Support thread for those experiencing or recently experienced a MC/MMC - Thread 5. ALL welcome!

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Feeling proud of myself. Managed to get showered and dressed 2 days on the trot.

@Willow1981 I'm glad lovely.... any better time frame on seeing mum?
My mums heading back abroad next week ( doesn't live here) and even though she's not massively great at helping me ( she doesn't know what to do to help) I'm already feeling anxious x

The boat is in, just waiting to hear they have made it home.

They only live 40 mins away but I have to isolate until I go in to hospital tomorrow.
They don't know why I want to speak to them so I suspect they are having a nice lunch on the way home.
I feel nervous about telling them. I can control my emotions until talking about it. Not even sure how to word it. Crazy as i managed to tell my brother and sister. - did cry though.

Well done @Willow1981, small victories add up. I bet your mum (and probably your dad too!) will just want to hug you tight when you tell them.

DH is on a mission to ensure I am fully hydrated for tomorrow. Pints of squash every hour and a half. He needs to feel he is doing something helpful so I am letting him.

So it's been an eventful evening and I'm now in hospital. I started bleeding heavily at about 8.00pm
Called the hospital and they wanted me in.
Spent about 4 hours in a&e and now on a ward overnight.

Sorry to hear that @Willow1981 especially with a long A&E wait. How is it on the ward? Hopefully very good care there x

@Willow1981 oh no, really sorry 😞
I hope you're on a ward away from anything triggering but it's best that you're under obs.
I had to do the same and I did feel better for someone to be keeping an eye on me instead of me having to decipher what was and wasn't serious on top of everything else. I hope you're get the care you really need X

I have been put in a side room alone, which is nice.
Of course scan is back in EPAC so there's that.

Glad they are taking care of you @willow1981 and you have a side room. When that happened to me, they had me on an IV drip and took 5 vials of blood over a few hours.

Also because my bleed happened in a&e, I managed to get some scrub trousers to wear going home and some free hospital pants because mine were ruined. They should also give you some large thick pads to wear while you wait for the bleed to stop.

Sending lots of love your way

I have been discharged to recover at home. I have some MASSIVE pads and expect these to be more blood in the next few days.
Hospital were pretty good to me and confirmed only blood left to pass so probably don't need surgical management unless it stalls.

Hello all, it's really horrible to be joining this thread and I'm so sorry to all in here already. I found out last week that there had been no growth from my scan 10 days before and so mmc was confirmed. I had an appointment this morning to discuss my options and I've decided to go back in tomorrow morning to have the pessary inserted. And now I'm nervous about what it's going to be like. Does anyone have any advice in terms of what helped them, what supplies I need etc? I'm probably overthinking it all but I just want to make sure I'm prepared.

@Cruz86 I'm so sorry....

I had all the meds the hospital provided for pain relief ready and read what I could take and when.
Don't wait for pains to get bad, I took mine too late as I thought I was coping.
Big pads or even incontinence knickers... water by you.
loose warm clothing. Hot water bottle, plenty of stuff ready to watch in bed, sleep when ever you can ( always helped me with the pain and grief) and just be kind to yourself ok? If u need a cry, let it be x
Also don't get up and do chores just because u feel ok and you're home. Tiredness will catch up on you and your body needs the rest.

Hi all,

Sorry I’ve been AWOL, haven’t really had much to say.

I’ve been feeling really good and getting back to normal but today I feel really sad and I’m not sure why - maybe it’s because I am approaching what should have been 12 weeks so I should have been having my 12 week scan any day and getting excited to tell everyone.

I keep thinking about how even if I get pregnant again now it won’t be the same. I won’t be excited because I know what can go wrong. And I was so excited for a June baby, it was so perfect - I always wanted a summer baby, my wedding anniversary is June too (just a few days before what would have been my due date) so I feel that’s spoiled now too.

This journey is such an emotional rollercoaster. I just want to be pregnant, I just want my baby.

I think my period is coming too, which is a good thing I guess but the hormones probably aren’t helping my mental state!

Not sure what the point of my post is, just needed somewhere to write how I’m feeling.

Hope everyone else is doing better

@Cruz86I would also recommend having your plan for a trip to the hospital ready and a bag packed just in case. I was not completely prepared for that and DH had to pack while I sat on the toilet.
Ambulance was not an option as they were so busy.

Can I join? Had my second miscarriage this year confirmed today after a month of spotting. Baby kept growing and had a heartbeat but not enough growth and then the heart stopped today. I have to be really honest and say it feel like a bit of relief. I've been bleeding since Halloween on and off and I guess following my MMC at the start of September knew where it was all heading.

I've to go in for medical management tomorrow but not allowed to stay in hospital due to covid so getting the tablets then being sent home which terrifies me - I was supposed to having a MVA but a booking issue has meant I'd need to wait another week and a half and I just can't face that.

I should be nine weeks but baby is measuring 6.5. what's this going to be like? I had a 48 hour labour ending in a trial of forceps with my DD so I'm guessing not nearly as bad as that but are we talking early labour pains? Puddles of blood? Or just a heavy period? Anyone have any insight?

Things I packed for my second trip to A&E (didn’t take anything first time, parents had to pack me a bag and drop it off next morning without visiting me):
Phone charger
Book
Small washbag (usual overnight type stuff)
Complete change of clothes
Extra pads
Snack/drink

I got a little side room to myself both times which helped. It was two different hospitals, but the first time round I think I was off a dementia ward, and I had a tv which was good. Second time I was sent up to a gynae ward, no pregnant women or babies, also no tv though so I was glad of the book and some games on my phone.

@Onebabyandamadcat everyone is different I guess but for me there was a lot of blood. And a lot of pain. Can't compare to labour as this was to have been our first.
Get big BIG pads. And be prepared that they won't be enough. I bled though 2 pads, a pair of thick joggers and a bath towel. In a matter of minutes whilst waiting in A&E last night.

Puppy training pads or similar may be an idea. I'm sitting on one now as I don't want to suddenly bleed again on my sofa.

@willow81 the hospital had some puppy training pads sitting on the bed when I was in, at first I was a bit confused but it really made sense when I was bleeding through pads/having the investigation by the gyno.

@JuniperAndTonic I feel I'm in a similar space, mostly feeling ok but some surprise sad moments too. Although this weekend I hung out with some guy mates, and was nice because no one asked about my miscarriage or shared their experiences. It was all very "normal" (even if I was nervously jabbering away worried someone would ask a serious question and not just silly banter). While I love my female pals to death for their ongoing support, getting to forget about it for an hour or two was also exactly what was needed at the point I'm at now.

Oh wow, thank you all so much for your advice. I have some tena ladies, some thick pads and I do think I have some old puppy pads in my cupboard actually. I'm not even sure I'll make it to my appointment tomorrow morning, the spotting is less dischargy and more just bloody now. At what point did you ring a&e? Just if it was unbearable pain or lots and lots of bleeding? And did they do much for you? I'm so sorry you had to go through that.

And did yours start as spotting or a gush of blood?

I went as soon as the bleeding got to more than a pad every 40 mins. Never really had too much pain though.

Ah ok thank you. Luckily I have puppy pads from potty training my DD. I'll pick up bigger pads and get some towels ready.