps someone else can share their experience? It can just hit you the emotions. I can be ok going about daily life as usual and then I will see something that reminds me and then I feel upset again. Had a glass of wine tonight which tasted nice but then at the same time I didn't enjoy it as I just felt sad that I wasn't pregnant any more and could drink it. Not sure if that even makes sense?! Guess these thoughts are going to come and go.